The difference between surviving and thriving

The difference between surviving and thriving

One key is to BECOME an embodiment of the person who LIVES your dreams, who HAS your dreams, who knows it’s certain and steps into that, day after day.

You must ‘self actualize.’

What do I mean by self-actualization?

Self-actualization is not an arrival. It’s not a fixed point. It is not a place at all. It’s an expression. It’s an evolutionary unfolding. A process of not only becoming, but creating your life to reflect that becoming.

The fullness and manifestation of self-actualization can be measured by how much of your life mirrors the magnificent, embodied, unapologetic, expression of YOU that you have become.

Your life is either full of evidence of a high degree of self-actualization, or it is full of evidence of a high degree of self-abandonment. This is a spectrum that leaves little room for gray because your emotional guidance will tell you clearly which one it is.

While not a fixed arrival point, self-actualization will bring countless savory moments when you kick back, drink in your life, and say to yourself, “f*ck yes.”

“This is MY life and I adore living it. I am so incredibly proud of everything I’ve created and how I’ve grown and what I’ve learned in order to get HERE. And now, here I am. I am here. Here is good, and luscious and I love it. I am SAVORING this delicious waking moment … because it is beautiful. Not perfect, mind you, but utterly aligned nonetheless. Beautiful in its unique-to-me expression, and in this, I also acknowledge my own beauty and imperfect perfection. Gratitude for this one incredible life fills my soul, created as only I could, as the one and only me. This life is so on point and I am lit from within about it, while also excited and inspired about all that’s in process and all that I’m creating next because I know that, it too, will only heighten this expression, this beingness, catching up with the latest parts of me that are surfacing and igniting the next levels of my expression. And should I die today, I will do so knowing I died happy, delighted, and inspired.”

When you look at your life and see the many many ways it reflects the beauty and truth of who you are … that’s your evidence of self-actualization .

Nothing is more gratifying.

It’s the kind of joy that fills you up, that lights you from within.

In contrast to this, when you look at your life and think “no, this isn’t right’ ‘I feel trapped’ ‘this isn’t the real me’ ‘I don’t want to do it this way’ ‘how did I get here and how do I get out’ ‘this doesn’t align’ ‘this isn’t who I am’ ‘this isn’t it for me’ ‘‘where the heck is the I in this life I have?’ ‘how do I get where I’m meant to be’ ‘I wish someone would save me’ ‘I’m so tired’ ‘my soul aches’ ‘when does my life rise up to greet me and welcome me home, to myself?’… then (obviously) this is not ideal. It absolutely sucks. I know because I’ve been there. To stay, to keep going, to keep doing the same things in the same ways for another day, perhaps with the same people, is one more day of self-abandonment.

^ This is the polar opposite of self-actualization.

Spoiler alert! Your life will always be lagging a bit behind your becoming. Since as long as you’re alive you’re creating, there’s always more to recalibrate and adjust to best reflect what you’ve discovered or revealed or uncovered about your beingness. There’s simply no way around this.

BUT – when you’re in a space of confident self-actualization even the lag time feels welcomed, glorious even, because the process of creation is an art form that you enjoy.

You know that arrival is a myth, and that evolution is ongoing.

You embrace and delight in the unfolding and trust the outcomes completely.

You are not suffering or surviving in the interim.

You are engaged and inspired.

You are alive in the ALL of it.

You are thriving.

There is always more to discover, create, and be. As you seek on a quest for a meaningful, joyful, impactful, satisfying, successful life (one that you aren’t aching to escape to Bora Bora about) … it’s an expanding spiral upward, a helix of becoming who you are meant to be, self-actualizing and living a life that is so aligned and joyful it IS the expression of the WHO that you’ve become. And as you become that WHO even more, new levels of desire are revealed and deepened, and expansion and new possibilities become possible for you.

Tara Sage

PS – If you are ready to become the person who LIVES your dreams, apply now for my FREE Top Shelf Session with Tara Assessment, a 1:1 conversation where you will gain clarity on your dreams and how they reflect and empower the person you are becoming, insight into what’s been holding you back, and a renewed sense of hope about how to courageously break free of obstacles to achieve what you want with a customized strategic plan for your desired future.

PPS – Not quite ready to talk about actually living those dreams? Not sure what your dream life even would LOOK like? I have something for that too.

 

Pellegrino message in a bottle

Pellegrino message in a bottle

The year was 2007.

I was leading an in-person group (remember those?) as part of a 6-week program I called The Dream Circle. On this particular day, seated in a circle, I asked everyone to look around the room and silently make note of everything in the room that was red.

A minute or so later, I had them close their eyes and take a breath.

Keeping their eyes closed, I asked them to bring to mind everything in the room that was green.

A few nervous giggles filled the space, per usual. I’d led this exercise many times before, but on this day something especially memorable followed…

After allowing ample time to silently recall what they could of “green”, I invited them to open their eyes and look around to see if there was any green present in the room that they didn’t recall.

Several laughed out loud, pointing at the green Pellegrino bottle that was on the table in the center of the circle … many of whom vividly remembered the red star on that very bottle!

I love this exercise.

It does such a great job of teaching that: we find what we look for.

Tunnel vision doesn’t just prevent us from seeing what we don’t want to see, it also prevents us from seeing and discovering that which we WANT to find, but don’t look for – perhaps because we don’t believe it’s there, or possible for us.

What you want could be right in front of you, yet wholly invisible to you.

The kicker is …

     You can’t create what you can’t see.

     You can’t experience what you can’t imagine.

     And, you find what you look for.

So, what are YOU looking for?

Since you and I are connected, I’m going to venture a guess that whatever it is you are looking for … ultimately, you want a life that feels free, and fun. A life where you thrive – not just somedays, but everyday. A life where you’re no longer waiting to feel accomplished or fulfilled. A life where you’re fully and unapologetically YOU, living in a way that reflects this. Where the truth of your whole, authentic, boundless self is ALIVE and free.

Am I close ?

What if I told you … that what you want is within arm’s reach, just like that Pellegrino bottle was to everyone in that circle.

What if I told you … that what’s holding you back – both from reaching for it, even seeing it – is a blind spot that’s not your fault.

What if I told you … that what seems just out of reach, can quickly become available to you.

What if I told you … that the reason it feels so elusive is you have been socially programmed to believe status quo conventions and false constructs, also known as “brules.”

Like a house built on sand, these brules (bullshit rules) cause you to sink and settle.

You are meant to RISE.

What if I told you … that everything you want is just a few brule-breaking shifts away.

Here’s how it works:

Once you become aware of a previous blind spot, when brules no longer hide in plain sight … you become willing to not only see things differently, you start to show up differently.

When a foundational shift in perception happens for you, your reality changes.

Sometimes, like the Pellegrino bottle example, you come to see what was there all along!

What you previously believed to be impossible or unrealistic, suddenly isn’t.

Reality didn’t change. You did. 

It all begins with just a few shifts – in perception, belief, behavior.

Your old “imaginary” or “impossible” can quickly become your new reality.

The Brule Breakers Club is your invitation to make those shifts, quickly, joyfully, and with an incredible community of support. We are going to shine a big brilliant light on the brules that are holding you back, hiding in plain sight.

This is the compassionate clear-eyed kick in the pants you’ve been waiting for.

This is your next evolution.

Don’t give up on your dreams. Don’t settle.

It is time, for you, to LIVE your unique-to-you no-vacation-needed life!

The Brule Breakers Club lifetime membership is going to help you connect the dots so that you can finally have what you want out of life, all within an extraordinary community of support.

We all have our lone ranger tendencies, but this isn’t something to try to do by yourself. Why? Because brule breaking can get confusing – fast. This socially accepted nonsense is baked in to every system, and every habit, and every everything. Assumed to be unquestionably true by many, this only further allows them to go unnoticed and continue to hide in plain sight.

But – once you join The Brule Breakers Club and you see all these baked-in brules, you won’t be able to unsee them. You can break free and make the small shifts that are going to make the biggest difference for you.

For all the juicy details and to join us, click here!

Big love,

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Planning for a big year

Planning for a big year

Welp, here we are …

The new year is just around the bend.

It’s been an(other) unusual twelve months and I think it’s fair to say, no one has gone unchallenged this year. Yet in the midst of the challenges, we’ve also each been presented with some unique opportunities: to embrace a new kind of rhythm, to make lifestyle adjustments, to find innovative ways to nurture connections, to discover new strategies for how we work, self-care, and create, to name a few…

 

Before the close of each year, I find that doing a Year-in-Review reflection is a valuable exercise and a powerful way to set the stage for the year to come. Doing an annual reflective review is something I not only coach clients to do, but something I do myself.

 

3 powerful Year-in-Review questions to consider:

1.)
What did you accomplish, create, or achieve in this past year? Create a big long list.

2.)
What goals or dreams did NOT come to fruition for you this year? It’s uber important not to ignore or disregard the fact that you didn’t achieve them. By shining light on them you’ll gain clarity and momentum about what you really truly want in the coming year.

3.)
What is your action plan? What will you do differently in the coming year?

 

 

Today I feel inspired to briefly share some of my own 2021 highlights, a few personal goals for 2022, and some exciting ways we can connect in the new year.

 


2021 Tara’tory:

 

  • As an RVer, I’ve been able to enjoy continued domestic travel, rolling across state lines in my Airstream, a.k.a. condo on wheels. My quick travel synopsis from 2021: Winter in New Mexico, New Orleans and Florida in the Spring, Summer in the northeast, and Fall in the Berkshires, Niagra Falls, and Illinois. (Friendly reminder: While many venues are closed, nature is open and she’s beautiful as ever, so get out there and hug a tree or something.)
  • Illinois is where I was when my book launched on Amazon and became a bestseller. The launch and success of The Brules of Life and The Brules of Life Companion Workbook was a definite bright spot in my year, the culmination of a tremendous amount of work and planning. Seeing how well it is being received, hearing how it is touching and inspiring the lives others, is the ultimate repayment.
  • I ran more in 2021. Salsa clubs used to be my sweaty haven, but times have changed. Running has become both a mental health and physical health outlet for me. 5k is a typical distance now, but as I look to 2022, I’ve got a 10k training app tempting/taunting me to go further.
  • Along with the launch of my book and coaching my clients to harness the unique opportunities of this interesting year, countless improvements and updates have been made to my website and offerings, to include a special new free gift, and other gems – all of which are waiting for you at tarasagecoaching.com.
Ok, 2022.

 

My 2022 goals include: increasing readership of my book, start writing my next book, reach some fitness milestones, put out more video content, and light a fire under a creative project I’ve got sitting on the back burner.

 

January is going to be a full month, and includes several exciting opportunities to connect!

January 5: Brule Break-a-thon Livestream! 

Jumpstart the New Year with a different take on resolutions! On January 5th, I am joining forces with community coach, Peter Bowden, for a fun, one-of-a-kind, interactive, livestream event to help you identify the “brules” (bullshit rules) that are holding you back so that YOU make 2022 a joyful, life-enhancing, dream-fulfilling year! It’s going to be a hoot! Subscribe, like, share, and invite your friends!


January 14: Book signing!
I’ll be doing an (outdoor) book signing at Sundog Bookstore in Seaside, FL. This is a fabulous independent bookstore I’ve visited many times, while envisioning the day when my book might be on their shelves. That day is here! If you’re in the area, stop by! 11am – 2pm

 

January 19-23: RV Show! This will be my third year on the seminar stage at the Florida RV Supershow in Tampa, presenting Nomadic Living 101: How to Live Nomadically for a Month, a Season, a Year or Forever. 1pm, daily.So that’s a bit of what’s happening in my world . Let’s start the year off strong together!

 

Are YOU determined to make 2022 different and finally bring those back-burner dreams to life? Are you ready to tell yourself the truth about what you want, refuse beliefs about limitation, fears about worthiness, and lies about what you “can’t” do? If so … claim your seat in The Dream Acceleration Program for all of this and more in the New Year! There are just a few openings, so enroll today.

 

Looking ahead to 2022, I am 100% committed to taking extraordinary care of myself while also giving (you) a lot more. It feels wonderful to know how deeply compatible these intentions are.

 

Onward and upward!

 

Here’s to a happy healthy dream-fulfilling New Year,
Tara Sage
PS – Seriously, if you have a fire in your belly and are determined to make this year different and finally bring your dreams to life, register now for The Dream Acceleration Program and let’s do this together. I can’t wait to welcome you to the program!
What this client did left me shocked!

What this client did left me shocked!

Totally unprompted, a client of mine reached out to me. She shared that she was sending me money.

Perhaps so far, this story doesn’t sound that out of the ordinary.  

But this client didn’t owe me any money.

She said she had decided to PAY the way – as a decidedly anonymous donor – for whomever I chose to receive a full scholarship to my signature program, The Dream Acceleration™ Program.

WHY would she do this?!?

She said simply that she credits The Dream Acceleration™ Program for so much of the success that she’s had, and she wants to help someone else have this special opportunity. She explained that she wants to know she helped someone else say a big YES to their dreams. That now that she can, she is eager to give back and pay the way for someone else who may not otherwise have the opportunity to join the program.   

Whoa.

Incredible, right? 

I’ve said a million times that I have the best clients in the world. This was just more evidence of how incredible my clients are.

Moved and inspired by her blind generosity, I could hardly wait to share.

So I shared on Facebook about this incredible generous offering and within minutes guess what happened next?? …

I received the following private message from yet ANOTHER client:

“Tara, I would like to donate $100 towards your scholarship program. The Dream Acceleration™ Program changed my life, and I too would like to give back in a meaningful way.”

I was blown away.  

Two past clients donating to future clients, people they didn’t know!

Wow.

When I tell you I have had the true honor of leading this extraordinary program for hundreds of people spanning 4 continents in the 15+ years I’ve been in business … I mean it.

While the scholarships have been claimed, I have a special GIFT for you.

I have put together a very special FREE video training: “9 Simple Powerful Strategies to Accelerate the Realization of Your Dreams” … walking you through exactly how to take the simple, powerful actions required to make your dreams real.  

>>> Claim it now

Here’s to refreshing surprises and dreams realized.

Big love,

Tara Sage     

Helping people live their dreams since 2004.

Your Year-In-Review: Video #3 (of 3)

Your Year-in-Review: Part 3 “Tips from Tara” Video (of 3)

Hey there!

To celebrate the excitement and potential of the new year that’s just around the corner, here’s part 3 of my very special Year-in-Review Video Series to support YOU and ensure that you have a truly Happy YOU Year.

Also, here are links to video 1 & 2 in case you missed it or want to review them again before diving in to part 3:

Watch video #1

Watch video #2 

And here’s video #3:

In summary, this 3-part Year in Review Video Series walks you through giving focus to the value of reflective time to get clear on:

  1. What you accomplished over the last 12 months.
  2. Dreams, goals, and resolutions on your list that didn’t actualize
  3. Your action plan for the coming year.

With this clarity, you’ll be ready to create the new year to be your best year yet!

Jump-start YOUR New Year with our renowned Dream Acceleration Program 2.0! Together we will join forces and bravely, boldly, uncover, activate, and accelerate YOUR deepest dreams and desires! 🙂

I truly can’t wait.

Find out more at: www.DreamAccelerationProgram.com

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

xo

Tara Sage

Master Coach, Possibility Queen, Author, Speaker, Nomad, Salsera, Life Hack Pro, Location-independent business owner.