In today’s “Tips from Tara” episode, I share something that took me years to come to terms with:
I am NOT an Independent Woman. And, you know what? Neither are you.
Gender really isn’t important here so let me re-state:
I am NOT an Independent Person — and, dare I say, neither are YOU.
If you’re thinking, “Hey, you don’t know me! How can you say that, Tara? ‘Independent’ is my middle name!”
Trust me, I get it. >>>> Historically, I’ve prided myself on being independent. I’m a solopreneur. I’ve traveled internationally, alone. I’ve owned property, by myself. I’ve been a landlord – actually I prefer “landlordess”. 🙂 Either way, I did it by myself.
I could go on and on with examples of how I rationalized my sense of pride and striving for independence.
But the Truth is I’m NOT independent. I’m profoundly INTER-dependent — and so are you.
To give you an example of what I mean here… a client of mine, an accomplished athlete, said something along the lines of, “I’m so tired of doing everything by myself.” And who can’t relate to that feeling?
I asked her to give me and example of something she does by herself and she said, “Marathons.”
I challenged her.
“Really? Who made your sneakers? Are there water stations along your route? Who set those up? Are there people cheering you on as you go? Did you grow all the food that’s fueling your body?”
(You get the idea.)
The truth is we are profoundly interconnected and profoundly interdependent and profoundly supported.
And while feeling capable as an individual is valid and important, if being “independent” is fundamentally built-in to your sense of identity, this may be a belief or a construct that limits you, that keeps you removed from collaboration, anxious or even resentful about needing to do everything by yourself, AND – more than likely pretty gosh-darned tired!
Here’s an alternative to all that …
It is time to breath into the high truth of your inter-dependence. The truth of YOU as an integral part of the whole.
Embracing and appreciating this can create more ease, experience more gratitude and grace, and savor the experience of being supported.
Together we really are so much more.
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This is beautiful, Tara. Thank you!
So glad it spoke to you!
Great post! Once we can see the difference between independent and inter-dependent our whole way of looking at ourselves and life changes.
So true, Barb! It really is a paradigm-shifter.
Hi Tara! I love this perspective on interdependence. It rings true on so many levels. I think more and more about the community of support within and without that we so often forget about, yet its always here for us!
Indeed! And it feels so good to recognize this, doesn’t it? 🙂
Yes, we are beautifully connected to others in every thing we do. Thank you for this reminder, Tara!
My true pleasure, Jill. 🙂
As a woman who was taught how to be independent from a young age (to the extent that, up until this year, I used to cut, haul, split, stack seventeen cord of firewood to heat my home each winter), you’ve shifted my perception. Wow. I love how you remind us that there’s a team of people working behind the scenes to help accomplish what it is we set out to do. Thanks for reminding us that we are truly not alone on our journey.
Impressive! I think what’s so profound about this recognition of interdependence is that it doesn’t in any way diminish what you achieve through your efforts, but it adds to the appreciation through the recognition that we are inherently interconnected through all things. Even cutting, hauling, splitting, and stacking seventeen cords of firewood, is done with the support of many behind you. Thank you so much for your comment. Here’s to the journey of discovery!
Yes! It ADDS to the appreciation to all those who had a role in the elements necessary to get the task completed. I like that – it adds to the appreciation. This is one more way to express gratitude and feel blessed for the ripple effect of another person. What we did yesterday makes a difference to someone else today.
Indeed it does. 🙂 Know that I appreciate you.
It’s true, we are all inner connected. It’s what makes the world go round.