“Are you going to die on the side of the road in an RV?”

I had a very unique experience as a seminar leader at the Florida RV Supershow in Tampa this year. An exchange happened with a woman during the Q&A portion of my Nomadic Living talk. To paint the picture for you, the seminar was an hour long. It began with me giving a 20-minute talk and the remainder of the time was devoted to Q&A. 

On this particular day, a young woman in the audience raised her hand and asked about “exit strategy” and our retirement plan. It was an interesting question, especially given that my speech had been filled with stories and sentiments about how much Carl and I love the nomadic lifestyle and see no end in sight to living this way.

The Q&A exchange with her went like this:

She asked, “What’s your exit strategy? Like, what about retirement? What’s your retirement plan?” This was one of many questions we received during the Q&A. Others asked things like:

==> How do you get your mail?

==> How long do you generally stay in one place, and why?

==> What advice do you have about downsizing?

==> Why did you choose the RV you did?

And many more…  

 (Many of which we answer in my book 10 Things RV Dealerships Don’t Tell You About Nomadic Living.)

Nomadic Living, 2019 Florida RV Supershow

So again, her question was: “What’s your exit strategy? What about retirement? What is your retirement plan?”

It was immediately clear to me her question was much broader and deeper than presented at the surface level. But, so as not to be presumptuous, I began by approaching her question literally.

I replied:

“Good question. I shared earlier that Carl is a remote-working corporate employee. He has a 401k through his company. And for over 14 years now, I’ve been an entrepreneur with my own company. I rolled an old 401k I had from the job I had prior to starting my business, into an IRA, and I contribute to it every year. Does that answer your question?”

She replied:  “No, I mean, when you retire, are you going to buy a house and settle down? What’s your plan for that? I assume you’ll be buying a house and settling down at some point, right?”

“Ah,” I said. “Got it. Ok, so let me start by responding to the energy of your question. I want you to know I so appreciate you asking this. I fully understand that it can be confusing for others to imagine a lifestyle that goes against what’s typical or considered normal. What Carl and I are doing breaks the mold on what’s expected or traditional. So, again, I so appreciate your question and I definitely hear where you’re coming from.”

I continued, “I have owned property in the past, and I have since sold it. As I shared earlier in my speech, Carl and I absolutely love this lifestyle and we see no end in sight to nomadic living. So we don’t currently have any plans to buy property or to live in one place anytime soon.” 

Nomadic Living, 2019 Florida RV Supershow

Prior to the Q & A portion, in my speech I shared how Carl and I had gone about making the decision to let our lease expire, to embark on a “nomadic living experiment”. In the story, I had explained that this left us just 60 days to downsize, get ourselves into an RV, and on the road.

Still responding to her question, I went on to say… “Now, if Carl and I were to decide that we want to return to a house or apartment living, I have no doubt that we could reverse engineer what we’ve done. I’d bet we could even do it in as little as 60 days again. We could sell the RV and get an apartment pretty quickly. Does that answer your question?”

Clearly it didn’t.

She replied: “Are you going to die on the side of a road in an RV?”

Word for word, that was her question.

It’s important to know that throughout the Q & A, people in the audience had been reminding me to please repeat each question before I started answering. It was a big room, 200+ people, and I had the mic.

I repeated the question:

“Am I going to die on the side of the road in an RV?”, I said with a smile.

This got a lot of nervous laughter. I paused for a moment to ground myself before I spoke, and then I said: “Ok. So, I’m really not picking on you. I am fully aware that my lifestyle makes other people feel uncomfortable … It is entirely possible that I will travel and explore for as long as I live and that I may never again live in a house. I don’t know this for sure, and I don’t need to know this now because if something changes, I can always shift things then to adjust. Make sense?”

Seeming somewhat relieved, her reply – I kid you not – was: “Ok, so you WILL settle down at some point and buy a house.”

Slowly … and with a big smile, I said: “Is that what you heard me say?”

The room filled with laughter.  

I reiterated to her that, “As radical and confusing as it may seem, I have discovered for myself that living in one place is not something I need in order to feel grounded and at peace with my life. In fact, I am more “settled” NOW than I have ever been, because I am living the truth of what my heart desires.” This got cheers, and “woot-woot’s” and clapping.

I thanked her for her question and moved on to the next question.

The big lesson here has nothing to do with Nomadic Living and everything to do with human nature and how we tend to respond to things that make us uncomfortable. Sometimes people don’t actually want to hear the answer to a question, even if they are the one asking the question. 

Sometimes we’re just not able to hear and receive the answer, because our own resistance and fear blocks us from hearing it.  We’ve all been guilty of only wanting answers that stay within our comfort zone, answers that keep us feeling safe and help us maintain our current understanding of the world.

I truly applaud her for asking and being willing to be seen and witnessed in a state of genuine scratching-her-head I-just-don’t-get-it confusion.

It’s a vulnerable place to be.

By asking, she bravely put herself in a position to be on the cusp of a potential breakthrough. In this way, confusion is good news — because it sets the stage for a breakthrough and new levels of understanding. I suspect, and I hope, that this was the case for her.

I believe everyone laughed because on some level they could relate to feeling that awkward confusion, and mind-scramble. It was honest. Her confusion was genuine and it was an extraordinary example of something we’re ALL capable of: a deep-seated resistance to changing our thinking.  

Thoughts are things. Ultimately, taking responsibility for your life means taking responsibility for your thoughts. And expanding your thinking, will expand your understanding about other people, about the world, and about what’s possible for you. 

If you want to change something about your life, change your thoughts.  It sounds cliché, I know. But the Truth with a capital “T” is that if you continue to hold onto old limiting beliefs, and hold firm to your comfort zone, then that will be the truth that you live from and create from. 

And truly … the magic happens when you allow yourself to expand into new possibilities and ideas, and when you take aligned action to support this.

Curious and want to be keyed in to what we’ve learned through our Nomadic Living experience? Claim a copy of my book 10 Things RV Dealerships Don’t Tell You About Nomadic Living.  You can download 3 chapters for FREE, or, if you’d like the full book it’s $4.95. 

Also, be sure to poke around my website for more ‘Tips from Tara’ and other resources to help YOU create a life and business you don’t need a vacation from.

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To the journey,

Tara Sage