It’s not your fault, but it IS your responsibility

It’s not your fault, but it IS your responsibility

Real talk.

What you want could be right in front of you, yet wholly invisible to you.

You’ve likely witnessed this, in others: You see what they don’t, all while they miss or dismiss opportunities for themselves that appear to YOU as totally available and accessible.

Sorry to say, it’s not just a THEM problem.

We all have blind spots, but by nature, it’s difficult to see your own. As a coaching colleague and dear friend of mine says, “It’s hard to read the label when you’re in the bottle.” Indeed it is!

What if I told you … that what you want is within arm’s reach.

And what if I told you that what’s holding you back – both from reaching for what you want, even seeing it – is a blind spot that’s not your fault.

The reason it feels so elusive is you have been socially programmed to believe status quo conventions and false constructs, also known as “brules.”

Like a house built on sand, these brules (bullsh*t rules) cause you to sink and to settle.

That’s not going to work, because you are meant to RISE.

Now while it’s not your fault, this doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility. In fact, to see and experience the positive results of this work in your life, your participation is 100% required.

Learn how with just a few shifts – in perception, belief, behavior – your old “imaginary” or “impossible” can quickly become your new reality.

The Brule Breakers Club is your invitation to make these shifts, quickly, joyfully, and with an incredible community of support. We are going to shine a big brilliant light on the brules that are holding you back, and hiding in plain sight.

This is your next evolution.

Don’t give up on your dreams.

Don’t be discouraged. You’re closer than you think.

And by all means — don’t settle!

Join us today!

To your no-vacation-needed life,

 

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Pellegrino message in a bottle

Pellegrino message in a bottle

The year was 2007.

I was leading an in-person group (remember those?) as part of a 6-week program I called The Dream Circle. On this particular day, seated in a circle, I asked everyone to look around the room and silently make note of everything in the room that was red.

A minute or so later, I had them close their eyes and take a breath.

Keeping their eyes closed, I asked them to bring to mind everything in the room that was green.

A few nervous giggles filled the space, per usual. I’d led this exercise many times before, but on this day something especially memorable followed…

After allowing ample time to silently recall what they could of “green”, I invited them to open their eyes and look around to see if there was any green present in the room that they didn’t recall.

Several laughed out loud, pointing at the green Pellegrino bottle that was on the table in the center of the circle … many of whom vividly remembered the red star on that very bottle!

I love this exercise.

It does such a great job of teaching that: we find what we look for.

Tunnel vision doesn’t just prevent us from seeing what we don’t want to see, it also prevents us from seeing and discovering that which we WANT to find, but don’t look for – perhaps because we don’t believe it’s there, or possible for us.

What you want could be right in front of you, yet wholly invisible to you.

The kicker is …

     You can’t create what you can’t see.

     You can’t experience what you can’t imagine.

     And, you find what you look for.

So, what are YOU looking for?

Since you and I are connected, I’m going to venture a guess that whatever it is you are looking for … ultimately, you want a life that feels free, and fun. A life where you thrive – not just somedays, but everyday. A life where you’re no longer waiting to feel accomplished or fulfilled. A life where you’re fully and unapologetically YOU, living in a way that reflects this. Where the truth of your whole, authentic, boundless self is ALIVE and free.

Am I close ?

What if I told you … that what you want is within arm’s reach, just like that Pellegrino bottle was to everyone in that circle.

What if I told you … that what’s holding you back – both from reaching for it, even seeing it – is a blind spot that’s not your fault.

What if I told you … that what seems just out of reach, can quickly become available to you.

What if I told you … that the reason it feels so elusive is you have been socially programmed to believe status quo conventions and false constructs, also known as “brules.”

Like a house built on sand, these brules (bullshit rules) cause you to sink and settle.

You are meant to RISE.

What if I told you … that everything you want is just a few brule-breaking shifts away.

Here’s how it works:

Once you become aware of a previous blind spot, when brules no longer hide in plain sight … you become willing to not only see things differently, you start to show up differently.

When a foundational shift in perception happens for you, your reality changes.

Sometimes, like the Pellegrino bottle example, you come to see what was there all along!

What you previously believed to be impossible or unrealistic, suddenly isn’t.

Reality didn’t change. You did. 

It all begins with just a few shifts – in perception, belief, behavior.

Your old “imaginary” or “impossible” can quickly become your new reality.

The Brule Breakers Club is your invitation to make those shifts, quickly, joyfully, and with an incredible community of support. We are going to shine a big brilliant light on the brules that are holding you back, hiding in plain sight.

This is the compassionate clear-eyed kick in the pants you’ve been waiting for.

This is your next evolution.

Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t settle.

It is time, for you, to LIVE your unique-to-you no-vacation-needed life!

The Brule Breakers Club lifetime membership is going to help you connect the dots so that you can finally have what you want out of life, all within an extraordinary community of support.

We all have our lone ranger tendencies, but this isn’t something to try to do by yourself. Why? Because brule breaking can get confusing – fast. This socially accepted nonsense is baked in to every system, and every habit, and every everything. Assumed to be unquestionably true by many, this only further allows them to go unnoticed and continue to hide in plain sight.

But – once you join The Brule Breakers Club and you see all these baked-in brules, you won’t be able to unsee them. You can break free and make the small shifts that are going to make the biggest difference for you.

For all the juicy details and to join us, click here!

Big love,

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Planning for a big 2022

Planning for a big 2022

Welp, here we are …

2022 is just around the bend.

It’s been an(other) unusual twelve months and I think it’s fair to say, no one has gone unchallenged this year. Yet in the midst of the challenges, we’ve also each been presented with some unique opportunities: to embrace a new kind of rhythm, to make lifestyle adjustments, to find innovative ways to nurture connections, to discover new strategies for how we work, self-care, and create, to name a few…

 

Before the close of each year, I find that doing a Year-in-Review reflection is a valuable exercise and a powerful way to set the stage for the year to come. Doing an annual reflective review is something I not only coach clients to do, but something I do myself.

 

3 powerful Year-in-Review questions to consider:

1.)
What did you accomplish, create, or achieve in this past year? Create a big long list.

2.)
What goals or dreams did NOT come to fruition for you this year? It’s uber important not to ignore or disregard the fact that you didn’t achieve them. By shining light on them you’ll gain clarity and momentum about what you really truly want in the coming year.

3.)
What is your action plan? What will you do differently in the coming year?

 

 

Today I feel inspired to briefly share some of my own 2021 highlights, a few personal goals for 2022, and some exciting ways we can connect in the new year.

 


2021 Tara’tory:

 

  • As an RVer, I’ve been able to enjoy continued domestic travel, rolling across state lines in my Airstream, a.k.a. condo on wheels. My quick travel synopsis from 2021: Winter in New Mexico, New Orleans and Florida in the Spring, Summer in the northeast, and Fall in the Berkshires, Niagra Falls, and Illinois. (Friendly reminder: While many venues are closed, nature is open and she’s beautiful as ever, so get out there and hug a tree or something.)
  • Illinois is where I was when my book launched on Amazon and became a bestseller. The launch and success of The Brules of Life and The Brules of Life Companion Workbook was a definite bright spot in my year, the culmination of a tremendous amount of work and planning. Seeing how well it is being received, hearing how it is touching and inspiring the lives others, is the ultimate repayment.
  • I ran more in 2021. Salsa clubs used to be my sweaty haven, but times have changed. Running has become both a mental health and physical health outlet for me. 5k is a typical distance now, but as I look to 2022, I’ve got a 10k training app tempting/taunting me to go further.
  • Along with the launch of my book and coaching my clients to harness the unique opportunities of this interesting year, countless improvements and updates have been made to my website and offerings, to include a special new free gift, and other gems – all of which are waiting for you at tarasagecoaching.com.
Ok, 2022.

 

My 2022 goals include: increasing readership of my book, start writing my next book, reach some fitness milestones, put out more video content, and light a fire under a creative project I’ve got sitting on the back burner.

 

January is going to be a full month, and includes several exciting opportunities to connect!

January 5: Brule Break-a-thon Livestream! 

Jumpstart the New Year with a different take on resolutions! On January 5th, I am joining forces with community coach, Peter Bowden, for a fun, one-of-a-kind, interactive, livestream event to help you identify the “brules” (bullshit rules) that are holding you back so that YOU make 2022 a joyful, life-enhancing, dream-fulfilling year! It’s going to be a hoot! Subscribe, like, share, and invite your friends!


January 14: Book signing!
I’ll be doing an (outdoor) book signing at Sundog Bookstore in Seaside, FL. This is a fabulous independent bookstore I’ve visited many times, while envisioning the day when my book might be on their shelves. That day is here! If you’re in the area, stop by! 11am – 2pm

 

January 19-23: RV Show! This will be my third year on the seminar stage at the Florida RV Supershow in Tampa, presenting Nomadic Living 101: How to Live Nomadically for a Month, a Season, a Year or Forever. 1pm, daily.So that’s a bit of what’s happening in my world . Let’s start the year off strong together!

 

Are YOU determined to make 2022 different and finally bring those back-burner dreams to life? Are you ready to tell yourself the truth about what you want, refuse beliefs about limitation, fears about worthiness, and lies about what you “can’t” do? If so … claim your seat in The Dream Acceleration Program for all of this and more in the New Year! There are just a few openings, so enroll today.

 

Looking ahead to 2022, I am 100% committed to taking extraordinary care of myself while also giving (you) a lot more. It feels wonderful to know how deeply compatible these intentions are.

 

Onward and upward!

 

Here’s to a happy healthy dream-fulfilling New Year,
Tara Sage
PS – Seriously, if you have a fire in your belly and are determined to make this year different and finally bring your dreams to life, register now for The Dream Acceleration Program and let’s do this together. I can’t wait to welcome you to the program!
Going Costume-free

Going Costume-free

Just before starting my business, I had what I would describe as a stuffy research job. An ivy league university employee, it looked good on paper. But good god! It was all wrong for me.

In theory I could have hunkered down like those around me were doing, and embraced the cushy life of a retirement-track university employee, though I never seriously considered it. My soul would have needed to die to endure that haul. I was adamantly unwilling to be another retired zombie who played it safe.

My mantra was, “For now, not forever.”

Often, while sitting at my desk, just feet from where my supervisor sat, I’d be chomping at the bit waiting for the clock to hit 5:00 so I could leave. More often than not, I’d finished my work hours earlier, but I was clock-bound nonetheless – something I always found stupid, belittling, and maddening.

I strongly dislike being micro-managed, and the rigidity around how, when, and where I did my work felt utterly confining. Maybe you relate?

While others did a good job at looking busy, I was planning my escape, fueled by a disgruntled disdain for the need to pretend.

I distinctly recall staring at a crack in the wall and fantasizing about being a spider that could sneak through the crack and escape.

This inspired my Halloween costume that year, Tara the spider.

(2003) This silly photo was taken by my friend Carianne, at a Halloween party, in her kitchen. She was a disco ball. I slithered, she spun. Good times. Looking at it now, I see a woman caught in her own web, which sort of underwrites the desire for freedom that inspired the costume. But nonetheless, my low-budget costume was an outlet for expression, trusting I’d find a way out.

In an attempt to make it fun and keep my spirits up, I told myself, “Tara, you love Halloween and theater, so put on your research assistant costume (which generally involved a plain button-down shirt) and go play the part of a 9-5 university employee.”

This privately held inside joke – with myself – helped me to reel in my bad attitude.

“For now, not forever,” I reminded myself. “Pretend that this is all just a character study aided by a boring costume and unnecessary meetings.”

This helped. But as much as I love Halloween (a lot), I didn’t like wearing the same costume five days a week!

Have YOU ever felt like you were wearing a costume or playing a role meant for someone else?? 

Truth is, I’d had quite a bit of practice. It wasn’t the first time I felt this way.

As far back as I can recall, I’ve felt like I was being asked to fit into a mold that simply didn’t fit. From very young, I’d always questioned parents, teachers, bosses, even friends, about status quo expectations and norms that seemed foolish to march in step with when there were such obvious alternatives – to me, at least.

I soon learned they weren’t obvious to everyone, which had me feeling that much more like a rare bird in a cage.

In a very real sense, when, in 2004, I decided to start a location-independent business and chart my own course, it was the beginning of the rest of my life.

I dreamed of having the freedom to travel when and where I pleased. From day one in my business, I worked with clients remotely — even if they lived in the same city! Back then, smartphones weren’t in every pocket, the internet was not accessible everywhere, internet marketing wasn’t mainstream, and the term “digital nomad” had not even been coined.

I’ve helped thousands of people, spanning five continents, to go beyond striving and wishing and “someday-ing,” to create a life they truly can’t wait to get up and out of bed for in the morning – a life and business they don’t need a vacation from. And yet even all these years later, it’s work I still love.

I assure you, I know how it feels to be cast in a role that, in your heart of hearts, you know will always feel confining or contrived, and will only lead to restlessness, frustration, and dissatisfaction.

Determined not to live this way, I broke free.

I learned how to manifest horizons and implement energy management tools that changed my life forever. I cracked the code on travel and mobility, making the world my office and busting the myth that home is a zip code. I learned how to build a business from the ground up and create wealth on my own terms.

Today I help clients master and create these very things.

And I no longer wear unwanted costumes.

I love my coaching clients. I don’t love the coaching industry.

I love my coaching clients. I don’t love the coaching industry.

I love my coaching clients.  I don’t love the coaching industry.
More than 16 years as a coach, I see so much in my industry that is problematic, unethical, or just plain false … all of which makes it incredibly hard for a prospective client to discern who the heck can actually help them.
This is deeply concerning to me.
But this article isn’t about that.
One common standard for success and measure of results-orientened coaching is dollars.
One problem with this is that true wealth is NOT measured in dollars. You don’t have to look far to find unhappy, stressed-out people with money. And more money is not their solution.
I coach my clients to create a no-vacation-needed life.
In doing this, I hold firm to the big picture dreams for their life. I remind us both periodically that a goal without a dream is a recipe for dissatisfaction, and that money alone does not a dream make.
This said, when money comes through aligned action – yeh!
Earning money doing work you love is cause for celebration – woot!
Successfully working smarter not harder is reason for a happy dance hoedown.
Two of my clients this week had big wins in this department and I am so friggin’ proud of them.
One client hired me to help her turn something she loves and “would do for free” into a business.
Yesterday was our kick-off session.
Step one in this realm requires understanding that the fact that you love doing something doesn’t in any way minimize the value it provides for others. By the end of our call, she had prices for her services and a plan to tell people about it.
Less than 24 hours later, she has two paying clients. Woot!
She said saying her price out loud was hard.  It’ll get easier…
Another client of mine and I have been strategizing about how she can work smarter not harder in her business. The goal around building her business is to intentionally allow her more time-freedom. Yesterday we celebrated that AFTER paying a new team member, her business made $2240 off of that team member’s effort, with little to no time required from my client. Go girl!
We’re now putting wheels in motion for her to bring on yet another contractor and do it again, x2. Repeat, repeat, repeat, scaling her business by building her team so that my client can focus on bringing in new contracts and customer care, while her team does the bulk of the work.
One more …
Last week, another client wrote to me with this realization: “My business HAS provided me with the time and money freedom to pour into my family and to be the mother I want to be for my daughter. This makes me very, very happy, proud, and grateful.”
This is wealth.  >>> Doing work you love, leveraging your time through team building, and feeling supported and able to really pour yourself into family and the people that mean the most to you.
Now, to be very clear, my clients created these results.
I merely coached them.
Their results are THEIRS.
Too often, I see coaches claim responsibility for their clients results. This is not only an act of hubris, it’s wrong. Especially when those very same coaches are first to say that they are not responsible for the lack of results that other clients of theirs received.
Anyway, I am really friggin’ proud of my clients and so honored to be able to contribute and serve and play a supporting role in their progress and success — as defined by them.

How I’m NOT writing a book – and why you’re invited!!!

 

 

I made this video for you while in Taos, New Mexico.

In it, I share:

    √ A great big dose of high-desert soul soothing goodness

    √ A true confession about something I do in my sleep

    √ An invitation to join my unique new project

    √ How I’m rewriting the rules – and how you can too!

Click HERE for all the details and to join!

Big love,

Tara