It’s not your fault, but it IS your responsibility

It’s not your fault, but it IS your responsibility

Real talk.

What you want could be right in front of you, yet wholly invisible to you.

You’ve likely witnessed this, in others: You see what they don’t, all while they miss or dismiss opportunities for themselves that appear to YOU as totally available and accessible.

Sorry to say, it’s not just a THEM problem.

We all have blind spots, but by nature, it’s difficult to see your own. As a coaching colleague and dear friend of mine says, “It’s hard to read the label when you’re in the bottle.” Indeed it is!

What if I told you … that what you want is within arm’s reach.

And what if I told you that what’s holding you back – both from reaching for what you want, even seeing it – is a blind spot that’s not your fault.

The reason it feels so elusive is you have been socially programmed to believe status quo conventions and false constructs, also known as “brules.”

Like a house built on sand, these brules (bullsh*t rules) cause you to sink and to settle.

That’s not going to work, because you are meant to RISE.

Now while it’s not your fault, this doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility. In fact, to see and experience the positive results of this work in your life, your participation is 100% required.

Learn how with just a few shifts – in perception, belief, behavior – your old “imaginary” or “impossible” can quickly become your new reality.

The Brule Breakers Club is your invitation to make these shifts, quickly, joyfully, and with an incredible community of support. We are going to shine a big brilliant light on the brules that are holding you back, and hiding in plain sight.

This is your next evolution.

Don’t give up on your dreams.

Don’t be discouraged. You’re closer than you think.

And by all means — don’t settle!

Join us today!

To your no-vacation-needed life,

 

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Pellegrino message in a bottle

Pellegrino message in a bottle

The year was 2007.

I was leading an in-person group (remember those?) as part of a 6-week program I called The Dream Circle. On this particular day, seated in a circle, I asked everyone to look around the room and silently make note of everything in the room that was red.

A minute or so later, I had them close their eyes and take a breath.

Keeping their eyes closed, I asked them to bring to mind everything in the room that was green.

A few nervous giggles filled the space, per usual. I’d led this exercise many times before, but on this day something especially memorable followed…

After allowing ample time to silently recall what they could of “green”, I invited them to open their eyes and look around to see if there was any green present in the room that they didn’t recall.

Several laughed out loud, pointing at the green Pellegrino bottle that was on the table in the center of the circle … many of whom vividly remembered the red star on that very bottle!

I love this exercise.

It does such a great job of teaching that: we find what we look for.

Tunnel vision doesn’t just prevent us from seeing what we don’t want to see, it also prevents us from seeing and discovering that which we WANT to find, but don’t look for – perhaps because we don’t believe it’s there, or possible for us.

What you want could be right in front of you, yet wholly invisible to you.

The kicker is …

     You can’t create what you can’t see.

     You can’t experience what you can’t imagine.

     And, you find what you look for.

So, what are YOU looking for?

Since you and I are connected, I’m going to venture a guess that whatever it is you are looking for … ultimately, you want a life that feels free, and fun. A life where you thrive – not just somedays, but everyday. A life where you’re no longer waiting to feel accomplished or fulfilled. A life where you’re fully and unapologetically YOU, living in a way that reflects this. Where the truth of your whole, authentic, boundless self is ALIVE and free.

Am I close ?

What if I told you … that what you want is within arm’s reach, just like that Pellegrino bottle was to everyone in that circle.

What if I told you … that what’s holding you back – both from reaching for it, even seeing it – is a blind spot that’s not your fault.

What if I told you … that what seems just out of reach, can quickly become available to you.

What if I told you … that the reason it feels so elusive is you have been socially programmed to believe status quo conventions and false constructs, also known as “brules.”

Like a house built on sand, these brules (bullshit rules) cause you to sink and settle.

You are meant to RISE.

What if I told you … that everything you want is just a few brule-breaking shifts away.

Here’s how it works:

Once you become aware of a previous blind spot, when brules no longer hide in plain sight … you become willing to not only see things differently, you start to show up differently.

When a foundational shift in perception happens for you, your reality changes.

Sometimes, like the Pellegrino bottle example, you come to see what was there all along!

What you previously believed to be impossible or unrealistic, suddenly isn’t.

Reality didn’t change. You did. 

It all begins with just a few shifts – in perception, belief, behavior.

Your old “imaginary” or “impossible” can quickly become your new reality.

The Brule Breakers Club is your invitation to make those shifts, quickly, joyfully, and with an incredible community of support. We are going to shine a big brilliant light on the brules that are holding you back, hiding in plain sight.

This is the compassionate clear-eyed kick in the pants you’ve been waiting for.

This is your next evolution.

Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t settle.

It is time, for you, to LIVE your unique-to-you no-vacation-needed life!

The Brule Breakers Club lifetime membership is going to help you connect the dots so that you can finally have what you want out of life, all within an extraordinary community of support.

We all have our lone ranger tendencies, but this isn’t something to try to do by yourself. Why? Because brule breaking can get confusing – fast. This socially accepted nonsense is baked in to every system, and every habit, and every everything. Assumed to be unquestionably true by many, this only further allows them to go unnoticed and continue to hide in plain sight.

But – once you join The Brule Breakers Club and you see all these baked-in brules, you won’t be able to unsee them. You can break free and make the small shifts that are going to make the biggest difference for you.

For all the juicy details and to join us, click here!

Big love,

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Planning for a big 2022

Planning for a big 2022

Welp, here we are …

2022 is just around the bend.

It’s been an(other) unusual twelve months and I think it’s fair to say, no one has gone unchallenged this year. Yet in the midst of the challenges, we’ve also each been presented with some unique opportunities: to embrace a new kind of rhythm, to make lifestyle adjustments, to find innovative ways to nurture connections, to discover new strategies for how we work, self-care, and create, to name a few…

 

Before the close of each year, I find that doing a Year-in-Review reflection is a valuable exercise and a powerful way to set the stage for the year to come. Doing an annual reflective review is something I not only coach clients to do, but something I do myself.

 

3 powerful Year-in-Review questions to consider:

1.)
What did you accomplish, create, or achieve in this past year? Create a big long list.

2.)
What goals or dreams did NOT come to fruition for you this year? It’s uber important not to ignore or disregard the fact that you didn’t achieve them. By shining light on them you’ll gain clarity and momentum about what you really truly want in the coming year.

3.)
What is your action plan? What will you do differently in the coming year?

 

 

Today I feel inspired to briefly share some of my own 2021 highlights, a few personal goals for 2022, and some exciting ways we can connect in the new year.

 


2021 Tara’tory:

 

  • As an RVer, I’ve been able to enjoy continued domestic travel, rolling across state lines in my Airstream, a.k.a. condo on wheels. My quick travel synopsis from 2021: Winter in New Mexico, New Orleans and Florida in the Spring, Summer in the northeast, and Fall in the Berkshires, Niagra Falls, and Illinois. (Friendly reminder: While many venues are closed, nature is open and she’s beautiful as ever, so get out there and hug a tree or something.)
  • Illinois is where I was when my book launched on Amazon and became a bestseller. The launch and success of The Brules of Life and The Brules of Life Companion Workbook was a definite bright spot in my year, the culmination of a tremendous amount of work and planning. Seeing how well it is being received, hearing how it is touching and inspiring the lives others, is the ultimate repayment.
  • I ran more in 2021. Salsa clubs used to be my sweaty haven, but times have changed. Running has become both a mental health and physical health outlet for me. 5k is a typical distance now, but as I look to 2022, I’ve got a 10k training app tempting/taunting me to go further.
  • Along with the launch of my book and coaching my clients to harness the unique opportunities of this interesting year, countless improvements and updates have been made to my website and offerings, to include a special new free gift, and other gems – all of which are waiting for you at tarasagecoaching.com.
Ok, 2022.

 

My 2022 goals include: increasing readership of my book, start writing my next book, reach some fitness milestones, put out more video content, and light a fire under a creative project I’ve got sitting on the back burner.

 

January is going to be a full month, and includes several exciting opportunities to connect!

January 5: Brule Break-a-thon Livestream! 

Jumpstart the New Year with a different take on resolutions! On January 5th, I am joining forces with community coach, Peter Bowden, for a fun, one-of-a-kind, interactive, livestream event to help you identify the “brules” (bullshit rules) that are holding you back so that YOU make 2022 a joyful, life-enhancing, dream-fulfilling year! It’s going to be a hoot! Subscribe, like, share, and invite your friends!


January 14: Book signing!
I’ll be doing an (outdoor) book signing at Sundog Bookstore in Seaside, FL. This is a fabulous independent bookstore I’ve visited many times, while envisioning the day when my book might be on their shelves. That day is here! If you’re in the area, stop by! 11am – 2pm

 

January 19-23: RV Show! This will be my third year on the seminar stage at the Florida RV Supershow in Tampa, presenting Nomadic Living 101: How to Live Nomadically for a Month, a Season, a Year or Forever. 1pm, daily.So that’s a bit of what’s happening in my world . Let’s start the year off strong together!

 

Are YOU determined to make 2022 different and finally bring those back-burner dreams to life? Are you ready to tell yourself the truth about what you want, refuse beliefs about limitation, fears about worthiness, and lies about what you “can’t” do? If so … claim your seat in The Dream Acceleration Program for all of this and more in the New Year! There are just a few openings, so enroll today.

 

Looking ahead to 2022, I am 100% committed to taking extraordinary care of myself while also giving (you) a lot more. It feels wonderful to know how deeply compatible these intentions are.

 

Onward and upward!

 

Here’s to a happy healthy dream-fulfilling New Year,
Tara Sage
PS – Seriously, if you have a fire in your belly and are determined to make this year different and finally bring your dreams to life, register now for The Dream Acceleration Program and let’s do this together. I can’t wait to welcome you to the program!
3 Reasons Breaking Bullshit Rules is Harder Than You Might Think

3 Reasons Breaking Bullshit Rules is Harder Than You Might Think

Breaking bullshit rules (“brules”) can be positively life-changing.

If you are feeling like a bird in a cage, caught in a pickle, or cast in a role that, in your heart of hearts, you know is wrong for you and that – if you don’t change – will always feel confining or contrived … you are more than likely managing increasing amounts of restlessness, frustration, and dissatisfaction.

If, despite that, you haven’t yet made the leap (be it career move, relationship, living situation, or creative calling) you’re not alone. Making the leap out of what’s familiar, predictable, and known can be really, really scary.

It’s why many resign themselves to simply staying put.

It’s also why The Brules of Life: 15 bullshit rules to break for a no-vacation-needed life is a MUST READ.

Here are 3 reasons breaking bullshit rules is harder than you might think:

1) Not ALL rules are made to be broken.

While not all rules are made to be broken, some are total BS. But spotting and discerning which is which requires a very keen eye – if you can spot them at all, since many of the biggest culprits hide in plain sight. I have personally broken every “brule” in the book – quite literally! After more than 17 years coaching others to rethink conventions and implement strategies for more joy, freedom, and success on your own terms … I have had a firsthand and front row seat to the power and impact of intentional brule-breaking. It’s seriously powerful stuff!

2) Distorted ideas tend to perpetuate themselves.

This makes myth-busting especially tricky. When paired with everyday behavior patterns (read: habits and social norms), distorted ideas can become firmly established beliefs, despite however false the premise they are rooted in is. The result can be autopilot decisions, actions that undermine joy, perpetuate misunderstanding, inhibit innovation, and lead to missed opportunities. No bueno.

3) And the kicker is, both have consequences.

The cost of NOT following some rules can be profoundly and cumulatively detrimental, both to you and others. And, the cost of blindly *following* other rules can be profoundly and cumulatively detrimental, both to you and others. This creates an added layer of complexity and confusion when determining what’s what.

But, great news! I’ve done the hard work for you! Rather than trying to sort through what’s what, what to break, what not to break, the cost of each, AND what to do about it … I have done the work for you.

Get your copy today! The Brules of Life: 15 bullshit rules to break for a no-vacation-needed life

The Brules of Life

 

Three Questions for the Author and the Editor of The Brules of Life: 15 Bullshit Rules to Break for a No-Vacation-Needed Life

Three Questions for the Author and the Editor of The Brules of Life: 15 Bullshit Rules to Break for a No-Vacation-Needed Life

Three Questions for the Author and the Editor of The Brules of Life: 15 Bullshit Rules to Break for a No-Vacation-Needed Life

It’s not every day that an author parks her Airstream “condo on wheels” outside the home of her editor. This was the first in-person meeting for the duo, after months of virtual collaboration on what will be a “Book of Brules” series.

During a visit to a local bookshop and leisurely chat over coffee, Tara Sage and her editor Robin Samuels discussed life, what it was like to finally meet one another in person, and their shared hopes for readers of The Brules of Life.

Here’s a snippet of their conversation and answers to three questions:

How would you describe the process of working with one another?

Tara: Robin is a pleasure to work with. Smart as can be, her thoughtful, thorough editing was always spot on. She didn’t just catch missing commas and grammar. She knew my voice better than I did at times, providing comments like “this doesn’t sound like you” when a sentence or phrase read more formal or abrupt than she’d come to expect from me. Robin’s feedback was absolutely invaluable, bringing my book from a good draft to something I feel confident about, utterly proud of, and eager to have in the hands of readers.

Robin: I’ve loved working with Tara! She’s been a dream client. Her message and voice are truly special, and she’s wonderfully open to critique. I send her feedback about what isn’t working, or just isn’t quite as powerful as it could be, and she takes it all in and really hears what I’m saying, and comes back with a revision that totally kicks ass. I almost never get to meet authors I work with, so it’s been fun to find out that Tara is exactly the same in person as she is in her writing! Which is to say, awesome.

What’s special, powerful or unique about this book? What makes it different than the millions of self-help books out there?

Tara: The Brules of Life is a pragmatic life-hack handbook full of practical tips, tricks, and strategies to build courage, gain crystal clarity, and a new kind of freedom. It’s also a very personal book, woven together by a collection of candid soul-stirring stories, all shared for a very specific purpose: to help the reader rethink old ideas, see through the BS status quo conventions, unleash their truest self, and open the door to the life they’ve been longing for.

Robin: I’ve edited a lot of self-help books, and this is the first one that doesn’t try to provide a one-size-fits-all solution for its readers. Instead, Tara’s book points out ways we may be following an unwritten script without realizing it, and opens the door for us to question those assumptions about how things “should” be done. There’s a lot of freedom and flexibility on the other side of that door – infinite ways to customize our “brule” breaking and discover unique individual paths to joy.

What do you hope people will take away from this book?

Tara: My hope is that The Brules of Life will not only be a joy to read, but that – one “brule” at a time – it will powerfully illuminate your path forward and provide you with the tools and strategies you need to create a life you truly love. No vacation needed!

Robin: This book is going to be an eye-opener for anyone stuck in a rut, living on autopilot – you have so many more choices than you think you do! Question everything. Ask “what if?” Ask “why not?” I hope readers find Tara’s words as compelling, entertaining, and inspiring as I do!

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OCTOBER 2021 RELEASE!  Visit www.bookofbrules.com to learn more and be first to know when The Brules of Life is available for purchase. For Robin’s editing services, visit www.shadowcatediting.com.