Demographics Schmemographics

Demographics Schmemographics

Demographics Schmemographics 

I will be first to tell you that it is absolutely amazing what happens and how your dream life takes shape when you make a commitment and show up for expert guidance and community support, cheering you on as you empower and elevate your relationship with yourself, your life, and the world around you. 

There’s no question that by staying engaged, powerful shifts inevitably happen. I’m talking about the kind of shifts that stop holding you back and stop keeping you from your dreams. 

AND – as great as all of this IS, I’ll also be first to tell you that it’s not for everyone. 

I absolutely want you to have that “oh, THERE I am!” feeling, and I want you to confidently CREATE from it. 

But it really doesn’t matter what I want.  🫥

In order for it to WORK for you, you have to also really want it for yourself. Because if you don’t, you won’t willingly look in the proverbial mirror and then lean in and challenge some ideas around your self-concept and beliefs you’ve adopted about what’s possible, true, or acceptable. 

For it to WORK for you, requires being willing to experiment with new ways of being, doing, and thinking that will inevitably make you uncomfortable.

Again, not for everyone. 

And if it’s not for you, or for you right now, that’s ok. 

In my 20 years as a coach, and having served clients ranging in age from 20-76, men and women, of various races, nationalities, people spanning 5 continents in a range of financial brackets, education levels, married, unmarried, parents, not parents, business owners, not business owners …  I have stopped trying to define my “typical clients” in terms of demographics. 

Labels and categories like education level, eye color, age, marital status, where you live, shop, etc… NONE of it has any bearing on whether this is for you. Nor does it lend any insight into the predictability of your results. 

What does?

Well, the answer lies in what’s on the INSIDE. 

It’s in what you yearn for, what dreams live in your heart and don’t go away. It’s in what you’re afraid of, what you believe, who you admire and want to be more like. And why. It’s in how honest you are willing to be about where you consistently get tripped up and tangled in the limits of your own knowledge and understanding.

And, last but certainly not least, it’s in whether or not you’re done struggling and trying to figure it all out by yourself. 

Only when that struggle TRULY gets old, will you show up for the journey and the process and embrace support for accelerated dream realization and self-actualization. 

Speaking frankly about my own journey, it for sure wasn’t the fact that I was living in a basement apartment, or that I was a college grad on a first name basis with collection agency reps that called me incessantly, or my having a therapist who admitted she was surprised I returned for another session, or the fact that my longest cohabitation relationship at the time was with my cat … these are not what made me a good prospect for dream realization. 

“Demographics” didn’t qualify me.

(They also didn’t disqualify me, but they, for sure, weren’t what made my success possible or predictable.)

What made me a contender was my relentlessness and willingness to stop repeating what wasn’t working. And my relentlessness and willingness to dream, despite my circumstances. And my unyielding REFUSAL to believe that my desires were seeded in my heart and head just to torture my soul. 

No.

I was determined that the dreams and desires in my heart were there to be followed – even though I didn’t have the first clue HOW to make them real and felt under-resourced in every possible way

And even though my mind, heart, and home (a.k.a. the Tara’tory) was a Wild West of horses I didn’t know how to ride. 

Nonetheless, I was determined. And driven by the spark of my desired FUTURE. 

I chose to believe that I was meant for something more, something bigger, something far more joyful, satisfying, and fulfilling. 

I chose to trust the wildly illogical thought that I was somehow here to help others, while also acknowledging that this meant I better get on with helping myself first. 

And I was willing to commit to the journey ahead, no matter how difficult. 

I was willing to learn, and be uncomfortable, and not know what I was doing, and show up anyway. Even when there was no trail, I entered the forest anyway. 

Ultimately, I decided that THIS was more appealing than staying in my uncomfortable-but-familiar-and-deeply-unsatisfying groundhog-day present. 

Learning how to operate differently is not for everyone. 

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok. 

Doing an honest self-assessment is not for everyone.

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok.

Willingly trying and failing is not for everyone.

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok.

Self-responsibility and owning your choices fully is not for everyone. 

And if it’s not for you, that’s ok.

Making conscious changes like saying “yes” where you usually say no, and “no” where you usually say yes, is not for everyone.

No judgment. 

I mean, hey, it certainly wasn’t always for me!

For many years, I wanted overnight success and was completely preoccupied with all of what was right in front of me. I wasn’t ready to accept responsibility for my circumstances and make changes accordingly. I wasn’t done looking for shortcuts and wishing someone would come save me. 

Truth is, I had to exhaust those options first before I would be ready for the kind of personal development and shifts that we’ll be exploring, uncovering, practicing, and implementing inside The Brule Breakers Club

Only if you’re ready for a compassionate, clear-eyed kick in the pants, is The Brule Breakers Club for you. Only if you’re ready for that, does it make sense for you to join us.

If you’re ready to spot and deconstruct any and all BS that is not serving you –  from the brules in your brain, to the systemic, societal, and familial brules we’ve all been steeped in by the mere fact of being born – then join us today

With minimal investment, you’ll have TONS of support (from not only me, but the other members of this awesome community) as you successfully break brules and shift into positive powerful productive new patterns. 

If this is what you’re ready for, step inside…where I am an open book, sharing things that have been helping others for decades in my private coaching, now available to YOU in The Brule Breakers Club. 

Love, 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

“I’ve seen your stuff about Brule Breakers Club. Will this actually work for me?”

I get it. You’ve tried other things before, as we talked about in this message. And of course there’s the question of “do I have enough time for this, I’ve got responsibilities,” and maybe you’re concerned about what making changes will mean for you.

Again, I get it. 

But here’s the thing. 

If you:

  • Have a dream or goal that you really want to achieve, but haven’t yet
  • Feel restless and like there’s got to be more to life than this
  • Are uninspired by status quo repetition and predictably  
  • Want to BE who you know, deep inside, that you can be  
  • Never want to regret NOT going for the dreams that live in your heart and that don’t, and won’t, go away
  • Feel isolated or tired of trying to figure all this out by yourself

Then, this program is for YOU and this truth-telling message is better than any fortune cookie. 🥠

Turning the page on Survival Mode and starting the next chapter – “Thrival” Mode – doesn’t happen automatically, for two reasons:

  1. It requires time and effort to learn new skills, establish new habits, and build new levels of understanding.
  2. In addition to your life being alive and in motion, its own in-flux system, you are also in relationship with other systems – other living, breathing beings and social and societal constructs – that also are in flux and alive with motion, direction, desires, and no shortage of brules. 🥴

This is why anyone who tells you (or sells you) on one formula or a guaranteed path is either foolish enough to believe that or isn’t telling you the truth.

If you are wondering if The Brule Breakers Club will work for you, here are my crystal ball predictions:

Let me preface this by saying, having doubts and questions is absolutely 100% normal.

This is not a problem.

Sometimes people – even my clients, on occasion – fight to convince me that they can’t realize their dreams, that they can’t move the blocks, and that things just won’t work for them. (This belief that they can’t is what I call “the brain behind the brules.”)

What becomes PROBLEMATIC is when, due to these totally normal doubts and questions, people sit on the fence forever … questioning and questioning and questioning whether something will “work for them.” 

Prediction #1:

It for sure won’t work with a fencepost under your rear! 🤓

When it comes to applied psychology, behavior modification and belief modification must go hand-in-hand because one without the other simply doesn’t work and isn’t sustainable. 

A willing mindset is key. So, if you are someone who holds tight to that fence and to “this WON’T work for me”… and refuse to open up to the possibility that it WILL … and if you are someone who prefers to dig your heels in and insist that you “can’t,” and you are steadfast in the belief that you can’t change your beliefs… then this might not be the Club for you. 

IF, on the other hand, rather than dig your heels in and hold tight to the belief that you can’t…

√ You are willing to doubt your doubt, recognize that you are a living, breathing, evolving being, and celebrate that embracing this means embracing expanding possibilities and untapped potential…

and

√ You are someone who understands that getting results isn’t about what you know, it’s about what you IMPLEMENT and practice…

Then, 

Prediction #2:

Heck yeah! You are likely to get an enormous amount of value from your membership

You can’t just put a date on the calendar and consider it done. But what you CAN do to speed up your progress is commit to the process of BECOMING the person who would have the life you want. By embodying and intentionally constructing the YOU you will be without all those blind spots hiding in the shadows, and without all those limiting beliefs you currently accept as (or at least act as if they are) true, AND without those obstacles that you keep repeatedly stubbing your toe on, the likelihood of your breakthroughs and your desired results increases exponentially!

Brules are sneaky bastards, and I’m here for you through ALL of it.

In The Brule Breakers Club, we’re going to tell the truth and focus on what is in your control. You are not in control of all the pieces and all the relationships and you can’t “make” other people or systems respond like you wish they would, when you wish they would. 

But – you 100% CAN show up for yourself in ways that are self-trusting, self-affirming, congruent, and powerfully aligned with who you are here to BE. When you do THAT, new paths are found, and you learn who you are and what you’re capable of.

Rather than continue to let brules hold you back, let’s make the unseen visible so that you can shift it. 

Prediction #3:

Making such changes may make you feel a bit uncomfortable at first, but it’s also what supports your desired outcomes, personal empowerment, growth and transformation. It’s what enables you to make – and maintain – positive changes so that you THRIVE!

☝️ This is why I highly recommend taking advantage of the annual membership option. (monthly membership is also available)

Come join us! Be “in the room” for deconstruction of the countless brules that hold you back.

To support The Brule Breakers Club container, culture, mission, objectives and purpose, the brules we explore and deconstruct inside The Brule Breakers Club are exclusively focused on the brules outlined in my book, The Brules of Life: 15 Bullshit Rules to Break for a No-Vacation-Needed Life + the 15 brules I’ll be sharing in my NEXT book, and future books. (That’ll be 60 brules in total! As a member, you will receive not only the Table of Contents for future books as they are outlined, but also pre-release chapters, with discussion and coaching around them.)

All of THIS, when shared within a community of support, is what predictably creates, amplifies and accelerates your results.

With so much love, 

Fortune-teller Tara  🔮

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

P.S. Have questions? Curious to learn how brule breaking can help YOU? Reach out for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity. You just have a few days left to join for the remaining bonuses!  

Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day ??

Ever hear of “Quitters Day”? 

It’s a pseudo-holiday, the second Friday in January. It’s the day when most people quit on their New Year resolutions. 

Research shows that only 9% of Americans that make resolutions complete them, and 23% of people quit their resolutions by the end of the first WEEK! A whopping 43% quit by the end of January. 

Given this data, Quitters Day seems to mark a day that many people “observe.”

I personally think resolutions shouldn’t start until February. 

I am an advocate of January being a month that’s focused purely on reflecting and regrouping. Reflecting on the year that’s passed and reorganizing your space, and your mind, to set clear intentions and ready yourself for what’s to come.

Only from THIS clarity can you really, in fairness, determine what’s most important to you and create an actual plan to implement what you’re resolving to DO about it. You need some time to sort it all out, to get your ducks in a row and set an executable plan into motion for the coming months and year … for HOW you’re going to actually CREATE your desired changes.

It’s too important to rush. 

Don’t blame yourself if you’ve been guilty of quitting on resolutions before you really start.

It’s not you. The cultural expectation of January 1st-resolution-setting is innately flawed. It sets you up to fail.

Premature resolution-setting, combined with a lack of a doable plan of action, and more often than not, without the right accountability team of support helping to ensure it happens – fine-tuning as needed along the way (because this too is part of actually DOING it)  – is, in large part, WHY most resolutions fail, almost as soon as they start!

Take a brule-breaking approach to planning out your new year with a refreshingly unconventional approach and strategic plan for a year of “thrival.” This is what will have you feeling grounded, organized, and excited about your “resolutions”… crystal clear about what you want and what to focus on next.

Launch into a year of transformation (anytime!) by joining the last life coaching program you’ll ever need.

Unlock liberating, life enhancing, brule breaking freedoms and delights so that you can fulfill your dreams and desires and BE who you are here to be – now and later.

Invaluable!

Claim your membership now: Become a Brule Breakers Club member today!

Love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

Brule – a sassy word to know AND understand!

Brule – a sassy word to know AND understand!

Brule is not just a sassy word to know, it’s also a word to understand!

On September 23rd, I’ll be sharing something I’ve never before shared publicly: a personal story about navigating a huge blind spot. Other than the exception of a few close friends, I never imagined I’d be telling this story. After some debate, I’ve decided to do it for one reason: it is the best way I know to demonstrate a teaching that has the power to change lives.

So share, I will. And – you’re invited to be in the room when I do.

Inspired by my book, The Brules of Life, I am hosting The Brule Breakers Brunch – a special in-person gathering for people who want to break the “brules” that hold them back from the life they desire.

In case you’re not familiar with the term, “brule” is sassy slang, for bullsh*t rules. 😜 BUT – it’s so much more than a sassy word!

Brules are psychological and behavioral blind spots that impede and prevent people from thriving. And they’re sneaky. They tend to hide in plain sight! (read: We ALL have them!) 

Like, for example, “Be independent” is a brule. Independence is a lie. A delusion. A myth. An impossible goal given that the truth of our interdependence is inherent and unavoidable, with evidence of this fact everywhere! (See chapter 7 in The Brules of Life for more on this critical brule to break, especially if you’re someone who feels stubborn pride – as I did before I busted through this brule – about your so-called “independence.”)

The brules that tend to hold us back the most are the ones that SEEM true and therefore go unquestioned and remain a blind spot in your unconscious, impeding you from thriving.

Blind spots happen when “brules” become embodied beliefs. 

Understanding the significance of what this word really means and really represents for YOU is critically important to everything you desire in life … because seeing a blind spot and breaking even ONE brule can change the trajectory of your entire life. 

It did mine!

Brule is a sassy word to know AND understand!

What if … you are just one shift, one decision, one brule-busting breakthrough away from everything you want? 

I will be presenting at a special first-of-its-kind event in Exeter, New Hampshire (1 hour from Boston, 2 hours from Providence, 30 minutes from Portsmouth Airport). 

JOIN ME for this special in-person event!

In addition to good food, new friends, raffle prizes and presents, you will learn:

  • the applied psychology of brule-breaking
  • how to go beyond seeming “limits” to create the life you think you cannot have
  • how to powerfully deconstruct any brule
  • the top 3 brules to break and how breaking them can open the door to a new kind of freedom. 

This is an intimate event – space is very limited.

If you can be there, great!  Save your seat here. I can’t wait to see you!

If you can’t be there on September 23 but still want to learn more about brules … I’ve got something for you too: Grab my FREE Book of Brules bonus chapter,The Only Skill You Ever Need. Learn the skill that makes all the difference, especially if dreaming feels carefree in ways that you do not.

Every time I sit down to write to you, my goal is (1) to provide thoughtful ways for you to feel more free and get to know yourself better, (2) to inspire you to trust your dreams more than your fears/more than you did yesterday and (3) offer some ideas for how to develop the personal habits and actions that make those dreams REAL. 

In this bonus chapter, I believe I have done all three.

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To success on your own terms, 

5 quirky confessions & unconventional résumé builders

5 quirky confessions & unconventional résumé builders

Every time I sit down to write to you, my goal is threefold: (1) to provide thoughtful ways for you to feel more free and get to know yourself better, (2) inspire you to trust your dreams more than your fears/more than you did yesterday, and (3) offer some ideas for how to develop the personal habits and actions that make those dreams REAL.

Here are 5 quirky confessions, things that’ll help you understand why this drives me, week after week. A unique résumé, of sorts.

1. I cut my own hair

For many years now, I’ve been cutting my own hair. It’s not perfect – but it’s good enough. (It grows back.) And, like most things, the more I do it, the better I get at it. Regular hair appointments never felt like something I wanted to do. I wanted the result, but not the experience of making the appointment, having to devote a good chunk of an afternoon to drive to the appointment, find parking, sit in the chair, endure small talk, hear small talk from others nearby, wash, rinse, dry, more small talk, pay, leave, repeat … all for a haircut! No thanks. For a while, in an effort to extend the time between haircuts, I asked for a cut that was shorter than what I actually wanted. “I’ll like it in three weeks,” I told myself. Until I finally said, screw that and started cutting my own hair. Now, I keep my hair the length I want, all the time. And – I save time, money, energy, and small talk. Things to gleam from this: There are no “have tos”. You get to choose which “norms” you subscribe to. Don’t let the beauty industry (or any industry) tell you how to think or what to do. You can do brave big little things that add up, and save you time, energy, money, and frustration. Why settle or tolerate? There are many ways to get the results that you want.

2. I am location-independent

An RV nomad for more than 5 years, I call an Airstream home. In other words, ‘make life an adventure’ isn’t a trite sentiment, it’s a way of life! You of course don’t have to live in an Airstream or travel if that’s not your thing. But, whatever horizons are calling YOU, you can be darn sure that I hold them as valid, important, and inspired (even if it makes about as much rational sense as the shoe-lover that I am, calling a 27’ condo-on-wheels with far too little closet space, home). 😀 As your coach, I support you every step of the way, ensuring that you have a full tank of fuel and the guidance needed to skillfully navigate and accelerate your way to the life YOU dream of for yourself. 

3. I ran away as a kid

If you feel a bit like a caged bird, trapped in any way – be it in a job, home, body, relationship, or [fill in the blank with your own] – constrained by the belief you can’t actually have the life you really want… I empathic-ly and viscerally FEEL that. As your coach, I help you climb out of that metaphorical window and create the freedom you want. I will be running down that street with you, there for the gleeful moments, the sob-it-out moments, and the “what now?” moments. AND – because we’re grown ups and know that true freedom isn’t about what you run from, we’ll get you crystal clear on the life you want to be running toward and set you up with a proven process to get there, full steam ahead! Because creating a life you love is a ridiculous thing to put off, amiright?

4. I believe life is art

Your life is an original work. You are here to create something as unique as you are. Something I have said many times is, “I don’t know what I think until I write it down.” For me, writing is central to my own artful creative life. It’s a place where I find myself, express myself, reveal myself, and clarify what I feel, think, want, and know. Creativity is life force and MUST be expressed for life to be truly satisfying and gratifying. While writing is a primary way that I find my own full expression, it need not be your way – obviously. Your way is your way, and I respect and hold in the highest regard YOUR bubbling creativity and the importance of you finding your unique way to full expression. I am well-versed in the realm of creativity, both as a creator and a connoisseur, and will always respect, encourage, and support your unique process.

5. I’m a life coach who salsa dances

What this means for you is that when you hire me and I do a happy dance to celebrate your successes (of which there will be many!) … my booty shakes, my shoulders shimmy, and I happily dance loooong after my feet hurt.

There you have it. Five rather unconventional credentials, but “cred” nonetheless. In some ways perhaps even more important than my formal education, certifications, Bachelors and Masters degrees!

What do you think?

Comment below and let’s have some fun with this. Share a quirky unconventional example of your own credibility!

I’m not a magician, but I do spark some magic

I’m not a magician, but I do spark some magic

As responsible grown-up humans who get to decide such things, the exchange my clients and I agree on, is one of value.

A burnt-out bank executive who achieved all the markers of “success” was able to tell his family how he really feels, make a major career shift, find a new kind of rhythm in his life, and grow his hair out – a symbolic and liberating choice made with profound and newfound joy.

A cancer survivor and former economist built her photography business, became a mindfulness practitioner, and increased her sales revenue 117% during our year of coaching together.

A dental hygienist, single mother of three grown sons, fulfilled her dream of moving to Costa Rica. (I was invited by her sister to the surprise farewell party.)

A client was able to visualize, believe herself worthy of – and then successfully negotiate for – a salary that was 40% higher than the one she was originally going to ask for.

An aspiring actor went after the dream career he wondered if was possible. (He’s now an equity actor’s association member and you may have seen him on one of his TV debuts).

A woman decided to leave the corporate world that had her falling into bed at night sad and exhausted, to create a life that, in her words, is “totally blossoming.”

A leadership coach doubled her income and generated her best revenue year in business while having more fun, spending her time how she chooses.

A frustrated professional organizer went from stressed out, a “lone ranger” caught in I’ll-do-it-myself energy, to shifting her worldview and choices for a life of joy, freedom, and teamwork.

A weary elementary school teacher created a business that leveraged her gifts in a way that “feels like play.”

An aspiring stationary artist went from daunted and intimidated by her “maybe someday” dream, to actively pursuing and well on her way to running a full-time letterpress studio, after only a few months of coaching together.

A business owner developed a signature talk and strategically accessed a network of organizations eager for her to share her work with their members, the exact target market her offerings are designed to serve.

Countless others have cleared blind spots and roadblocks from their path, shifted the trajectory of their life, and put a clear custom-designed plan into motion for more joy, freedom, and satisfaction.

I have ALSO had clients quit mid-way through and not get the results they wanted. (I’m a coach, not a magician.)

While I of course can’t guarantee YOUR results, what I can guarantee is that, as your coach, I will have your back 110%, every step of the way, holding nothing back, and will provide you with the tools and strategies to help you make it happen.

As long as you’re here for it, I will be here for it. We’ll work together to create a space and a world and a life where your dreams are real and your life feels good and you are satisfied and supported.

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To your success,