Why your complaints and frustrations matter

Why your complaints and frustrations matter

In my book, The Brules of Life, I share that prior to starting my business, I was:
– in a 9-5 job
– drowning in student loan debt
– living in a basement apartment with my cat
At that time in my life, I had no shortage of complaints about these circumstances. And yet, each one of them informed and inspired me to move in the direction of what I wanted.

This is available for you too .

Your complaints and frustrations are a nudge from your inner wisdom about what’s not fully aligned for you. 

This is GOLD!

Discontent is fuel for transformation. Sometimes tolerating too many “nos” in your life clutters up your mental bandwidth, making it difficult to be able to envision what you want with any degree of clarity or focus.

So, the good news:

When you hear those complaints and frustrations as a “no, this isn’t fully aligned for me” nudge … and you let that ‘NO’ go, you’ll have SPACE and will be that much more able to tune in and acknowledge the juicy awareness of the dreams and desires that are letting you know they are there.

“Nos” can serve as a powerful detour and avenue to an incredible amount of “yes”-filled clarity.

Your deepest dreams and desires await.

In my 6-week No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training, I help you amp up this clarity, deepen your awareness, and activate your confidence and commitment to create what you want and live into YOUR “Zone of Yes” life.

Learn more and claim your seat today – just $197.

Tara Sage

PS – Know you’re ready for this year to look different than last? Want to really take that fuel of discontent and transform your life into something that’s fully aligned for YOU? There are a few spots left for my free Top Shelf Assessment. Here’s how to claim it.
Think you know me?

Think you know me?

I’ve grown, and though you may think you know what I’m going to say, allow me to (re)introduce myself.

First, the basics:

I’m a life coach, digital nomad, bestselling author, professional speaker, made-up word lover, amateur salsa dancer, and blanket hog who often wonders out loud if I should call myself a Self-Actualization Coach because my true north and the driving force behind all my work is the belief that dream acceleration is REALLY about self-actualization.

Here’s a bit of my story and why I’ve been musing on such things:

On a good day, I felt restless. On a bad day, I felt like a caged animal.

Exasperated, I came home from work to my dark, musty, basement apartment – a glaring reminder that I was not just figuratively, but literally, underground. Drowning in student loan debt, I rarely answered my phone because collection agencies were calling me daily. Trying to find my way in the world wasn’t easy. All the emotional and practical baggage of difficult family dynamics and estrangement seemed to all be hitting me at once. Much of it not my fault, I felt like a victim of circumstances who was dealt an unfortunate hand. I felt profoundly alone in my struggles.

The job I begrudgingly got at an Ivy League university to establish some stability, looked good on paper, but my soul was dying, a little more every day. If I had to sit through one more hour-long meeting that could have been communicated by an email, I was going to lose it! Things were done in inefficient ways for no reason other than it’s the way they’d always done it. This felt archaic to me, but rethinking conventions wasn’t welcomed or encouraged. Waiting for that clock on the wall to say 5:00 felt like an insult to my personal integrity and pride, not to mention that I had finished my work hours earlier. The starched button down shirt I wore, because I thought I should, felt like a straight-jacket, a costume that belonged to someone else – but not me.

I knew I couldn’t stay.

While going through the motions on all the things I thought I was supposed to do, I was losing myself. On autopilot, I’d drive to work, or the grocery store, or the gym (when I could get myself to go) feeling more and more disconnected from who I was. I wasn’t challenged. I wasn’t inspired. I felt contained, micro-managed, and caught in status quo games that I didn’t want to play. I felt like I was drowning, and I knew no one was coming to save me.

Underneath my restlessness and frustration, was a growing sense that I was meant for MORE, that this couldn’t possibly be all I was meant to do, be, or have.

I knew I needed to take the reins and reshape my life, to reshape my reality, to figure out how to not live in a basement forever, to create a life that was my own, that reflected the truth of who I was.

It was from that dark musty basement apartment, that I gazed out that teeny-tiny window with a view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by … and I’d dream.

I dreamed of having the freedom to travel when and where I please. I dreamed of having my own location-independent company so that I could work from anywhere. I dreamed of a home with lots of natural light. I dreamed of becoming a bestselling author. I dreamed of wealth on my own terms. I dreamed of finding love. I dreamed of having time and energy for creativity and play. I dreamed of making a positive impact, serving others in meaningful ways that made their life better. I dreamed of being myself without boundaries.

The voice of my soul and seeds of my own self-actualization were surfacing

Naming my dreams felt so powerful. I acknowledged the dreams in my heart and imagined what my life could be – despite having absolutely no idea how to make ANY of it happen at the time.

People said my dreams were impossible, that I should “settle down,” stay at my job, just be more grateful. They were wrong.

Not only have I achieved my “impossible” dreams and the freedom I so craved, I’ve built a business around helping YOU chart your own course, live your dreams, and create the life you think you cannot have. I have coached thousands to go beyond striving, wishing, and “someday-ing,” to experience the true freedom life has to offer. Rethinking conventions and challenging status quo “have tos,” while helping people rediscover themselves and realize what’s possible, has made for a profoundly fulfilling, decades-long career. Looking to the horizon, I am expanding my impact daily, determined to reach millions of people with my writing, coaching, and speaking.

Your dreams, like mine, are fuel on your path to self-actualization.

Regardless of the specifics of what your dreams are, I stand for them as by-products and bonus results of your becoming. Who you become in the process is the real win, and how you grow and stretch into being the person who would have them is the real work. (It’s also where the biggest rewards are found.)

I help you create the life you think you cannot have while becoming the person you are meant to be.

What is the life YOU think you cannot have ? Who do you need to become in order to create it?

Love,

PS – If you are ready for self-actualization with a side of dream realization, I am opening up 5 spots for my FREE Top Shelf Session with Tara Assessment, a 1:1 conversation where you will gain clarity on your dreams and how they reflect and empower the person you are becoming, insight into what’s been holding you back, and a renewed sense of hope about how to courageously break free of obstacles to achieve what you want with a customized strategic plan for your desired future.

 

Pellegrino message in a bottle

Pellegrino message in a bottle

The year was 2007.

I was leading an in-person group (remember those?) as part of a 6-week program I called The Dream Circle. On this particular day, seated in a circle, I asked everyone to look around the room and silently make note of everything in the room that was red.

A minute or so later, I had them close their eyes and take a breath.

Keeping their eyes closed, I asked them to bring to mind everything in the room that was green.

A few nervous giggles filled the space, per usual. I’d led this exercise many times before, but on this day something especially memorable followed…

After allowing ample time to silently recall what they could of “green”, I invited them to open their eyes and look around to see if there was any green present in the room that they didn’t recall.

Several laughed out loud, pointing at the green Pellegrino bottle that was on the table in the center of the circle … many of whom vividly remembered the red star on that very bottle!

I love this exercise.

It does such a great job of teaching that: we find what we look for.

Tunnel vision doesn’t just prevent us from seeing what we don’t want to see, it also prevents us from seeing and discovering that which we WANT to find, but don’t look for – perhaps because we don’t believe it’s there, or possible for us.

What you want could be right in front of you, yet wholly invisible to you.

The kicker is …

     You can’t create what you can’t see.

     You can’t experience what you can’t imagine.

     And, you find what you look for.

So, what are YOU looking for?

Since you and I are connected, I’m going to venture a guess that whatever it is you are looking for … ultimately, you want a life that feels free, and fun. A life where you thrive – not just somedays, but everyday. A life where you’re no longer waiting to feel accomplished or fulfilled. A life where you’re fully and unapologetically YOU, living in a way that reflects this. Where the truth of your whole, authentic, boundless self is ALIVE and free.

Am I close ?

What if I told you … that what you want is within arm’s reach, just like that Pellegrino bottle was to everyone in that circle.

What if I told you … that what’s holding you back – both from reaching for it, even seeing it – is a blind spot that’s not your fault.

What if I told you … that what seems just out of reach, can quickly become available to you.

What if I told you … that the reason it feels so elusive is you have been socially programmed to believe status quo conventions and false constructs, also known as “brules.”

Like a house built on sand, these brules (bullshit rules) cause you to sink and settle.

You are meant to RISE.

What if I told you … that everything you want is just a few brule-breaking shifts away.

Here’s how it works:

Once you become aware of a previous blind spot, when brules no longer hide in plain sight … you become willing to not only see things differently, you start to show up differently.

When a foundational shift in perception happens for you, your reality changes.

Sometimes, like the Pellegrino bottle example, you come to see what was there all along!

What you previously believed to be impossible or unrealistic, suddenly isn’t.

Reality didn’t change. You did. 

It all begins with just a few shifts – in perception, belief, behavior.

Your old “imaginary” or “impossible” can quickly become your new reality.

The Brule Breakers Club is your invitation to make those shifts, quickly, joyfully, and with an incredible community of support. We are going to shine a big brilliant light on the brules that are holding you back, hiding in plain sight.

This is the compassionate clear-eyed kick in the pants you’ve been waiting for.

This is your next evolution.

Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t settle.

It is time, for you, to LIVE your unique-to-you no-vacation-needed life!

The Brule Breakers Club lifetime membership is going to help you connect the dots so that you can finally have what you want out of life, all within an extraordinary community of support.

We all have our lone ranger tendencies, but this isn’t something to try to do by yourself. Why? Because brule breaking can get confusing – fast. This socially accepted nonsense is baked in to every system, and every habit, and every everything. Assumed to be unquestionably true by many, this only further allows them to go unnoticed and continue to hide in plain sight.

But – once you join The Brule Breakers Club and you see all these baked-in brules, you won’t be able to unsee them. You can break free and make the small shifts that are going to make the biggest difference for you.

For all the juicy details and to join us, click here!

Big love,

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The Expanding Tara-tour-y!

If you’ve been following my recent journey, you know that I’ve embarked on an exciting new adventure in nomadic living and remote working. Together with my boyfriend and dog, we are on an open-ended road trip in our 20-foot RV/mobile tiny house.

Last week we were lakeside in northern North Carolina [enjoying sunsets, campfires, simplicity and peaceful serenity while we did our work and followed the rhythms of nature]. The week before, we were in Richmond, VA [went salsa dancing, went on a walking tour of the Liberty Trail, ate yummy falafel, and on Sunday tooled around an artsy little area called Carytown …with no cares about time or to-do’s – the way Sunday is supposed to feel but honestly hadn’t in years…]

And now we’re in the Raleigh/Wake Forest area staying with my step-sister Kellie and her delightful family. Well technically, we’re their driveway neighbors since we brought our house with us and hooked it up to their water and electric. And today, my friend, soul sister, and mastermind colleague, Marcy, had me over for a delicious homemade lunch. So good to see her!

If home is where the heart is, than my home spans continents. I chose this nomadic lifestyle, in part, because it means I can visit friends and family that I don’t get to see very often. It’s a real treat to be getting some in-person time with people I missed, and feeling right at home.

It’s part of what I’m calling ‘The Tara-tour-y’. Get it?

I’m on tour, and I’m my own agent. Our loose plan is to head south and then west.

Want to join the tour?

Want to meet for a bite, and maybe an interview? Want to host us in your driveway? Want to help me line up a book signing in your town? Or a workshop in your living room? Let me know! Let’s see what we can do to coordinate our paths crossing…

Here’s to the unfolding journey! 

xo

Tara Sage

Master Coach, Possibility Queen, Author, Speaker, Nomad, Salsera, Life Hack Pro, Location-independent business owner.