I used to have a lot of head-trash about being seen, about being “big,” as in … “don’t get too big for your britches” … “you’re too loud/proud/bold” … “Who do you think you ARE?”
I wasn’t sure what “being famous” meant exactly, let alone if I wanted it. But if I did want it … was that BAD? Was I bad? Too showy? Who was I to think I could be famous for my work?
On the day my book came out, and quickly hit bestsellers lists, I cried – big, heaving, happy horse-tears. Having my labor of love, The Brules of Life books, PRINTED and in the hands of people across the country and around the world … was a big effing deal! It marked the culmination of an EXTRAORDINARY amount of work, focus, determination, heart, and grit.
From head-trash to brule breaker…
From largely unknown, to my name on a bestselling book…
And from being able to serve a small number of clients, to having a product that can reach – and teach – through a global marketplace…
It was a milestone indeed!
This week, my definition of “brule” (listed on Urban Dictionary) has more than 1,000 likes, and counting, and is listed first in “brule” definitions.
AND – even more exciting – my article, “Brules Are Made to Be Broken”, has been featured in the Dec/Jan issue of Aspire Magazine.
Every PR mention of “brules” and me, reaching many thousands of people, is cause for celebration. 😊
That said, it can also be kind of strange to have people I don’t know, who know me. Since some of the stories I share in my book are rather personal, they legitimately know quite a bit about me, so it makes sense that they feel that.
Like, last weekend, I attended a funeral with Carl, a celebration of life for the passing of his 105-year-old great-aunt. When we arrived, I was greeted by one of his cousins who I was meeting for the first time. She hugged me and told me she has my book.
It’s interesting to have my book precede me.
A few months ago, a friend and I went to see a band. While we were there, my friend ran into someone she knew. They were chatting away when the woman she was speaking to stopped, looked at me, and said, “Are you Tara Sage?” She knew my work.
It’s fun to learn that my work is reaching people that I don’t know or haven’t met.
Something you may not know about me is that I am child-free by choice. The older I get, this fact only further reinforces the depth with which my books and the ripple-effect of my work is, in large part, my legacy.
My books are a true extension of my heart. They are roaming the world, meeting people I’ve never met, and creating their own ripple-effect in the world-at-large. I’m proud of them. And I have more books to write. And MANY more people I aspire to serve with this work.
I want to leave this world feeling EMPTIED, having poured myself into what will outlive me.
My writing, my coaching, my message, my methods, my brule breaking no-BS teachings and how-tos are what really make this work come alive, in your LIFE.
I no longer shy away from the fact that, yes, I am KNOWN (which is essentially what I think “famous” means). And I want it for one simple reason: because this is HOW I am able to serve and teach and touch the lives of more people.
My books, my coaching, my thought leadership … These are the vehicles for how I empower and impact the lives of others and successfully realize the legacy of what I want to leave behind. (At 48-years-young, I’m just getting started!)
A FUN CONTEST ANNOUNCEMENT!
I want to make YOU (or someone you know) “famous” too!
I want to share and broaden the brule breaker spotlight. 😊 #BruleBreakerSpotlight
Who do you know that deserves a #brulebreaker nomination?
Who do you know who is a Brule Breaker? Consider, who do you know that does it their way, who questions the “this is just the way it is” or “this is just how I am” brules that they were given and creates their dream life, success, and more?
To nominate a brule breaker… (and, YES, in true #brulebreaker fashion, you can totally nominate yourself, and YES, you can totally nominate more than one person!) – create a social media post with the hashtag #BruleBreakerSpotlight
In your post, tell me a bit about what makes them (or you) a trail-blazing brule-breaking march-to-the-beat-of-their-own-drummer standout! Make sure your post is set to PUBLIC (commenting under a post doesn’t count as a nomination, and posts that only your friends can see won’t qualify). Post it with the hashtag #BruleBreakerSpotlight so that I can find it.
On December 18th, I will select and announce one (maybe two) #BruleBreakerSpotlight winners!
Want to break the “don’t get too big for your britches” brule, and have your extraordinary BS-busting #brulebreaker self shared over the Interwebs for all to see and celebrate? Want a #BruleBreakerSpotlight profile on my blog and in my newsletter with links for where people can connect with you for more of your greatness? The #BruleBreakerSpotlight winner will ALSO receive a surprise “brules merch” gift-in-the-mail, and coupon good for 20% savings on one Brule Breakers Club annual membership for you or someone you know.
Every brule broken deserves to be celebrated. And we all want to celebrate and see YOU, Brule Breaker!
Get ready to be #BruleBreakerSpotlight famous:
- Post a picture of The Brules of Life – it could be a picture you take, or you can reshare the “Nominate a Brule Breaker!” #bookpic that I am sharing with you here. (Bonus points if you add a video featuring your copy of The Brules of Life.)
- Set your post to PUBLIC.
- Tag me @tarasagecoaching along with the hashtag #BruleBreakerSpotlight with your nomination or story as to why you, or someone you know, is a #brulebreaker. Extra points for creativity, humor, boldness, and stories that warm the heart.
Here’s to unapologetically big britches,
– in a 9-5 job
– drowning in student loan debt
– living in a basement apartment with my cat
At that time in my life, I had no shortage of complaints about these circumstances. And yet, each one of them informed and inspired me to move in the direction of what I wanted.
This is available for you too .
Your complaints and frustrations are a nudge from your inner wisdom about what’s not fully aligned for you.
This is GOLD!
Discontent is fuel for transformation. Sometimes tolerating too many “nos” in your life clutters up your mental bandwidth, making it difficult to be able to envision what you want with any degree of clarity or focus.
So, the good news:
When you hear those complaints and frustrations as a “no, this isn’t fully aligned for me” nudge … and you let that ‘NO’ go, you’ll have SPACE and will be that much more able to tune in and acknowledge the juicy awareness of the dreams and desires that are letting you know they are there.
“Nos” can serve as a powerful detour and avenue to an incredible amount of “yes”-filled clarity.
Your deepest dreams and desires await.
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I’ve grown, and though you may think you know what I’m going to say, allow me to (re)introduce myself.
First, the basics:
I’m a life coach, digital nomad, bestselling author, professional speaker, made-up word lover, amateur salsa dancer, and blanket hog who often wonders out loud if I should call myself a Self-Actualization Coach because my true north and the driving force behind all my work is the belief that dream acceleration is REALLY about self-actualization.
Here’s a bit of my story and why I’ve been musing on such things:
On a good day, I felt restless. On a bad day, I felt like a caged animal.
Exasperated, I came home from work to my dark, musty, basement apartment – a glaring reminder that I was not just figuratively, but literally, underground. Drowning in student loan debt, I rarely answered my phone because collection agencies were calling me daily. Trying to find my way in the world wasn’t easy. All the emotional and practical baggage of difficult family dynamics and estrangement seemed to all be hitting me at once. Much of it not my fault, I felt like a victim of circumstances who was dealt an unfortunate hand. I felt profoundly alone in my struggles.
The job I begrudgingly got at an Ivy League university to establish some stability, looked good on paper, but my soul was dying, a little more every day. If I had to sit through one more hour-long meeting that could have been communicated by an email, I was going to lose it! Things were done in inefficient ways for no reason other than it’s the way they’d always done it. This felt archaic to me, but rethinking conventions wasn’t welcomed or encouraged. Waiting for that clock on the wall to say 5:00 felt like an insult to my personal integrity and pride, not to mention that I had finished my work hours earlier. The starched button down shirt I wore, because I thought I should, felt like a straight-jacket, a costume that belonged to someone else – but not me.
I knew I couldn’t stay.
While going through the motions on all the things I thought I was supposed to do, I was losing myself. On autopilot, I’d drive to work, or the grocery store, or the gym (when I could get myself to go) feeling more and more disconnected from who I was. I wasn’t challenged. I wasn’t inspired. I felt contained, micro-managed, and caught in status quo games that I didn’t want to play. I felt like I was drowning, and I knew no one was coming to save me.
Underneath my restlessness and frustration, was a growing sense that I was meant for MORE, that this couldn’t possibly be all I was meant to do, be, or have.
I knew I needed to take the reins and reshape my life, to reshape my reality, to figure out how to not live in a basement forever, to create a life that was my own, that reflected the truth of who I was.
It was from that dark musty basement apartment, that I gazed out that teeny-tiny window with a view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by … and I’d dream.
I dreamed of having the freedom to travel when and where I please. I dreamed of having my own location-independent company so that I could work from anywhere. I dreamed of a home with lots of natural light. I dreamed of becoming a bestselling author. I dreamed of wealth on my own terms. I dreamed of finding love. I dreamed of having time and energy for creativity and play. I dreamed of making a positive impact, serving others in meaningful ways that made their life better. I dreamed of being myself without boundaries.
The voice of my soul and seeds of my own self-actualization were surfacing.
Naming my dreams felt so powerful. I acknowledged the dreams in my heart and imagined what my life could be – despite having absolutely no idea how to make ANY of it happen at the time.
People said my dreams were impossible, that I should “settle down,” stay at my job, just be more grateful. They were wrong.
Not only have I achieved my “impossible” dreams and the freedom I so craved, I’ve built a business around helping YOU chart your own course, live your dreams, and create the life you think you cannot have. I have coached thousands to go beyond striving, wishing, and “someday-ing,” to experience the true freedom life has to offer. Rethinking conventions and challenging status quo “have tos,” while helping people rediscover themselves and realize what’s possible, has made for a profoundly fulfilling, decades-long career. Looking to the horizon, I am expanding my impact daily, determined to reach millions of people with my writing, coaching, and speaking.
Your dreams, like mine, are fuel on your path to self-actualization.
Regardless of the specifics of what your dreams are, I stand for them as by-products and bonus results of your becoming. Who you become in the process is the real win, and how you grow and stretch into being the person who would have them is the real work. (It’s also where the biggest rewards are found.)
I help you create the life you think you cannot have while becoming the person you are meant to be.
What is the life YOU think you cannot have ? Who do you need to become in order to create it?
PS – If you are ready for self-actualization with a side of dream realization, I am opening up 5 spots for my FREE Top Shelf Session with Tara Assessment, a 1:1 conversation where you will gain clarity on your dreams and how they reflect and empower the person you are becoming, insight into what’s been holding you back, and a renewed sense of hope about how to courageously break free of obstacles to achieve what you want with a customized strategic plan for your desired future.
If you’ve been following my recent journey, you know that I’ve embarked on an exciting new adventure in nomadic living and remote working. Together with my boyfriend and dog, we are on an open-ended road trip in our 20-foot RV/mobile tiny house.
Last week we were lakeside in northern North Carolina [enjoying sunsets, campfires, simplicity and peaceful serenity while we did our work and followed the rhythms of nature]. The week before, we were in Richmond, VA [went salsa dancing, went on a walking tour of the Liberty Trail, ate yummy falafel, and on Sunday tooled around an artsy little area called Carytown …with no cares about time or to-do’s – the way Sunday is supposed to feel but honestly hadn’t in years…]
And now we’re in the Raleigh/Wake Forest area staying with my step-sister Kellie and her delightful family. Well technically, we’re their driveway neighbors since we brought our house with us and hooked it up to their water and electric. And today, my friend, soul sister, and mastermind colleague, Marcy, had me over for a delicious homemade lunch. So good to see her!
If home is where the heart is, than my home spans continents. I chose this nomadic lifestyle, in part, because it means I can visit friends and family that I don’t get to see very often. It’s a real treat to be getting some in-person time with people I missed, and feeling right at home.
It’s part of what I’m calling ‘The Tara-tour-y’. Get it?
I’m on tour, and I’m my own agent. Our loose plan is to head south and then west.
Want to join the tour?
Want to meet for a bite, and maybe an interview? Want to host us in your driveway? Want to help me line up a book signing in your town? Or a workshop in your living room? Let me know! Let’s see what we can do to coordinate our paths crossing…
Here’s to the unfolding journey!
Master Coach, Possibility Queen, Author, Speaker, Nomad, Salsera, Life Hack Pro, Location-independent business owner.