Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

I talk a lot about my work and The Brule Breakers Club and WHY it’s so awesome. 

So let me tell you why you’d be right NOT to join…

I realize it’s rather unconventional to write in depth about NOT joining my program.

So why do it? Because, The Brule Breakers Club is not for everyone. 

If you are debating whether or not you can afford to join (financially or otherwise), here are some considerations that I hope will help you decide:

  1. If you find yourself needing to choose between feeding yourself OR keeping a roof over your head, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.
  2. If you feel desperate for immediate solutions and are in a place in your life where you don’t know what you’ll do if a major life-altering change doesn’t happen for you within the next 30 days, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.

The first one needs no explanation. 

In terms of desperation or urgency around results, there’s going to be a lot of growth, but growth doesn’t happen overnight. Brules have been profoundly assimilated into your worldview and experience over decades of reinforcement and, because of this, they won’t just exit stage left in a hot second.

If neither of the above describe you or your circumstances and you wish to join, then I truly hope you will, EVEN IF making the $100 or so a month investment s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-s you a little – be it financial, emotional, or both.

Because let’s be honest, investing in yourself – whether it’s a few dollars, or something with several zeros behind it, not to mention the TIME – can be a symbolic and emotional hurdle as much as it is a financial one. 

It can dredge up questions like…

  • Am I worth it?
  • I mean, do I really get to invest in not just striving, but thriving?
  • Should I really invest in myself now – as in, TODAY??

Ultimately, all of these are variations of the old “Who do you think you ARE?” question.

If you do decide to join us (again, with the understanding that those first two scenarios don’t apply to you), then know that you will be entering a space that is dedicated to supporting your best self, your self-actualization, and expanding possibilities for your life.

The Brule Breakers Club is also a space where “Who do you think you ARE?” is escorted out and replaced with the-same-words-but-a-very-different-question: 

“Who do YOU think you are?”

The emphasis in this question matters.

The first one – “Who do you think you ARE?” – is full of residual head-trash that you picked up somewhere along the way from people who haven’t yet sorted where or whether to discard this garbage, so they gave it to you.

In contrast, the second one – “Who do YOU think you are?” is a process of self-revelatory introspection and discovery, both about your current self-concept and your ever-evolving and expanding Self. 

Say the question aloud to yourself now: “Who do I think I am?” 

Feel that “damn! I am in charge” vibe? 😎

In The Brule Breakers Club, we delight in both the second version of the question and in the version of YOU that this question helps draw out of the shadows and into the light. 

All this to say … I want you to understand that inside The Brule Breakers Club, any and all versions of “I can’t afford it right now” are not supportive, or supported.

Lemme ‘splain.

We hold you as powerful. Period. 

And, to be clear – even if you find yourself in either of the two scenarios I describe at the top – we also hold YOU as powerful. 

Whatever your current circumstances are, while they may reflect what makes practical sense for you to prioritize right now, they do NOT reflect what is POSSIBLE for you. 

You are far more powerful than whatever the snapshot of your current experience of your current moment might be. To pretend that you aren’t would be a disservice, both to you and to the other members. 

Every time you speak, share, or believe that you “can’t afford it,” you radiate disempowered energy and this perpetuates feelings of limitation, scarcity, and not-enough-ness. This isn’t beneficial. Just as spending your last dollar on a life coaching program wouldn’t be beneficial if it means not having enough food to eat.  

If, barring these circumstances, you truly would love to join, then find a way to join!

And, if you don’t truly want to join, that’s ok too.

You can decline without self-limiting statements that reinforce and only root you that much more deeply in the belief that you are powerless or that you don’t have options.

You are not powerless. 

And you have options. 

And those options include what you choose to prioritize.

This very message is just a sampling of the level of thought work and personal transformation that you’ll be supported through in The Brule Breakers Club. And with registration currently set at what adds up to the cost of a cup of coffee a day, it is an absolute bargain.

Click here to join!

Big love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

PS – The sooner you join the sooner you can get oriented to the Tara’tory. 😜 If you think this might be for you but you’re not sure or have questions, reach out right away for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity so you can experience and learn more about how brule breaking can help YOU.  

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

Before joining Brule Breakers Club, know THIS

A question I get all the time is “Will this work for me? And if so, how fast?

But what I know people are REALLY asking is “Tara, how does connecting in a space like The Brule Breakers Club allow someone like me to grow and fulfill my dreams and goals?”

I love this question. Let me do my best here to answer it. 

Refreshingly unlike anything else I know of in the coaching/author space, by design, The Brule Breakers Club is a place where you get to PRACTICE fully implementing the power of challenging conventional beliefs and behaviors with an extraordinary community of support cheering you on as you clarify and pursue your deepest dreams, meet your goals, and successfully create the life you think you cannot have. 

In The Brule Breakers Club, we customize your solutions based on your personal psychology and based on the specific brules that have made a home in the territory of YOUR mind, body, and spirit. It’s a unique process that meets you exactly where you are and supports you through creating the changes you want, at whatever pace suits you best.

The Brule Breakers Club works for you because it’s custom-designed for you.

To help ensure that it works for you, we approach this in a few unique ways: 

     (1) We deconstruct your limiting beliefs to give you a fresh perspective 

When you enter The Brule Breakers Club, you are entering a Deconstruction Zone, and when it comes to preserving and maintaining your limiting beliefs, this zone is dangerous Tara’tory. (See what I did there?) 😜

To the brules you bring with you, they are on notice!  

In The Brule Breakers Club, we are going to transform your life, and we do it by deconstructing the brules of life – of YOUR life – by changing the way you think and see and experience what’s around you until the change you’ve been seeking becomes yours, easily. 

When what’s been happening isn’t working, pattern interruption strategies are a MUST.

My mission is to demystify applied psychology, to revolutionize and optimize the human experience and to empower you.

The Deconstruction Method™ is my 3-part method for shining a light on and challenging conventional default modes, and then implementing change so that you have breakthroughs in your thinking and gain the tools and support needed to build new thought patterns (a.k.a. beliefs) and behavior patterns (a.k.a. habits). 

(Want more detail about The Deconstruction Method? You’ll find it in the FAQ section at the bottom of this page.)

     (2) Core values mean you’re held within a safe and empowering community 

When you enter Brule Breaker Tara’tory you are entering a culture built on core values. 

These core values include autonomy, celebration, and steadfast support.

Self-abandonment is a big no-no in the Tara’tory of The Brule Breakers Club. Both inside The Brule Breakers Club and in the world-at-large, we will never ask you to compromise in any way that requires you to abandon yourself. 

In the Tara’tory, we celebrate a glimmer of new awareness like it’s a winning lottery ticket because we whole-heartedly believe that breakthroughs in awareness rival the value of any lottery ticket. Every new awareness invites a conscious pattern interruption, and, when paired with a sincere desire to thrive, this inevitably means that good things are ahead! Cue the confetti, because this is the stuff of dreams and what unlocks the door to a new kind of freedom.

Now, of course, the results of such breakthroughs aren’t instant. 

In the Tara’tory, we don’t just leave you with your breakthrough. We are there for the journey ahead too because we understand that THRIVING requires and deserves devotion, patience, love, curiosity, and a willingness to do things differently – and this takes time. We don’t pretend that it doesn’t, or dance around the fact that implementing change requires consistent commitment and that it sometimes gets messy. We’ve got your back. 

We are there for our members, every step of the way – including the detours. If you get stuck in a pothole, we send a tow truck. In other words, we value and respect your autonomy AND we deconstruct “the brule of independence.” Rather than perpetuate pride-filled bootstrapping struggle sentiments, or normalizing self-reliance to the point of isolation, in the Brule Breakers Club, we honor and actively participate in the truth of our interdependence. In the Tara’tory, it is considered very beautiful to show up brave and ask for help.

Know too, that when you enter The Brule Breakers Club you are entering a pro-active “should-free” zone because we believe that in order to find out who you ARE, you must be willing to surrender the idea of who you “should” be. 

Here, we believe that witnessing shifts, breakthroughs, and outcomes for others invites and inspires your own. We believe that a community of diverse perspectives, group support, and accountability, amplifies learning. That growing together creates shifts in individuals and shifts in the collective. That being seen, held in community, knowing you are not alone in your challenges, making new friends, learning from one another’s experiences is invaluable when all involved are invested and share in common intentions and objectives. 

This space is where you get what you need. With this kind of support, of COURSE it works for you.

     (3) You don’t just achieve one milestone. You go as far into your thriving success as you want to. 

The skills and knowledge you will gain in The Brule Breakers Club, you will have forever.

I am fierce about my clients’ success and I love finding new ways to do things better. And I’m told that this is rather contagious. 😁 

My clients quickly start seeing new opportunities where they thought there weren’t any.

They start having courageous breakthroughs in behavior patterns. Narrow limited views suddenly open up to become broad, vast and expansive. Possibilities they never considered before, or that seemed impossible, rapidly start coming into focus.

In The Brule Breakers Club, I will help you have that “oh, THERE I am” feeling. You will be supported and guided to get into right-relationship with yourself, unraveling subtle and unhelpful conditioning. 

THIS is why my Brule Breakers don’t just get results, they get them and they keep them. 

We help you nurture who you ARE and act on behalf of your dreams, creating and living a life that is as dynamic as you are, on your path to self-actualization. 

Brule Breakers don’t just break through the default patterns, they experience the empowerment, peace, and enhanced well-being that awaits them on the other side.

I love leading The Brule Breakers Club because together we are not just going after our dreams, we are creating the world we want to live in. We are BECOMING.

I know you’ve done other programs before. And I know you’re wondering if this one will FINALLY work for you. I know you want your dreams and you want them FAST. 

And I know this is the place where all that is possible for you. 

I created it ESPECIALLY for you.

Join us today!

Big love, 

P.S. – Not sure? Have questions? Think it might be for you, but want to be sure? Reach out to me for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity if you are curious to learn how brule breaking can help you.  

The #1 thing you need to know about brule breaking

The #1 thing you need to know about brule breaking

The #1 thing you need to know about brule breaking

If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ve likely heard me talk a lot about brules and your dreams. Brule breaking can undoubtably bring immediate short-term gains, but what’s even more notable is the long-term staying power and value created as a domino-effect ON TOP OF those short-term gains.

In my book, The Brules of Life, I share an experience I had of being suddenly unleashed from bonds that I hadn’t been fully cognizant of before, and how, without warning, I was liberated of expectations and preconceptions I previously had no idea had been constraining me.

In a single instant, my heart was filled with profound next-level freedom and uninhibited permission to spread my wings and be “me” on a completely new level. Relieved of such constraints, it was exciting to find out who that newly liberated “me” was.

Those who’ve read The Brules of Life have shared that it has opened their eyes to recognizing their own hidden bonds, and helped them realize where they’d been existing within assumed limitations that they now know need not inhibit them any longer!

It is truly astounding how quickly ONE new awareness can expand into next-level freedom and forever change what’s possible for you.

Like compound interest, compounding RESULTS gain over time. 

For example, eating better. When you get into some new healthier habits, this can create a powerful domino effect in your life. For example, when you eat better your mind is clearer, you have more energy. As a result, you perform better. Maybe your boss notices and gives you a raise. Or your business grows and new clients can’t wait to work with you. Or your relationships improve because you are more present and positive in your interactions. Maybe you finally embark on that creative project you’d set aside for “someday” … and not only are you healthier, you’re happier.

Here’s another example: 

Let’s say that after years of debating a move from your hometown, you feel compelled and eager to escape. Maybe you feel a lot of pressure from others to stay, but you know that you feel confined and constrained, like it’s sucking life out of you, stunting your growth. So, you decide to take action, finally breaking the “Root Where You Are Planted” brule (chapter 12 in The Brules of Life). Maybe you move to a thriving city where new opportunities are everywhere. Or, perhaps you take off and travel the world and along the way, you meet your dream partner, and you find your dream job, where you make wonderful new friends. You pursue your passions and hobbies, your mental and physical health improves, you look better, you feel better, you stand taller, and before you know it, you have elevated the quality of your entire life!

All THIS sparked by doing what it took to break ONE brule or build ONE habit! 

See what I mean?

You could seriously be one shift/one decision/one brule-busting breakthrough away from everything you want. 

In The Brule Breakers Club we challenge assumptions, break unhelpful habits, rethink false logic, untwine conflated ideas, and celebrate breakthroughs … shining a great big light on a multitude of dream-inhibiting, self-care-stunting brules so that you THRIVE. 

With more Brules books planned in my Book of Brules series, I have outlined a total of SIXTY brules to be deconstructed. 

And while reading my book is amazing, being in a space where we can actually BREAK the brules (rather than you doing a solo attempt at it) is POWERFUL. In The Brule Breakers Club we go far beyond the pages. I help you make this material real in your LIFE. So, join today!  

Profoundly integrating even just ONE can have infinite domino effects on the whole of your life. ONE skill. ONE change in perspective. Lifelong impact!

Consider what this could mean for YOU. 

Imagine the compounding impact this can have on the future YOU are creating, and ask yourself: Would investing 100 or so dollars a month in yourself be a worthwhile investment? What about $3 a day? Brule Breakers Club membership cost is equivalent to a cup of coffee a day. When breaking even just ONE BRULE could have tremendous positive effects on absolutely every area of your life, is that worth more than a cup of coffee? 

Hell yes, it is.   

The Brule Breakers Club is the difference between consistently showing up for what you want, and endlessly ruminating about what you want. 

It’s the difference between receiving what you want, and never getting it out of your head and into your LIFE.

As a member, the support you’ll receive is the difference between finally seeing your blind spots, and continuing to struggle to make a change. It’s the difference between having breakthroughs you celebrate, or having fear and resistance run the show. It’s the difference between achieving your dreams, and always wondering what could have been. And it’s the difference between the cumulative impacts of self-neglect, and the compounding benefits of self-care. It’s the difference between momentum and celebration, and stagnation and frustration.

In The Brule Breakers Club, you will awaken to a new kind of freedom. 

Ready to step into expanding possibilities, experience the value of compounding results, and create a new kind of freedom?

Join The Brule Breakers Club today!  I can’t wait to welcome YOU!

Big love,

P.S – My goal is for The Brule Breakers Club to be the last life coaching program you ever need: a powerful, transformative, collaborative experience like no other. Let’s do this thing. Have questions? Think it might be for you, but want to be sure? Reach out to me for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity if you are curious to learn how brule breaking can help you. 

A Brule Breaking love story

A Brule Breaking love story

A Brule Breaking love story

“I like emotionally unavailable men.”

“I like women who are mean to me.”

That about summed it up.

After sharing our respective relationship history synopses … on January 11, 2017, Carl and I decided to try something different: one another.

We’d been friends for more than a year. Between our frequent phone conversations, we met for coffee, drinks, gelato, dance events, dinners, Smithsonian museums, watching ice skaters (fall) in Georgetown, sitting on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial at night, exploring sculpture gardens, and other DC wanderings. One time, we literally met just for a hug.

Then, one night while saying goodbye, unbeknownst to me, he apparently tried to kiss me. As I had many times before, I went in for a big “see you later” hug – utterly oblivious.

The friend zone was real. 😄

Later that week, while chatting by phone, he asked me about it.

Wait, what?!

It took me a minute to process the information and consider whether “my friend Carl” could be more than a friend. After an awkwardly looooong pause, I hesitantly said, “try again?”

Our friendship began with salsa dancing. We’d met at a club we both frequented, a regular spot for the DC salsa scene. Predictably, we were both there again a few days after our telephone call.

At the end of the night, we walked out together and sat in my car with the heat on. This is where our one-sentence relationship history confessions were made. It’s also where he “tried again.”

I tell this story with a good dose of amusement. The level of honesty we shared, each in a single sentence, was funny.

But I now also see it in a more serious light. Frankly, I’m proud of us.

That was a series of brave moves! We chose – both together and individually – to risk not only the friendship we’d solidly established, but also to consciously disrupt familiar relationship patterns.

Rather than rejecting what felt safe, warm, reliable, and kind – reserving it for friendship only – we chose something different. Safer in some ways, but wildly risky in others.

Speaking for myself, I was scared. But willing.

Rather than the enticing pursuit of repeating patterns, we leaned in to already established warmth, tenderness, kindness, and care.

We stepped out of the familiar patterns of frustration and stopped chasing those who didn’t treat us well. We reoriented our compasses away from codependent complexities and questionable commitment levels, to seeing what the assurance of clear communication and genuine care could bring. We decided to build on the foundation of friendship instead of trying to bottle the smoke and excitement of fleeting fireworks. We stopped allowing hot smoke to be more compelling than building our own fire. We chose to recognize that what we’d each been doing in our personal lives wasn’t working, and decided to experiment with a new approach.

That was 7 years ago and we’ve been together ever since.

Psst… This is much more than an anniversary story message. This is a “Tara, what do you mean when you say brule breaking, and why should I care?” message. 

Whether it’s your career, your relationships, your health, your finances, your day-to-day life – whatever it is that you WISH was different – when you break brules, new possibilities come to light.

Brule breaking has two distinct qualifiers: 

  • A conscious pattern interruption
  • The sincere desire to thrive

Brule breaking requires BOTH.

To be clear, brule breaking is NOT synonymous with rebellion. It is NOT about bucking the status quo for the sake of being bold or different. Simply being contrarian isn’t what brule breaking is either.

Brule breaking = a conscious pattern interruption + a sincere desire to thrive

Brule breaking is about doing what it takes to make a change in your “normal” when your normal isn’t helping you thrive. 

It’s about no longer unconsciously impeding your own happiness or perpetuating your own suffering.

Easier said than done.

It can be incredibly difficult to see your own blind spots. 

And it’s even HARDER to break them on your own. 

Breaking brules requires conscious pattern interruptions. Be it stopping or pausing what you’ve always done, reconsidering and reflecting in a new way to gain a new perspective, or outright change: doing new things, in new ways.

Brule breaking requires outside perspectives and inner shifts.

Brule breaking REQUIRES support.

(And, hint hint, for all these reasons: Brule breakers need The Brule Breakers Club.)

Brule breaking is not about risk for the sake of risk, or nonconformity for the sake of nonconformity.

It’s about:

  • elevating awareness around self-limiting beliefs and behaviors that you’re not fully cognizant of
  • challenging them, and
  • learning how to implement change in your life when expanding your self-concept and finding out what you’re really capable of.

I asked Carl, “Do you remember who said ‘I love you’ first?”

His answer: “This morning?”

Lol.

Neither of us remembers who said it first. It was unspoken until it was spoken.

We broke the brules that were in our way by making some brave new pattern-interrupting moves on behalf of a sincere desire to THRIVE.

And love grew. 💕

If you long for a space to challenge and reinvent parts of yourself, to see your blind spots, deconstruct your limits, and create a vision for your life that is all your own…

If you want to break brules, not for the sake of rebellion, but in the spirit of self-expression and self-actualization…

If you want to step into being the next-level you, follow your dreams and enjoy the process of growth and expansion…

If you want to become cognizant of the brules in your life, to see what’s been prescribed by social and familial norms, and shift what doesn’t help you THRIVE…

…. consider this your personal invitation to The Brule Breakers Club. ❤️

With so much love,

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life