If I asked you how many projects you have going on right now, what would your number be?
If I asked you how many different things you feel responsible for right now, what would your number be?
We all have things going on, things we are responsible for…work/business, family, sports, house, parents … the list goes on, right? Maybe you feel obligated or committed and don’t know if you can off-load or how to delegate or even renegotiate terms of a contract. All juicy topics for blog posts for another day 🙂
Here’s the question that I’m really curious about: are YOU on your list? Do you consider yourself as one of your ‘projects’? Do you consider yourself something you are responsible for?
If your answers are yes, yes and yes – then congratulations for all your self-care and the ways you prioritize you into your day!
If your answer is no to any of my questions – or no, not consistently – or no, not all the time, then listen up!
Here’s what I want you to know… you MUST have wellness in order to do the rest of what you want. If there is an imbalance here, that is going to spill over into other areas of your life.
You may have heard it said before…“If you don’t have health, you have nothing.” There’s validity to this. Because if you are ill then your health becomes #1 urgent and an important priority. When health becomes urgent and important everything and everyone else becomes secondary. And being honest, when you try to care for a toddler and you don’t feel well, you aren’t able to be your best self, right?
So, this means it is IMPERATIVE that YOU are on your priority list. Self-care is a way of honoring all the other priorities in your life by ‘keeping it’ part of your daily, weekly, monthly scheduled, consistent appointments in your life. The truth is if you don’t want your own health and wellness to BECOME your urgent and important priority, it must be given consistent attention.
This wasn’t always the case for me. I was consistently inconsistent about my own self-care. When I was in high school and college, I ate whatever I wanted and didn’t have a set scheduled activity routine. On the outside, this didn’t seem to be an issue for me because I was young and active enough and didn’t gain weight. However, as I got older, it became apparent that I needed to be intentional about my own self-care. Some subtle but clear changes happened that raised my awareness that something had to change; I had headaches more often than I was willing to deal with, my clothes were getting tighter and yes, I had to buy a larger size, I felt sluggish, admittedly a little cranky and felt off my game mentally. What I was doing – or clearly not doing – wasn’t work for me! It was obvious if I didn’t like the way I was feeling that I was the one to move myself to the top of my priority list…so I could be and feel my best in everything else that I was doing.
Shifting from how I saw myself, what aches and pains and other changes that I was willing to tolerate to being intentional about feeling good more often than not and being consistent in my physical activity hasn’t been as easy as flipping a light switch. But I will tell you this…I am committed to taking consistent care of myself so I can be the best that I am here on this earth to be. I realize that taking care of myself in this way isn’t selfish and it isn’t at the expense or neglect of others or being less committed to my work and other responsibilities. It’s actually necessary that I am a priority for myself so I am at my best and then able to serve others and do the work that I do in the highest level that I can.
So how does this topic of self-care and making yourself your #1 translate for YOU? What’s important to YOU to keep yourself healthy and well? How will you make the changes you need to support yourself in being your #1?
To explore more of what this means for you, I invite you to send me a message.
Create Your Life! Dream Acceleration™ Coach & Executive Support Team Member