Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

A question I get all the time is “Will this work for me? And if so, how fast?

But what I know people are REALLY asking is “Tara, how does connecting in a space like The Brule Breakers Club allow someone like me to grow and fulfill my dreams and goals?”

I love this question. Let me do my best here to answer it. 

Refreshingly unlike anything else I know of in the coaching/author space, by design, The Brule Breakers Club is a place where you get to PRACTICE fully implementing the power of challenging conventional beliefs and behaviors with an extraordinary community of support cheering you on as you clarify and pursue your deepest dreams, meet your goals, and successfully create the life you think you cannot have. 

In The Brule Breakers Club, we customize your solutions based on your personal psychology and based on the specific brules that have made a home in the territory of YOUR mind, body, and spirit. It’s a unique process that meets you exactly where you are and supports you through creating the changes you want, at whatever pace suits you best.

The Brule Breakers Club works for you because it’s custom-designed for you.

To help ensure that it works for you, we approach this in a few unique ways: 

     (1) We deconstruct your limiting beliefs to give you a fresh perspective 

When you enter The Brule Breakers Club, you are entering a Deconstruction Zone, and when it comes to preserving and maintaining your limiting beliefs, this zone is dangerous Tara’tory. (See what I did there?) 😜

To the brules you bring with you, they are on notice!  

In The Brule Breakers Club, we are going to transform your life, and we do it by deconstructing the brules of life – of YOUR life – by changing the way you think and see and experience what’s around you until the change you’ve been seeking becomes yours, easily. 

When what’s been happening isn’t working, pattern interruption strategies are a MUST.

My mission is to demystify applied psychology, to revolutionize and optimize the human experience and to empower you.

The Deconstruction Method™ is my 3-part method for shining a light on and challenging conventional default modes, and then implementing change so that you have breakthroughs in your thinking and gain the tools and support needed to build new thought patterns (a.k.a. beliefs) and behavior patterns (a.k.a. habits). 

(Want more detail about The Deconstruction Method? You’ll find it in the FAQ section at the bottom of this page.)

     (2) Core values mean you’re held within a safe and empowering community 

When you enter Brule Breaker Tara’tory you are entering a culture built on core values. 

These core values include autonomy, celebration, and steadfast support.

Self-abandonment is a big no-no in the Tara’tory of The Brule Breakers Club. Both inside The Brule Breakers Club and in the world-at-large, we will never ask you to compromise in any way that requires you to abandon yourself. 

In the Tara’tory, we celebrate a glimmer of new awareness like it’s a winning lottery ticket because we whole-heartedly believe that breakthroughs in awareness rival the value of any lottery ticket. Every new awareness invites a conscious pattern interruption, and, when paired with a sincere desire to thrive, this inevitably means that good things are ahead! Cue the confetti, because this is the stuff of dreams and what unlocks the door to a new kind of freedom.

Now, of course, the results of such breakthroughs aren’t instant. 

In the Tara’tory, we don’t just leave you with your breakthrough. We are there for the journey ahead too because we understand that THRIVING requires and deserves devotion, patience, love, curiosity, and a willingness to do things differently – and this takes time. We don’t pretend that it doesn’t, or dance around the fact that implementing change requires consistent commitment and that it sometimes gets messy. We’ve got your back. 

We are there for our members, every step of the way – including the detours. If you get stuck in a pothole, we send a tow truck. In other words, we value and respect your autonomy AND we deconstruct “the brule of independence.” Rather than perpetuate pride-filled bootstrapping struggle sentiments, or normalizing self-reliance to the point of isolation, in the Brule Breakers Club, we honor and actively participate in the truth of our interdependence. In the Tara’tory, it is considered very beautiful to show up brave and ask for help.

Know too, that when you enter The Brule Breakers Club you are entering a pro-active “should-free” zone because we believe that in order to find out who you ARE, you must be willing to surrender the idea of who you “should” be. 

Here, we believe that witnessing shifts, breakthroughs, and outcomes for others invites and inspires your own. We believe that a community of diverse perspectives, group support, and accountability, amplifies learning. That growing together creates shifts in individuals and shifts in the collective. That being seen, held in community, knowing you are not alone in your challenges, making new friends, learning from one another’s experiences is invaluable when all involved are invested and share in common intentions and objectives. 

This space is where you get what you need. With this kind of support, of COURSE it works for you.

     (3) You don’t just achieve one milestone. You go as far into your thriving success as you want to. 

The skills and knowledge you will gain in The Brule Breakers Club, you will have forever.

I am fierce about my clients’ success and I love finding new ways to do things better. And I’m told that this is rather contagious. 😁 

My clients quickly start seeing new opportunities where they thought there weren’t any.

They start having courageous breakthroughs in behavior patterns. Narrow limited views suddenly open up to become broad, vast and expansive. Possibilities they never considered before, or that seemed impossible, rapidly start coming into focus.

In The Brule Breakers Club, I will help you have that “oh, THERE I am” feeling. You will be supported and guided to get into right-relationship with yourself, unraveling subtle and unhelpful conditioning. 

THIS is why my Brule Breakers don’t just get results, they get them and they keep them. 

We help you nurture who you ARE and act on behalf of your dreams, creating and living a life that is as dynamic as you are, on your path to self-actualization. 

Brule Breakers don’t just break through the default patterns, they experience the empowerment, peace, and enhanced well-being that awaits them on the other side.

I love leading The Brule Breakers Club because together we are not just going after our dreams, we are creating the world we want to live in. We are BECOMING.

I know you’ve done other programs before. And I know you’re wondering if this one will FINALLY work for you. I know you want your dreams and you want them FAST. 

And I know this is the place where all that is possible for you. 

I created it ESPECIALLY for you.

Join us today!

Big love, 

P.S. – Not sure? Have questions? Think it might be for you, but want to be sure? Reach out to me for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity if you are curious to learn how brule breaking can help you.  

Why I don’t call myself a business coach

Why I don’t call myself a business coach

I don’t call myself a Business Coach.

Even though I’ve been running my own company for nearly 20 years.

And even though I’ve coached numerous clients to create and build their businesses. 

Like Martha, who, when we first connected, felt she’d “already done the inner work to move beyond fear” and that “all she needed was nuts and bolts business development advice.” I helped Martha identify subtle beliefs that were holding her back from thinking bigger. We then rebranded the various aspects of her business into one unified message and expanded her product offerings. The result: In addition to feeling more confident as a business owner, fulfilled and aligned with her sense of purpose, Martha reported: “In my first year with Tara as my coach, my sales revenues increased by 117%. As of this writing, now in my second round of coaching with Tara, my first quarter revenues alone (during my quiet time of year) are up 46% over last year. Thanks to Tara, I’ve created a business that is unique to me and I have not had to compromise!“ 

^ From this testimonial alone, I could call myself a business coach.  

When someone is struggling in their business, it is completely understandable for them to think that a better social media marketer, or strategist, or new business coach is what is needed.

But – what my clients have found is that the real difference comes from a shift within THEM.

Another client, Cathie, dreamed of being a consultant for nonprofits, but she wasn’t clear on how to earn what she needed and attract the right clients while also maintaining the kind of work:life:family balance she wanted. Cathie and I mapped out her unique service process, packages, and plan (the 3 P’s) to create $240k in revenue, serving in a way that aligned with her “Big WHY” – all with just 7 client organizations and 4-day work weeks.

BUT – before any of this awesomeness was possible, her WHY needed to be clarified, she needed to learn how to manage her energy differently, and (perhaps most important of all) she had to self-identify as having what it takes to BE a successful business owner!

Her words: “Through Tara’s wise and focused support I have more energy than I’ve ever had, a clear plan to grow my business, more time to pursue a life outside of work, and I’ve learned to ask for and RECEIVE powerful support from other people. … Every day I wake up and am thrilled to be doing what I love! And I know there is so much MORE to come!”

Then there’s Friderike, who was able to double her income and generate her best revenue year ever! And, she added, “I didn’t kill myself in the process and had fun with it.” 

✴ Despite all of this AND the fact that people tend to be far more willing to pay top dollar for business coaching than life coaching, I still don’t call myself a Business Coach. ✴

Here’s WHY:

Because experience has taught me that you really can’t separate life coaching from business coaching, ESPECIALLY if the ultimate goal is a fulfilling and satisfying life.

And that’s certainly my goal for my clients. No matter who I’m coaching. 

But – in order for that to happen, life and business MUST work together. 

Yes, we strategize. Of course we strategize! Yes, we adapt and customize business models. And we most certainly create plans, test new approaches, and map out action steps – all to help ensure desired outcomes. 

But even more than THAT …  it’s the internal shifts, personal shifts in how you think, prioritize, and choose to spend your time and energy. This is what makes everything better, easier, bigger, and more powerful.

Businesses benefit from life coaching because business owners (like Martha, Cathie, Friderike, and numerous others), benefit from life coaching. 

Just as non-business owners benefit from life coaching.

When ‘the Business of Life’ thrives, YOU thrive.

Having the support of a skilled coach who knows how to create transformation within your personal psychology and help you live a fulfilling, impactful, joyful life creates a ripple effect, beneficial to every area of your LIFE – from your relationships, to your health, to your business, or whatever career path you may choose.  

Like Melissa, who shared that before connecting with me she’d “spent the majority of life doing things for all the wrong reasons.” Though she very much wanted success, she wasn’t sure where or how to focus her energy. Together, we uncovered a belief she had that was holding her back: that success was hard and that it meant sacrifice – none of which (understandably!) was how Melissa wanted to live. 

Upon realizing that her dream is not one particular passion but, rather, a passion for how she wanted to live (free to decide her own schedule, with autonomy and plenty of time for not just work, but for herself, her friends and her family) it became clear that real estate encompassed all the things she wanted out of a career, while also allowing her the freedom to live life the way she’d dreamed she could. In Melissa’s first year as a real estate agent, she made over $2.5 million in sales! And, to quote her, “the really amazing thing is … it felt effortless and FUN.” 

Having this kind of support on your side is invaluable and goes way beyond business!

Bottom line: None of this is unique to business owners. Whatever you’re up to, coaching together can help!

I am a coach who’s not afraid to ask the hard questions. I’m a coach who has an astutely attuned ear. I don’t let you stay on the track of old thought patterns and behavior patterns that aren’t serving you. Together, we stop, look at it, shine a light on it, name it, deconstruct it, and then implement new strategies and build new habits in those areas where a break in the old pattern is going to support you far better. (a.k.a. brule breaking)

It’s who I am. I see what goes unnoticed by most. As I learn your personal psychology, and I learn what your go-to behaviors are, and I see the default path that your thoughts and beliefs tend to follow over and over and over again, and I pinpoint the assumptions you make over and over again … opportunities for the applied psychology of change abound! 

That’s the fun part. 😊

Yes, your business may grow in the process. But that’s not ever going to be the primary measure of your success – or, frankly, mine. 

There’s one more piece to what really makes private coaching such a powerful combination: LOVE. I adore my clients. It’s why I don’t stand for them standing for their own BS. It’s why I lovingly help them see that. It’s why pattern interruption strategies are a must when what’s been happening isn’t serving. 

And, lastly, I believe it’s why my clients trust me to do the deep work. To tell me the truth, even when it’s hard or has shame attached to it. 

They know that I have their best interests at heart. They know I’m not here to judge them. In fact, in large part, what I do is help them understand how NORMAL what they are feeling shame about IS, and how wonderful it is that their bravery to share it anyway is already a break in the old pattern. 

With this shared understanding, and my decades of education, training, and tools for how to apply the psychology of change in a customized way, it then becomes easy to team up and help my clients effectively apply new practices and make new choices and see new possibilities that allow them to grow, to meet and exceed their goals, and make their dreams happen – business or otherwise. 

Are you next?

Go HERE to read the full testimonials of these clients and others, and, if you’d like, claim a complimentary Assessment Call so we can connect 1:1 and explore how I might serve YOU – and your professional goals and aspirations too. 😉

Do THIS instead of THAT 

Do THIS instead of THAT 

Do NOT underestimate the power of small changes. 

For example, there is a great big huge difference between:

“Can I change this?” 

And,

“How can I change this?”

One tiny little word, but these two questions are WORLDS apart. 

Last week, I shared about the power of awareness around those areas of your life where learned helplessness may have you feeling resigned to adapt, manage, and tolerate circumstances that you don’t like, wish were different, but that you don’t feel you have power to change.

I encouraged you to make a list, short or long, of examples of such things in YOUR life.

Doing this is powerful because chances are that, based on circumstances in your life, your history, and in your family’s history, you’ve likely adopted some degree of learned helplessness. 

Said another way, you have been conditioned to tolerate a lot of unnecessary shit, big and small, maybe even to the point of believing that that’s just the way it is and just what you have to do.

This mindset creates blind spots, feeds apathy, and sustains resignation.

^ All dream killers. (Booooooo!!!)

Becoming aware enough to be able to shift or make a break in this pattern begins with awareness. So, if you didn’t yet make your list, doing so will be a powerful proactive step.

Rather than wait and hope and “maybe someday”, awareness alone disrupts the old pattern.

And, small changes add up!

This is why I recommend you start with the small things on your list. Depending on how ingrained your learned helplessness is, the smaller the better, to begin.

Look at your list of things that bother you and decide that you are unwilling to tolerate discomfort as a default. 

Decide that you do not and will not resign yourself to this being just the way it is. 

Decide that you are willing to start small and build your confidence to effect change, to minimize your discomfort or irritation.

Notice where learned helplessness has been leading your thoughts, behaviors, and your life.

There is FIRE to be found in this. 

Let this motivate and fuel the changes you desire.

But, again, start small.

Because what it takes to build big self-trust and big belief about all the things that you are wishing and hoping will change, starts with you taking charge and eliminating unnecessary discomforts on small things

Like, that drawer in your kitchen that sticks or won’t close all the way. 

Fix the damn drawer as a symbolic step and as evidence to fuel your belief and your knowing that YOU can effect change, that you can influence your circumstance, and that you are done adapting to and managing discomfort, or defaulting to it needing to stay that way.

🔥

You are empowered and your standards go up – effective immediately, because you say so.

Again, recognize the learned helplessness response. Even to small things. 

You may hear that voice in your head right now: “just deal with it, it’s no big deal.”

And in the grand scheme of things, it’s true that a drawer that sticks is not all that big a deal. 

BUT – that annoying drawer (for example) presents a valuable opportunity to rewrite learned helplessness patterns. It also presents the opportunity to reclaim some of your precious daily energy that gets used every time you can’t close the damn drawer!

By starting with the small stuff and deciding “I am powerful, and I’m going to eliminate this annoyance…” you are building the MUSCLE of empowerment, rewriting the old learned helplessness response. 

When the drawer – and every other example of unnecessary discomfort or irritation – becomes a known opportunity for you to empower your ability NOT to default to learned helplessness patterns, the sky’s the limit.  

Every small change builds your confidence, breaks old patterns, and frees up energy for you to be that much more ABLE to take on the big stuff. As you have success with small things, you’ll naturally be able to span that out to the big stuff. 

This is a very, very powerful practice and it’s just one piece of the work we do together in my Dream Acceleration Program.

You CAN rebuild your empowered sense. You CAN create your life to be what you dream it can be, and it starts by rewiring those apathy-feeding patterns. 

Applying this approach can change your whole world and open the door to a new kind of freedom. And, the right support accelerates this process exponentially.

I am a pro-active force for change. 

I am a compassionate fellow human, learning and growing with each new day.

I’m also a fierce facilitator of action. 

The Dream Acceleration Program is the culmination of all I’ve learned and developed, to support YOU to step into living your dreams and experience the true freedom that life has to offer. 

If you would like help bringing the dreams in your heart to LIFE, I‘d love to learn more about you, your dreams, and your challenges. Let’s talk. Get on my calendar today for a free Session with Tara Assessment call.

Rather than becoming more and more comfortable managing discomfort…

Rather than reinforcing the belief that you have no control… 

And rather than inaction, or a whole lot of busyness centered around tasks that maintain your current circumstances…

Let’s raise your standards and do something FAR better.

Build your self-trust, build your self-belief, build your unwillingness to tolerate unnecessary discomfort, and build your empowered proactive momentum toward what you DREAM your life can be.

I’m here for THAT. 

xo