Demographics Schmemographics

Demographics Schmemographics

Demographics Schmemographics 

I will be first to tell you that it is absolutely amazing what happens and how your dream life takes shape when you make a commitment and show up for expert guidance and community support, cheering you on as you empower and elevate your relationship with yourself, your life, and the world around you. 

There’s no question that by staying engaged, powerful shifts inevitably happen. I’m talking about the kind of shifts that stop holding you back and stop keeping you from your dreams. 

AND – as great as all of this IS, I’ll also be first to tell you that it’s not for everyone. 

I absolutely want you to have that “oh, THERE I am!” feeling, and I want you to confidently CREATE from it. 

But it really doesn’t matter what I want.  🫥

In order for it to WORK for you, you have to also really want it for yourself. Because if you don’t, you won’t willingly look in the proverbial mirror and then lean in and challenge some ideas around your self-concept and beliefs you’ve adopted about what’s possible, true, or acceptable. 

For it to WORK for you, requires being willing to experiment with new ways of being, doing, and thinking that will inevitably make you uncomfortable.

Again, not for everyone. 

And if it’s not for you, or for you right now, that’s ok. 

In my 20 years as a coach, and having served clients ranging in age from 20-76, men and women, of various races, nationalities, people spanning 5 continents in a range of financial brackets, education levels, married, unmarried, parents, not parents, business owners, not business owners …  I have stopped trying to define my “typical clients” in terms of demographics. 

Labels and categories like education level, eye color, age, marital status, where you live, shop, etc… NONE of it has any bearing on whether this is for you. Nor does it lend any insight into the predictability of your results. 

What does?

Well, the answer lies in what’s on the INSIDE. 

It’s in what you yearn for, what dreams live in your heart and don’t go away. It’s in what you’re afraid of, what you believe, who you admire and want to be more like. And why. It’s in how honest you are willing to be about where you consistently get tripped up and tangled in the limits of your own knowledge and understanding.

And, last but certainly not least, it’s in whether or not you’re done struggling and trying to figure it all out by yourself. 

Only when that struggle TRULY gets old, will you show up for the journey and the process and embrace support for accelerated dream realization and self-actualization. 

Speaking frankly about my own journey, it for sure wasn’t the fact that I was living in a basement apartment, or that I was a college grad on a first name basis with collection agency reps that called me incessantly, or my having a therapist who admitted she was surprised I returned for another session, or the fact that my longest cohabitation relationship at the time was with my cat … these are not what made me a good prospect for dream realization. 

“Demographics” didn’t qualify me.

(They also didn’t disqualify me, but they, for sure, weren’t what made my success possible or predictable.)

What made me a contender was my relentlessness and willingness to stop repeating what wasn’t working. And my relentlessness and willingness to dream, despite my circumstances. And my unyielding REFUSAL to believe that my desires were seeded in my heart and head just to torture my soul. 

No.

I was determined that the dreams and desires in my heart were there to be followed – even though I didn’t have the first clue HOW to make them real and felt under-resourced in every possible way

And even though my mind, heart, and home (a.k.a. the Tara’tory) was a Wild West of horses I didn’t know how to ride. 

Nonetheless, I was determined. And driven by the spark of my desired FUTURE. 

I chose to believe that I was meant for something more, something bigger, something far more joyful, satisfying, and fulfilling. 

I chose to trust the wildly illogical thought that I was somehow here to help others, while also acknowledging that this meant I better get on with helping myself first. 

And I was willing to commit to the journey ahead, no matter how difficult. 

I was willing to learn, and be uncomfortable, and not know what I was doing, and show up anyway. Even when there was no trail, I entered the forest anyway. 

Ultimately, I decided that THIS was more appealing than staying in my uncomfortable-but-familiar-and-deeply-unsatisfying groundhog-day present. 

Learning how to operate differently is not for everyone. 

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok. 

Doing an honest self-assessment is not for everyone.

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok.

Willingly trying and failing is not for everyone.

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok.

Self-responsibility and owning your choices fully is not for everyone. 

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok.

Making conscious changes like saying “yes” where you usually say no, and “no” where you usually say yes, is not for everyone.

No judgment. 

I mean, hey, it certainly wasn’t always for me!

For many years, I wanted overnight success and was completely preoccupied with all of what was right in front of me. I wasn’t ready to accept responsibility for my circumstances and make changes accordingly. I wasn’t done looking for shortcuts and wishing someone would come save me. 

Truth is, I had to exhaust those options first before I would be ready for the kind of personal development and shifts that we’ll be exploring, uncovering, practicing, and implementing inside The Brule Breakers Club

Only if you’re ready for a compassionate, clear-eyed kick in the pants, is The Brule Breakers Club for you. Only if you’re ready for that, does it make sense for you to join us.

If you’re ready to spot and deconstruct any and all BS that is not serving you –  from the brules in your brain, to the systemic, societal, and familial brules we’ve all been steeped in by the mere fact of being born – then join us today

With minimal investment, you’ll have TONS of support (from not only me, but the other members of this awesome community) as you successfully break brules and shift into positive powerful productive new patterns. 

If this is what you’re ready for, step inside…where I am an open book, sharing things that have been helping others for decades in my private coaching, now available to YOU in The Brule Breakers Club. 

Love, 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

“I’ve seen your stuff about Brule Breakers Club. Will this actually work for me?”

I get it. You’ve tried other things before, as we talked about in this message. And of course there’s the question of “do I have enough time for this, I’ve got responsibilities,” and maybe you’re concerned about what making changes will mean for you.

Again, I get it. 

But here’s the thing. 

If you:

  • Have a dream or goal that you really want to achieve, but haven’t yet
  • Feel restless and like there’s got to be more to life than this
  • Are uninspired by status quo repetition and predictably  
  • Want to BE who you know, deep inside, that you can be  
  • Never want to regret NOT going for the dreams that live in your heart and that don’t, and won’t, go away
  • Feel isolated or tired of trying to figure all this out by yourself

Then, this program is for YOU and this truth-telling message is better than any fortune cookie. 🥠

Turning the page on Survival Mode and starting the next chapter – “Thrival” Mode – doesn’t happen automatically, for two reasons:

  1. It requires time and effort to learn new skills, establish new habits, and build new levels of understanding.
  2. In addition to your life being alive and in motion, its own in-flux system, you are also in relationship with other systems – other living, breathing beings and social and societal constructs – that also are in flux and alive with motion, direction, desires, and no shortage of brules. 🥴

This is why anyone who tells you (or sells you) on one formula or a guaranteed path is either foolish enough to believe that or isn’t telling you the truth.

If you are wondering if The Brule Breakers Club will work for you, here are my crystal ball predictions:

Let me preface this by saying, having doubts and questions is absolutely 100% normal.

This is not a problem.

Sometimes people – even my clients, on occasion – fight to convince me that they can’t realize their dreams, that they can’t move the blocks, and that things just won’t work for them. (This belief that they can’t is what I call “the brain behind the brules.”)

What becomes PROBLEMATIC is when, due to these totally normal doubts and questions, people sit on the fence forever … questioning and questioning and questioning whether something will “work for them.” 

Prediction #1:

It for sure won’t work with a fencepost under your rear! 🤓

When it comes to applied psychology, behavior modification and belief modification must go hand-in-hand because one without the other simply doesn’t work and isn’t sustainable. 

A willing mindset is key. So, if you are someone who holds tight to that fence and to “this WON’T work for me”… and refuse to open up to the possibility that it WILL … and if you are someone who prefers to dig your heels in and insist that you “can’t,” and you are steadfast in the belief that you can’t change your beliefs… then this might not be the Club for you. 

IF, on the other hand, rather than dig your heels in and hold tight to the belief that you can’t…

√ You are willing to doubt your doubt, recognize that you are a living, breathing, evolving being, and celebrate that embracing this means embracing expanding possibilities and untapped potential…

and

√ You are someone who understands that getting results isn’t about what you know, it’s about what you IMPLEMENT and practice…

Then, 

Prediction #2:

Heck yeah! You are likely to get an enormous amount of value from your membership

You can’t just put a date on the calendar and consider it done. But what you CAN do to speed up your progress is commit to the process of BECOMING the person who would have the life you want. By embodying and intentionally constructing the YOU you will be without all those blind spots hiding in the shadows, and without all those limiting beliefs you currently accept as (or at least act as if they are) true, AND without those obstacles that you keep repeatedly stubbing your toe on, the likelihood of your breakthroughs and your desired results increases exponentially!

Brules are sneaky bastards, and I’m here for you through ALL of it.

In The Brule Breakers Club, we’re going to tell the truth and focus on what is in your control. You are not in control of all the pieces and all the relationships and you can’t “make” other people or systems respond like you wish they would, when you wish they would. 

But – you 100% CAN show up for yourself in ways that are self-trusting, self-affirming, congruent, and powerfully aligned with who you are here to BE. When you do THAT, new paths are found, and you learn who you are and what you’re capable of.

Rather than continue to let brules hold you back, let’s make the unseen visible so that you can shift it. 

Prediction #3:

Making such changes may make you feel a bit uncomfortable at first, but it’s also what supports your desired outcomes, personal empowerment, growth and transformation. It’s what enables you to make – and maintain – positive changes so that you THRIVE!

☝️ This is why I highly recommend taking advantage of the annual membership option. (monthly membership is also available)

Come join us! Be “in the room” for deconstruction of the countless brules that hold you back.

To support The Brule Breakers Club container, culture, mission, objectives and purpose, the brules we explore and deconstruct inside The Brule Breakers Club are exclusively focused on the brules outlined in my book, The Brules of Life: 15 Bullshit Rules to Break for a No-Vacation-Needed Life + the 15 brules I’ll be sharing in my NEXT book, and future books. (That’ll be 60 brules in total! As a member, you will receive not only the Table of Contents for future books as they are outlined, but also pre-release chapters, with discussion and coaching around them.)

All of THIS, when shared within a community of support, is what predictably creates, amplifies and accelerates your results.

With so much love, 

Fortune-teller Tara  🔮

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

P.S. Have questions? Curious to learn how brule breaking can help YOU? Reach out for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity. You just have a few days left to join for the remaining bonuses!  

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

I talk a lot about my work and The Brule Breakers Club and WHY it’s so awesome. 

So let me tell you why you’d be right NOT to join…

I realize it’s rather unconventional to write in depth about NOT joining my program.

So why do it? Because, The Brule Breakers Club is not for everyone. 

If you are debating whether or not you can afford to join (financially or otherwise), here are some considerations that I hope will help you decide:

  1. If you find yourself needing to choose between feeding yourself OR keeping a roof over your head, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.
  2. If you feel desperate for immediate solutions and are in a place in your life where you don’t know what you’ll do if a major life-altering change doesn’t happen for you within the next 30 days, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.

The first one needs no explanation. 

In terms of desperation or urgency around results, there’s going to be a lot of growth, but growth doesn’t happen overnight. Brules have been profoundly assimilated into your worldview and experience over decades of reinforcement and, because of this, they won’t just exit stage left in a hot second.

If neither of the above describe you or your circumstances and you wish to join, then I truly hope you will, EVEN IF making the $100 or so a month investment s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-s you a little – be it financial, emotional, or both.

Because let’s be honest, investing in yourself – whether it’s a few dollars, or something with several zeros behind it, not to mention the TIME – can be a symbolic and emotional hurdle as much as it is a financial one. 

It can dredge up questions like…

  • Am I worth it?
  • I mean, do I really get to invest in not just striving, but thriving?
  • Should I really invest in myself now – as in, TODAY??

Ultimately, all of these are variations of the old “Who do you think you ARE?” question.

If you do decide to join us (again, with the understanding that those first two scenarios don’t apply to you), then know that you will be entering a space that is dedicated to supporting your best self, your self-actualization, and expanding possibilities for your life.

The Brule Breakers Club is also a space where “Who do you think you ARE?” is escorted out and replaced with the-same-words-but-a-very-different-question: 

“Who do YOU think you are?”

The emphasis in this question matters.

The first one – “Who do you think you ARE?” – is full of residual head-trash that you picked up somewhere along the way from people who haven’t yet sorted where or whether to discard this garbage, so they gave it to you.

In contrast, the second one – “Who do YOU think you are?” is a process of self-revelatory introspection and discovery, both about your current self-concept and your ever-evolving and expanding Self. 

Say the question aloud to yourself now: “Who do I think I am?” 

Feel that “damn! I am in charge” vibe? 😎

In The Brule Breakers Club, we delight in both the second version of the question and in the version of YOU that this question helps draw out of the shadows and into the light. 

All this to say … I want you to understand that inside The Brule Breakers Club, any and all versions of “I can’t afford it right now” are not supportive, or supported.

Lemme ‘splain.

We hold you as powerful. Period. 

And, to be clear – even if you find yourself in either of the two scenarios I describe at the top – we also hold YOU as powerful. 

Whatever your current circumstances are, while they may reflect what makes practical sense for you to prioritize right now, they do NOT reflect what is POSSIBLE for you. 

You are far more powerful than whatever the snapshot of your current experience of your current moment might be. To pretend that you aren’t would be a disservice, both to you and to the other members. 

Every time you speak, share, or believe that you “can’t afford it,” you radiate disempowered energy and this perpetuates feelings of limitation, scarcity, and not-enough-ness. This isn’t beneficial. Just as spending your last dollar on a life coaching program wouldn’t be beneficial if it means not having enough food to eat.  

If, barring these circumstances, you truly would love to join, then find a way to join!

And, if you don’t truly want to join, that’s ok too.

You can decline without self-limiting statements that reinforce and only root you that much more deeply in the belief that you are powerless or that you don’t have options.

You are not powerless. 

And you have options. 

And those options include what you choose to prioritize.

This very message is just a sampling of the level of thought work and personal transformation that you’ll be supported through in The Brule Breakers Club. And with registration currently set at what adds up to the cost of a cup of coffee a day, it is an absolute bargain.

Click here to join!

Big love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

PS – The sooner you join the sooner you can get oriented to the Tara’tory. 😜 If you think this might be for you but you’re not sure or have questions, reach out right away for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity so you can experience and learn more about how brule breaking can help YOU.  

“I know myself. Will this help?”

“I know myself. Will this help?”

“I know myself really well. Will The Brule Breakers Club really make a difference for me?”

If you’ve read countless self-help books and done your share of personal development, then this message is especially for you. 

“Know thyself.” – Socrates

Wise words!

And, yet… it’s NOT ENOUGH.

Here’s why: 

Because shifts in habits, objective new perspectives, spotting blind spots, recognizing logical fallacies, flawed assumptions, misconceptions, and decisions that may unconsciously be inhibiting your desired results … rarely come to light by looking WITHIN.

It’s a hard truth, especially if you’ve invested a lot in the pursuit of self-knowing and, despite a solid sense of your own psychology and a high degree of self-awareness, you still struggle with how to translate all of that well-informed self-knowing into dream-propelling action and results.

THIS IS NOT A FAULT OR JUDGMENT. And it need not be a source of shame. 

Lawwwwwd knoooows, self-reliance can be its own blind spot. Rather than make this a pride problem and insist on “independence” (something I very much used to do, believe you me!), valuing and welcoming outside support changes the game.

I know myself. Very, very well. 

So well, in fact, that I know when I’m standing in a blind spot. I know when I don’t know. And I’ll be first to tell you that the REASON I have coaches and mentors helping and guiding me is because there is a gap between my self-knowing and my self-MASTERY.

When I recognize that my self-awareness and my inner resources aren’t enough, getting (and showing up for) support becomes my only job.

Because the alternative is SO frustrating.

As maybe you’ve experienced too … when you know yourself well, and you KNOW you know yourself well, but you can’t seem to figure out how to IMPLEMENT the changes that you desire, it can be maddening. 

While the central core that must be KNOWN to achieve self-care, self-actualization, self-awareness, self-compassion, self-mastery, etc… is, the SELF…

… you can’t be objective for yourSelf! 

We need other people for that.

So, know thyself. Absolutely.

AND 

get SUPPORT!!!

Because, as the saying goes, “You can’t read the label when you’re in the bottle.”

It’s when you add the right support to a foundation of self-knowing that the magic happens and your life blossoms and the realization of your dreams accelerates. 

The Brule Breakers Club helps with those areas where you can’t seem to figure out how to IMPLEMENT the changes you desire. What’s missing are specific tools, strategies, and specialized support: things that you don’t know, and, more often than not, don’t know that you don’t know.  😜

You know yourself, I get that. 

BUT HAVE YOU ACHIEVED THE RESULTS YOU WANT?

How many courses, coaches, books have you tried to get from where you are, to your dreams? 

The Brule Breakers Club is DIFFERENT because we help you spot your blind spots and then see what’s BEYOND them, all in a very personalized customized way.  

It’s absolutely for the person who KNOWS THEMSELF but who hasn’t yet achieved their results and is tired of spinning their wheels and trying to figure it out by themself.  

Because, whether you have had a recent shift in self-concept that’s thrown you for a loop, or you’ve never felt quite secure in yourself, or you are actively in a process of (re)discovery… brule breaking powerfully supports this by revealing and un-inhibiting the truth of who you ARE, without brules in your way.

In either scenario, I don’t doubt that you can figure it out and find a way by yourself. But, it’ll likely be FAR more difficult, far less fun, and a far SLOWER process than it needs to be to successfully implement and integrate that which requires MORE than self-knowing.

Habitual patterns don’t change overnight. By design, The Brule Breakers Club is an annual membership (there’s a monthly membership option available too), designed to ensure that you have the time and the support needed to implement those changes and establish a new normal.   

By showing up willing to see what’s being shown…

By showing up willing to experiment with new ways of being…

And by showing up willing to implement some new approaches, new habits, new thoughts, and challenge some of those old perspectives and assumptions about what’s possible…

^ When you do THIS, self-knowing gets ENHANCED by support, so that you not only translate all of that well-informed self-knowing into dream-propelling action and results, you also THRIVE!

Join us.

Love, 

PS – Not sure? Have questions? Think it might be for you, but want to be sure? Reach out to me for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity if you are curious to learn how brule breaking can help you.  

 

Demographics Schmemographics

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

A question I get all the time is “Will this work for me? And if so, how fast?

But what I know people are REALLY asking is “Tara, how does connecting in a space like The Brule Breakers Club allow someone like me to grow and fulfill my dreams and goals?”

I love this question. Let me do my best here to answer it. 

Refreshingly unlike anything else I know of in the coaching/author space, by design, The Brule Breakers Club is a place where you get to PRACTICE fully implementing the power of challenging conventional beliefs and behaviors with an extraordinary community of support cheering you on as you clarify and pursue your deepest dreams, meet your goals, and successfully create the life you think you cannot have. 

In The Brule Breakers Club, we customize your solutions based on your personal psychology and based on the specific brules that have made a home in the territory of YOUR mind, body, and spirit. It’s a unique process that meets you exactly where you are and supports you through creating the changes you want, at whatever pace suits you best.

The Brule Breakers Club works for you because it’s custom-designed for you.

To help ensure that it works for you, we approach this in a few unique ways: 

     (1) We deconstruct your limiting beliefs to give you a fresh perspective 

When you enter The Brule Breakers Club, you are entering a Deconstruction Zone, and when it comes to preserving and maintaining your limiting beliefs, this zone is dangerous Tara’tory. (See what I did there?) 😜

To the brules you bring with you, they are on notice!  

In The Brule Breakers Club, we are going to transform your life, and we do it by deconstructing the brules of life – of YOUR life – by changing the way you think and see and experience what’s around you until the change you’ve been seeking becomes yours, easily. 

When what’s been happening isn’t working, pattern interruption strategies are a MUST.

My mission is to demystify applied psychology, to revolutionize and optimize the human experience and to empower you.

The Deconstruction Method™ is my 3-part method for shining a light on and challenging conventional default modes, and then implementing change so that you have breakthroughs in your thinking and gain the tools and support needed to build new thought patterns (a.k.a. beliefs) and behavior patterns (a.k.a. habits). 

(Want more detail about The Deconstruction Method? You’ll find it in the FAQ section at the bottom of this page.)

     (2) Core values mean you’re held within a safe and empowering community 

When you enter Brule Breaker Tara’tory you are entering a culture built on core values. 

These core values include autonomy, celebration, and steadfast support.

Self-abandonment is a big no-no in the Tara’tory of The Brule Breakers Club. Both inside The Brule Breakers Club and in the world-at-large, we will never ask you to compromise in any way that requires you to abandon yourself. 

In the Tara’tory, we celebrate a glimmer of new awareness like it’s a winning lottery ticket because we whole-heartedly believe that breakthroughs in awareness rival the value of any lottery ticket. Every new awareness invites a conscious pattern interruption, and, when paired with a sincere desire to thrive, this inevitably means that good things are ahead! Cue the confetti, because this is the stuff of dreams and what unlocks the door to a new kind of freedom.

Now, of course, the results of such breakthroughs aren’t instant. 

In the Tara’tory, we don’t just leave you with your breakthrough. We are there for the journey ahead too because we understand that THRIVING requires and deserves devotion, patience, love, curiosity, and a willingness to do things differently – and this takes time. We don’t pretend that it doesn’t, or dance around the fact that implementing change requires consistent commitment and that it sometimes gets messy. We’ve got your back. 

We are there for our members, every step of the way – including the detours. If you get stuck in a pothole, we send a tow truck. In other words, we value and respect your autonomy AND we deconstruct “the brule of independence.” Rather than perpetuate pride-filled bootstrapping struggle sentiments, or normalizing self-reliance to the point of isolation, in the Brule Breakers Club, we honor and actively participate in the truth of our interdependence. In the Tara’tory, it is considered very beautiful to show up brave and ask for help.

Know too, that when you enter The Brule Breakers Club you are entering a pro-active “should-free” zone because we believe that in order to find out who you ARE, you must be willing to surrender the idea of who you “should” be. 

Here, we believe that witnessing shifts, breakthroughs, and outcomes for others invites and inspires your own. We believe that a community of diverse perspectives, group support, and accountability, amplifies learning. That growing together creates shifts in individuals and shifts in the collective. That being seen, held in community, knowing you are not alone in your challenges, making new friends, learning from one another’s experiences is invaluable when all involved are invested and share in common intentions and objectives. 

This space is where you get what you need. With this kind of support, of COURSE it works for you.

     (3) You don’t just achieve one milestone. You go as far into your thriving success as you want to. 

The skills and knowledge you will gain in The Brule Breakers Club, you will have forever.

I am fierce about my clients’ success and I love finding new ways to do things better. And I’m told that this is rather contagious. 😁 

My clients quickly start seeing new opportunities where they thought there weren’t any.

They start having courageous breakthroughs in behavior patterns. Narrow limited views suddenly open up to become broad, vast and expansive. Possibilities they never considered before, or that seemed impossible, rapidly start coming into focus.

In The Brule Breakers Club, I will help you have that “oh, THERE I am” feeling. You will be supported and guided to get into right-relationship with yourself, unraveling subtle and unhelpful conditioning. 

THIS is why my Brule Breakers don’t just get results, they get them and they keep them. 

We help you nurture who you ARE and act on behalf of your dreams, creating and living a life that is as dynamic as you are, on your path to self-actualization. 

Brule Breakers don’t just break through the default patterns, they experience the empowerment, peace, and enhanced well-being that awaits them on the other side.

I love leading The Brule Breakers Club because together we are not just going after our dreams, we are creating the world we want to live in. We are BECOMING.

I know you’ve done other programs before. And I know you’re wondering if this one will FINALLY work for you. I know you want your dreams and you want them FAST. 

And I know this is the place where all that is possible for you. 

I created it ESPECIALLY for you.

Join us today!

Big love, 

P.S. – Not sure? Have questions? Think it might be for you, but want to be sure? Reach out to me for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity if you are curious to learn how brule breaking can help you.