Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

Will Brule Breakers Club work for me? 

“I’ve seen your stuff about Brule Breakers Club. Will this actually work for me?”

I get it. You’ve tried other things before, as we talked about in this message. And of course there’s the question of “do I have enough time for this, I’ve got responsibilities,” and maybe you’re concerned about what making changes will mean for you.

Again, I get it. 

But here’s the thing. 

If you:

  • Have a dream or goal that you really want to achieve, but haven’t yet
  • Feel restless and like there’s got to be more to life than this
  • Are uninspired by status quo repetition and predictably  
  • Want to BE who you know, deep inside, that you can be  
  • Never want to regret NOT going for the dreams that live in your heart and that don’t, and won’t, go away
  • Feel isolated or tired of trying to figure all this out by yourself

Then, this program is for YOU and this truth-telling message is better than any fortune cookie. 🥠

Turning the page on Survival Mode and starting the next chapter – “Thrival” Mode – doesn’t happen automatically, for two reasons:

  1. It requires time and effort to learn new skills, establish new habits, and build new levels of understanding.
  2. In addition to your life being alive and in motion, its own in-flux system, you are also in relationship with other systems – other living, breathing beings and social and societal constructs – that also are in flux and alive with motion, direction, desires, and no shortage of brules. 🥴

This is why anyone who tells you (or sells you) on one formula or a guaranteed path is either foolish enough to believe that or isn’t telling you the truth.

If you are wondering if The Brule Breakers Club will work for you, here are my crystal ball predictions:

Let me preface this by saying, having doubts and questions is absolutely 100% normal.

This is not a problem.

Sometimes people – even my clients, on occasion – fight to convince me that they can’t realize their dreams, that they can’t move the blocks, and that things just won’t work for them. (This belief that they can’t is what I call “the brain behind the brules.”)

What becomes PROBLEMATIC is when, due to these totally normal doubts and questions, people sit on the fence forever … questioning and questioning and questioning whether something will “work for them.” 

Prediction #1:

It for sure won’t work with a fencepost under your rear! 🤓

When it comes to applied psychology, behavior modification and belief modification must go hand-in-hand because one without the other simply doesn’t work and isn’t sustainable. 

A willing mindset is key. So, if you are someone who holds tight to that fence and to “this WON’T work for me”… and refuse to open up to the possibility that it WILL … and if you are someone who prefers to dig your heels in and insist that you “can’t,” and you are steadfast in the belief that you can’t change your beliefs… then this might not be the Club for you. 

IF, on the other hand, rather than dig your heels in and hold tight to the belief that you can’t…

√ You are willing to doubt your doubt, recognize that you are a living, breathing, evolving being, and celebrate that embracing this means embracing expanding possibilities and untapped potential…

and

√ You are someone who understands that getting results isn’t about what you know, it’s about what you IMPLEMENT and practice…

Then, 

Prediction #2:

Heck yeah! You are likely to get an enormous amount of value from your membership

You can’t just put a date on the calendar and consider it done. But what you CAN do to speed up your progress is commit to the process of BECOMING the person who would have the life you want. By embodying and intentionally constructing the YOU you will be without all those blind spots hiding in the shadows, and without all those limiting beliefs you currently accept as (or at least act as if they are) true, AND without those obstacles that you keep repeatedly stubbing your toe on, the likelihood of your breakthroughs and your desired results increases exponentially!

Brules are sneaky bastards, and I’m here for you through ALL of it.

In The Brule Breakers Club, we’re going to tell the truth and focus on what is in your control. You are not in control of all the pieces and all the relationships and you can’t “make” other people or systems respond like you wish they would, when you wish they would. 

But – you 100% CAN show up for yourself in ways that are self-trusting, self-affirming, congruent, and powerfully aligned with who you are here to BE. When you do THAT, new paths are found, and you learn who you are and what you’re capable of.

Rather than continue to let brules hold you back, let’s make the unseen visible so that you can shift it. 

Prediction #3:

Making such changes may make you feel a bit uncomfortable at first, but it’s also what supports your desired outcomes, personal empowerment, growth and transformation. It’s what enables you to make – and maintain – positive changes so that you THRIVE!

☝️ This is why I highly recommend taking advantage of the annual membership option. (monthly membership is also available)

Come join us! Be “in the room” for deconstruction of the countless brules that hold you back.

To support The Brule Breakers Club container, culture, mission, objectives and purpose, the brules we explore and deconstruct inside The Brule Breakers Club are exclusively focused on the brules outlined in my book, The Brules of Life: 15 Bullshit Rules to Break for a No-Vacation-Needed Life + the 15 brules I’ll be sharing in my NEXT book, and future books. (That’ll be 60 brules in total! As a member, you will receive not only the Table of Contents for future books as they are outlined, but also pre-release chapters, with discussion and coaching around them.)

All of THIS, when shared within a community of support, is what predictably creates, amplifies and accelerates your results.

With so much love, 

Fortune-teller Tara  🔮

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

P.S. Have questions? Curious to learn how brule breaking can help YOU? Reach out for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity. You just have a few days left to join for the remaining bonuses!  

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

A question I get all the time is “Will this work for me? And if so, how fast?

But what I know people are REALLY asking is “Tara, how does connecting in a space like The Brule Breakers Club allow someone like me to grow and fulfill my dreams and goals?”

I love this question. Let me do my best here to answer it. 

Refreshingly unlike anything else I know of in the coaching/author space, by design, The Brule Breakers Club is a place where you get to PRACTICE fully implementing the power of challenging conventional beliefs and behaviors with an extraordinary community of support cheering you on as you clarify and pursue your deepest dreams, meet your goals, and successfully create the life you think you cannot have. 

In The Brule Breakers Club, we customize your solutions based on your personal psychology and based on the specific brules that have made a home in the territory of YOUR mind, body, and spirit. It’s a unique process that meets you exactly where you are and supports you through creating the changes you want, at whatever pace suits you best.

The Brule Breakers Club works for you because it’s custom-designed for you.

To help ensure that it works for you, we approach this in a few unique ways: 

     (1) We deconstruct your limiting beliefs to give you a fresh perspective 

When you enter The Brule Breakers Club, you are entering a Deconstruction Zone, and when it comes to preserving and maintaining your limiting beliefs, this zone is dangerous Tara’tory. (See what I did there?) 😜

To the brules you bring with you, they are on notice!  

In The Brule Breakers Club, we are going to transform your life, and we do it by deconstructing the brules of life – of YOUR life – by changing the way you think and see and experience what’s around you until the change you’ve been seeking becomes yours, easily. 

When what’s been happening isn’t working, pattern interruption strategies are a MUST.

My mission is to demystify applied psychology, to revolutionize and optimize the human experience and to empower you.

The Deconstruction Method™ is my 3-part method for shining a light on and challenging conventional default modes, and then implementing change so that you have breakthroughs in your thinking and gain the tools and support needed to build new thought patterns (a.k.a. beliefs) and behavior patterns (a.k.a. habits). 

(Want more detail about The Deconstruction Method? You’ll find it in the FAQ section at the bottom of this page.)

     (2) Core values mean you’re held within a safe and empowering community 

When you enter Brule Breaker Tara’tory you are entering a culture built on core values. 

These core values include autonomy, celebration, and steadfast support.

Self-abandonment is a big no-no in the Tara’tory of The Brule Breakers Club. Both inside The Brule Breakers Club and in the world-at-large, we will never ask you to compromise in any way that requires you to abandon yourself. 

In the Tara’tory, we celebrate a glimmer of new awareness like it’s a winning lottery ticket because we whole-heartedly believe that breakthroughs in awareness rival the value of any lottery ticket. Every new awareness invites a conscious pattern interruption, and, when paired with a sincere desire to thrive, this inevitably means that good things are ahead! Cue the confetti, because this is the stuff of dreams and what unlocks the door to a new kind of freedom.

Now, of course, the results of such breakthroughs aren’t instant. 

In the Tara’tory, we don’t just leave you with your breakthrough. We are there for the journey ahead too because we understand that THRIVING requires and deserves devotion, patience, love, curiosity, and a willingness to do things differently – and this takes time. We don’t pretend that it doesn’t, or dance around the fact that implementing change requires consistent commitment and that it sometimes gets messy. We’ve got your back. 

We are there for our members, every step of the way – including the detours. If you get stuck in a pothole, we send a tow truck. In other words, we value and respect your autonomy AND we deconstruct “the brule of independence.” Rather than perpetuate pride-filled bootstrapping struggle sentiments, or normalizing self-reliance to the point of isolation, in the Brule Breakers Club, we honor and actively participate in the truth of our interdependence. In the Tara’tory, it is considered very beautiful to show up brave and ask for help.

Know too, that when you enter The Brule Breakers Club you are entering a pro-active “should-free” zone because we believe that in order to find out who you ARE, you must be willing to surrender the idea of who you “should” be. 

Here, we believe that witnessing shifts, breakthroughs, and outcomes for others invites and inspires your own. We believe that a community of diverse perspectives, group support, and accountability, amplifies learning. That growing together creates shifts in individuals and shifts in the collective. That being seen, held in community, knowing you are not alone in your challenges, making new friends, learning from one another’s experiences is invaluable when all involved are invested and share in common intentions and objectives. 

This space is where you get what you need. With this kind of support, of COURSE it works for you.

     (3) You don’t just achieve one milestone. You go as far into your thriving success as you want to. 

The skills and knowledge you will gain in The Brule Breakers Club, you will have forever.

I am fierce about my clients’ success and I love finding new ways to do things better. And I’m told that this is rather contagious. 😁 

My clients quickly start seeing new opportunities where they thought there weren’t any.

They start having courageous breakthroughs in behavior patterns. Narrow limited views suddenly open up to become broad, vast and expansive. Possibilities they never considered before, or that seemed impossible, rapidly start coming into focus.

In The Brule Breakers Club, I will help you have that “oh, THERE I am” feeling. You will be supported and guided to get into right-relationship with yourself, unraveling subtle and unhelpful conditioning. 

THIS is why my Brule Breakers don’t just get results, they get them and they keep them. 

We help you nurture who you ARE and act on behalf of your dreams, creating and living a life that is as dynamic as you are, on your path to self-actualization. 

Brule Breakers don’t just break through the default patterns, they experience the empowerment, peace, and enhanced well-being that awaits them on the other side.

I love leading The Brule Breakers Club because together we are not just going after our dreams, we are creating the world we want to live in. We are BECOMING.

I know you’ve done other programs before. And I know you’re wondering if this one will FINALLY work for you. I know you want your dreams and you want them FAST. 

And I know this is the place where all that is possible for you. 

I created it ESPECIALLY for you.

Join us today!

Big love, 

P.S. – Not sure? Have questions? Think it might be for you, but want to be sure? Reach out to me for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity if you are curious to learn how brule breaking can help you.  

Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day ??

Ever hear of “Quitters Day”? 

It’s a pseudo-holiday, the second Friday in January. It’s the day when most people quit on their New Year resolutions. 

Research shows that only 9% of Americans that make resolutions complete them, and 23% of people quit their resolutions by the end of the first WEEK! A whopping 43% quit by the end of January. 

Given this data, Quitters Day seems to mark a day that many people “observe.”

I personally think resolutions shouldn’t start until February. 

I am an advocate of January being a month that’s focused purely on reflecting and regrouping. Reflecting on the year that’s passed and reorganizing your space, and your mind, to set clear intentions and ready yourself for what’s to come.

Only from THIS clarity can you really, in fairness, determine what’s most important to you and create an actual plan to implement what you’re resolving to DO about it. You need some time to sort it all out, to get your ducks in a row and set an executable plan into motion for the coming months and year … for HOW you’re going to actually CREATE your desired changes.

It’s too important to rush. 

Don’t blame yourself if you’ve been guilty of quitting on resolutions before you really start.

It’s not you. The cultural expectation of January 1st-resolution-setting is innately flawed. It sets you up to fail.

Premature resolution-setting, combined with a lack of a doable plan of action, and more often than not, without the right accountability team of support helping to ensure it happens – fine-tuning as needed along the way (because this too is part of actually DOING it)  – is, in large part, WHY most resolutions fail, almost as soon as they start!

Take a brule-breaking approach to planning out your new year with a refreshingly unconventional approach and strategic plan for a year of “thrival.” This is what will have you feeling grounded, organized, and excited about your “resolutions”… crystal clear about what you want and what to focus on next.

Launch into a year of transformation (anytime!) by joining the last life coaching program you’ll ever need.

Unlock liberating, life enhancing, brule breaking freedoms and delights so that you can fulfill your dreams and desires and BE who you are here to be – now and later.

Invaluable!

Claim your membership now: Become a Brule Breakers Club member today!

Love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

The Brule Breakers Spotlight

The Brule Breakers Spotlight

The Brule Breakers Spotlight

I’ve heard some really cool stories this week and I want to share a couple of them with you.

After I put out a call asking for stories about a time when you broke a “brule,” where you didn’t settle for status quo, or do what others expected, or where you blazed your own trail, colored outside the lines, challenged conventions… several people responded.

I want to highlight a few, because what these stories demonstrate so well are some of the primary categories and areas of influence that “brules” tend to find their way into.

From self-care to systemic, and from business to culture.

Brules are insidious and they find their way into so many areas of our lives.

Here’s a quick example of each:

Self-care

I received this story from a dancer: When she was pregnant, she was dancing with the community college ballet company. Others told her to stop dancing, even suggesting that a previous miscarriage she’d had was caused by her dancing, that she’d have to stop dancing after the baby was born anyway because being a mom would take up all her time, so she might as well stop now. She said no. She said, “I am bringing him into my world, not him bringing me into his.” And that’s exactly what she did. She danced until the end of the first week of her ninth month, and brought her son with her everywhere, including the dance studio. Now, decades later, she is still dancing.

Breaking self-care brules takes a strong sense of self and an unwillingness to abandon your own clarity, even when others don’t condone it. 

Systemic 

I heard from a woman who shared stories of struggle, battling against systemic brules and the patriarchy. Everything from fighting injustice caused by a big corporate company, to navigating the court system to get child support. She also shared experiences she’s had when bucking social norms about what a woman should and shouldn’t do or be.

Breaking systemic brules is not easy. A ton of endurance and perseverance is required – even for small wins.

Business 

Another story I received was from a business owner who shared having made a pivotal decision to change the entire structure of her business, despite the business’ success. She was making good money. It was steady and predictable and paid her bills, but she was frustrated by the work, daily. She’d achieved “success” on paper, but at what cost? It was weighing heavy on her and she made the brave and hard decision to let those clients go and restructure how she worked and who she worked with. She broke the often unspoken “brule” that when you build something, you have to stick with it. That if you build a sound business, you should continue it. That it is not only not financially wise, but utterly irresponsible to make sweeping changes or to quit on what’s working. But, that’s exactly what she did. She created a totally new business, blazing a brand new trail to do the work she loves and continues to do to this day.

Entrepreneurship is the epitome of brule breaking because there’s no map when you’re blazing your own trail. It takes enormous commitment, a deep belief in your vision, and a strong sense of service to create success that is not only financially viable and sustaining, but also fulfilling. (Ask me how I know.) 

Cultural

Here, I’m going to get on my soap box for a moment and share an example of my own. As an author, this is an issue that hits home for me. I personally think the book bans that are happening in our world are a modern-day form of prohibition. (prohibooktion? 😜) And, like prohibition, it won’t work. To help join the cause to ensure this, I stand in solidarity with writers and readers everywhere. As an expression of this commitment, for every new member who joins The Brule Breakers Club, I’ve decided that my company will donate 3% of every registration to PEN America, a non-profit working to ensure that people everywhere have the freedom to create literature, convey information and ideas, express their view, and access the views, ideas, and literatures of others. I am proud to support the PEN America mission while also supporting my beloved clients to thrive, break the brules, and realize your grandest visions for your next chapter.

Movements are born through subversive acts of breaking cultural brules. In this realm, there is power in numbers. 

In closing, brule breaking is about doing the things that you really want, and stepping up to the plate to claim and create what is yours, standing up for the things you believe in, without playing into the limits of society, or what someone else says you “should” do.

It’s about trusting the inner knowing that there’s something more for you, and then finding a way to make that happen.

It has been so inspiring hearing these stories all week.

Now, as we head into the holidaze, er, I mean, the holidays… from my heart to yours, I hope yours is full of love and joy and light.

I hope you savor and enjoy all the wonderful traditions that feel great to you and that you do not hesitate to make new traditions where old ones don’t fit the bill anymore. (Holiday brules can be just as sneaky as the rest!)

If you are someone who is ready to break some brules, see your blind spots, and create the life you dream of, and you know you’re ready for something more, and you don’t want to feel limited and you don’t want to feel obligated… then stay tuned and be on the lookout for invitations from me in your inbox in the coming weeks.

I am so excited about all I’ll be sharing about The Brule Breakers Club and how you can join me in the new year.

With so much love,

Applied Psychology Coach & Author of The Brules of Life
How to quit on never quitting

How to quit on never quitting

How to quit on never quitting 

This is as much a love letter to myself as it is to you.

“Never quit” was instilled in me pretty hard. 

And, to its credit, it’s probably why my business survived the 2008 recession and the 2020 pandemic and why, despite the ups and downs, my relationship with my significant other is still intact. 🙂

I am no quitter!

If you are someone who tends to quit easily and you want to increase your resourcefulness and determination, here’s a quote you might want to write on a sticky-note and tape to your bathroom mirror:

“When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this: you haven’t.” (attributed to Thomas Edison) 

BUT.

If you’re anything like me, we sometimes need reminders that IT IS OK TO QUIT. In a culture of go-go-go, do-do-do, this may be the most subversive act there is.

But I digress.

My point is: “I am not a quitter” is an ingrained part of my self-concept.

Which is particularly NOT helpful when it comes to bad habits.

I bite my nails. 

It’s something I’ve done since I was 10-years-old. 

I’m 48. And though I’ve had stretches where I stop, a month or so later, this habit (at least so far) has consistently sneaked its way back in. I have yet to eliminate it for good.

And I’ve done allllll the things – from peppery polish that’s designed to deter the habit, to having fancy fake nails glued on. These are temporary fixes. My engrained default pattern is to return to this unconscious childhood behavior.

And that’s typically how it goes. 

While nail biting may seem like an innocuous example, the behavioral psychology expert in me knows that ALL seemingly dysfunctional behaviors (be it nail biting, alcohol abuse, over-committing, over-giving, overeating…) are all an adaptive strategy to create safety and comfort (a.k.a. coping mechanisms).

It can be incredibly powerful to explore one of your own “dysfunctional behaviors” and get real about your answers to, “how does this SERVE me?” 

Bottom line is: Something about it is working for you. Usually it’s that something about it is self-protective. If it wasn’t, you wouldn’t be doing it. 

Even blatant self-sabotage provides some degree of survival mode protection – protecting you now, even if it hurts Future You later. 

When you come to realize that “dysfunctional behavior” isn’t an enemy working against you but rather an adaptive strategy that – at least on some level – SERVES you, you can then begin to appreciate such protective instincts and lessen any shame you may have about the behavior. 

Shifting the perception of the behavior, from an enemy that sabotages you to a savvy survivor-in-action, diminishes shame.

From there, you can then begin to step OUT from the shame shadows and INTO an empowered new perspective where you get to choose behaviors that serve not only survival, but what I like to refer to as “thrival.”  

If, for example, overeating, or drinking, or people pleasing – or nail biting – is the best and only available source of soothing and comfort for you, then good for you for doing it! BUT, when these cease to be the best and only available way for you to get the comfort you need, you now have options. A new choice can be made.  

I know what it’s going to take for me to stop biting my nails. 

The solution is actually pretty simple: 

Behave in alignment with the fully-actualized version of me, who I lovingly refer to as… “Tara.” lol.  Stay with me here for a moment. 

When I refer to “Tara,” I am talking about my Future Self.  

“Tara doesn’t bite her nails.” – me

“But I do.” – also me

Got it?

Try it! It’s a self-talk trick that helps me make a clear distinction between who I am and who I’m becoming, and this helps me see clearly which decisions best align with who I aspire to be. 

Ultimately, the act of building supportive habits that stick requires not just a shift in behavior, but a shift in your sense of identity. Who you ARE in your relationship to your habits is what establishes them, and what transforms them.  

One way or another, you’ve got to build and strengthen the connection between You Now, and Future You. 

And, sometimes, quitting is course-correcting. 

Sometimes, quitting is self-liberation from decades of thought patterns and behavior patterns that don’t serve the biggest, most self-actualized version of you.

Sometimes, quitting is getting on board with the deep and timeless wisdom of your inner compass, no longer playing games you no longer want to play. 

From nail care, to relationships, to how you create your own success… the same principles apply.

It’s about bridging the divide between what [Your name] does and what you do. 😊 

It’ is normal to wonder if you have what it takes. It is normal to feel discomfort, even embarrassment, about aspects of you that are a work in progress. 

We are in this being-human thing, together. 

Doing new things, or old things in new ways, takes courage. But when we show up together and normalize being human while ALSO growing into the best versions of ourselves … This is where the magic happens. 

I have come to adore being actively in the process of creating that which I know is an even more aligned expression of who I am. And I love doing this alongside others who enjoy – or at least want to enjoy – the process too. 

It’s why I created The Brule Breakers Club.

Because, while it’s scary to do the work that makes all the difference…

And it’s challenging to learn new skills and let go of old habits… 

And it can be hard to take responsibility for mistakes, and even harder to course-correct… 

The right support makes it so much easier, so much more rewarding, and so worth the effort. It’s the one clear way to ensure your results – your joy, your happiness, your dreams, your needs, your desires, your THRIVAL.

I want to hear from you! Tell me, what’s something that Future You does or doesn’t do, that you do now?

With so much love, 

Tara Sage

Applied Psychology Coach & Author of The Brules of Life

P.S. #BruleBreakerSpotlight Contest winner to be announced on December 18. There’s still time to post your nomination! Go HERE for contest details!