The paradox of dipping your toe in

The paradox of dipping your toe in

Pursuing a dream often begins with dipping your toe in, learning what’s involved.

Makes good sense, yeh?

For this reason, when clients first come to me, many choose to dip their toe in and start with my No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training, a low pressure, low investment, 6-week e-coaching program where you get to go at your own pace and digest the content independently. In addition to a bonus 1:1 Strategy Session with me at the end, accountability is built in throughout the 6 weeks with regular emails that have specific questions and assignments, providing you with weekly invitations to share what you’re learning and discovering.

A great starting place!

In a similar way, my recent trip to Italy to attend a training about how to get a traditional publishing deal, was essentially me dipping MY toe into the vast ‘get a book deal’ waters.

A sensible place to start, for sure.

But just the beginning, just as joining my No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training is just a START in what is a bigger journey. Now that I’ve dipped my toe in, you better believe I won’t just try to do it alone.

The toe-dipping level isn’t really even comparable to what I provide in my higher-commitment, real-time, private coaching support programs. Just as, me hiring someone to coach me through the actual writing and creation of my book proposal, plus supporting me through each step of pitching my book to agents, would be.

While, on one hand, No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training is a really terrific place to dip your toe in (the water’s warm!) just like the publishing training was for me … it’s of course up to YOU (and me) to take ACTION on the teachings, prompts, and nudges we receive.

As a member of MY dip-your-toe-in training, it is also up to YOU to reach out and ask me for help if you get confused or overwhelmed. Because beyond sending you weekly emails that include requests that you reply… if you DON’T reply, if you don’t answer my questions, if you don’t watch the training videos, or complete the worksheets … that’s your choice. 

I don’t chase you down or babysit. 

Just as I, of course, have to show up for myself and my dreams, YOU have to show up for yourself and your dreams. 

Hear me on this: When that is difficult for you to do independently, that’s just one more reason NOT to just dip your toe in.

That’s when it’s CRITICAL to step up the commitment, step up the accountability, to ensure that you get the personalized support you need. Even if you’re not sure exactly HOW someone could help, you often find out when you have it. Consistent support raises your game. The very presence of support, tracking and observing your progress, creates a special kind of momentum. It also helps ensure you don’t miss opportunities due to tunnel vision or limits in your own understanding.

In the Tara Sage Coaching world, this means claiming a spot in one of my more comprehensive private coaching programs. For example, unlike my 6-week e-coaching introductory offer, my signature Dream Acceleration Program is where we get to communicate with each other frequently, in real-time, over a six-month period. 

Fact is, taking the journey of changing and improving your life is likely going to require MORE than a self-guided learning experience, no matter how good the content provided in the dip-your-toe-in-training is. 

Private, real-time, ongoing, customized support is ALWAYS what is going to be most powerful.

One perk of being a Dream Acceleration Program member is that you can reach out anytime and ask for help. No matter how overwhelmed or confused you get, we work through it together. In addition to our regular private coaching calls, my private clients know that they can always send me a message with any quick questions that come up, anytime, and I’ll reply. If they get stuck or just need a bit of feedback, they don’t wait or stew in overwhelm or confusion. They reach out, we get their questions answered, and they get quickly back on track. 

While ultimately YOU have to do the work for your dreams, just like I have to do the work for my dreams, having help helps – a lot! 

Here’s the paradox of dipping your toe in:

While, on one hand, what’s appealing about the No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training is that it’s low pressure and you get to digest the content independently, at your own pace… on the other hand, BECAUSE it’s so independent and self-guided…this very same program could have you stalling out, letting overwhelm or confusion STOP you from showing up for yourself, STOP you from doing the work, and STOP you from reaching out for support.

So, let’s make this promise together. 

Say it with me:

“If I stall out, if overwhelm and confusion starts to fester, if I stop showing up for myself and my dream, if I don’t do the work… I will reach out for support, even if I’m not sure how support could help.”

Deal?

What I missed on the way to my dreams

What I missed on the way to my dreams

On a good day, I felt restless. On a bad day, I felt like a caged animal.

Exasperated, I came home from work to my dark, musty, basement apartment – a glaring reminder that I was not just figuratively, but literally, underground. Drowning in student loan debt, I rarely answered my phone because collection agencies were calling me daily. Trying to find my way in the world wasn’t easy. Emotional and practical baggage of difficult family dynamics and estrangement seemed to be hitting me all at once. I felt like a victim of circumstances, dealt an unfortunate hand, profoundly alone in my struggles.

The job I begrudgingly got at an Ivy League university to establish some stability, looked good on paper, but my soul was dying, a little more every day. If I had to sit through one more hour-long meeting that could have been communicated by an email, I was going to lose it. Things were done in inefficient ways for no reason other than it’s the way they’d always done it. This felt archaic to me, but rethinking conventions wasn’t welcomed or encouraged. Waiting for that clock on the wall to read 5:00 felt like an insult to my personal integrity and pride, not to mention that I’d finished my work hours earlier. And the starched button down shirt I wore, because I thought I should, felt like a straight-jacket, a costume that belonged to someone else – but not me.

I knew I couldn’t stay.

While going through the motions on all the things I thought I was supposed to do, I was losing myself. On autopilot, I’d drive to work, or the grocery store, or the gym (when I could get myself to go) feeling more and more disconnected from who I was. I wasn’t challenged. I wasn’t inspired. I felt contained, micro-managed, and caught in status quo games that I didn’t want to play.

I felt like I was drowning, and I knew no one was coming to save me.

Underneath my restlessness and frustration, was a growing sense that I was meant for MORE, that this couldn’t possibly be all I was meant to do, be, or have.

I knew I needed to take the reins and reshape my life, to reshape my reality, to figure out how to not live in a basement apartment forever, to create a life that was my own, that reflected the truth of who I was.

It was from that dark musty basement apartment, that I gazed out that teeny-tiny window with a view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by … and I’d dream.

I dreamed of:

having the freedom to travel when and where I please
√ having my own location-independent company so that I could work from anywhere
a home with lots of natural light
becoming a bestselling author
wealth on my own terms
finding love
having time and energy for creativity and play
making a positive impact, serving others in meaningful ways that made their life better
being myself without boundaries.

The voice of my soul, and seeds of my own self-actualization, were surfacing.

There was a huge difference between the caged, soul-crushing, autopilot life I felt constrained and uninspired by, and my dreams. The problem was I couldn’t figure out how and where to find a bridge between the two.

A few things were missing, and when I finally figured those out, everything changed. Quickly.

What was missing was…

  • Self-trust
  • Belief that dreams my were possible – for not just other people, but for me
  • A way to see and transform my blind spots and expand my thinking

I needed to step up for myself, rather than waiting around for things to change, or others to approve. I needed to go from complaining about what my life currently was to becoming the person that COULD and WOULD move out of it.

What I needed to learn was…

  • How to manage my energy
  • What to do with fear
  • How to navigate naysayers

I needed the skills and support to take the REINS on my life, to listen to my heart, and really take ownership of the life I dreamed and envisioned for myself. To stop fear from running the show, I needed to get out of my head and shift my focus from all the seeming limits of my current circumstance to finding strategies and ways forward that I couldn’t yet see but chose to believe were there to be found.

What I needed to do was…

  • Get the right support
  • Take brave consistent action
  • Show up fully for what I was saying I wanted

I needed support from someone who’d been there. And perspective OUTSIDE what I’d already tried, a shift out of what had created the life I had, and into creating the totally different life I wanted.

So, I got support. And I changed my thinking. And I became a different version of me.

Spoiler alert: It worked.

Not only have I achieved my “impossible” dreams and the freedom I so craved, I have built a business and a profoundly fulfilling, decades-long, career around helping others rethink conventions, chart their own course, live their dreams, rediscover themselves, and realize what’s possible.

I help you create the life you think you cannot have. 

Your dreams, like mine, are fuel on your path to self-actualization.

The first step along the way to THAT life? Want the key to reclaiming what’s missing, to create everything you want for yourself, to finally make that change? >>> The Only Skill You Ever Need

xo,

P.S. Going after your dream life, finally living it, moving from your life now to the life you want to have – all of this can feel completely overwhelming! How do you know what you want? How do you GET what you want? Where do you start? How do you face all the uncertainty and that huge climb from where you are now to the life of your dreams?

There’s one skill that unlocks all the rest.

And my totally free and totally updated Only Skill You Ever Need guide and bonus chapter goes through exactly that.

Ready for that dream life of yours?

What stopped you this year?

What stopped you this year?

Naysayers have an unfortunate amount of influence over whether you live your dreams, for this one reason: Your own self-doubt.

How often do we do something, not do something, or change how we do something because of what people say? Or even what we THINK people will say?

Deferring to others is a symptom of innate self-doubt. And when the people you’re deferring to are naysayers or people who don’t want to see you make any changes, it can be the nail in the coffin for your dreams.

I know it may sound like I’m being overly dramatic. But unfortunately, in many cases, this is exactly what happens.

When people don’t receive approval or support from others about their dreams, it’s often at this very moment that their dreams die on the vine.

What can make naysayer navigation doubly hard is when it comes from the voices close to us.

This is why – if you want to not just dream, but LIVE those dreams – building self-trust and self-mastery is imperative.

Because when we fully trust OURSELVES and our own vision and desires, and when we trust ourselves to ACT and to BE, the words and opinions of naysayers, don’t stop us. We live our dreams.

It’s also why it’s so important to have a naysayer navigation plan so that the dreams in your heart don’t wither up like a raisin in the sun.

Look, if this stuff was easy everyone would do it!

The key is to align yourself with the right support while you grow in your ability to trust yourself. When you do this, you are strengthening the very foundation that your dreams and goals are built on: YOU.

While doubts and questions are normal and natural, most people stop right there.

But – this is 100% preventable. With the right support in your corner, this won’t happen because when doubts pop up, we bust through them right away. As we face each doubt and obstacle together, you’ll gain a growing sense of bravery, confidence, and self-trust. When old habits and default ways of thinking start sneaking their way back in and seem so real, together we will shine a light of TRUTH on those doubts and naysayer opinions and recognize and reconnect to what YOU want so you can step back into how you can create it.

It’s hard, sometimes even impossible, to do it alone.

Sticking with it, investing in support, and staying with the process are what is going to really set you apart .

Want to work with me? Apply now for my free Top Shelf Assessment Call.

Together, we’ll build that self-trust and self-mastery so that you can finally realize the life you are wanting.

Big love,

Tara Sage

 

Keys that unlock your dreams

Keys that unlock your dreams

Feel a bit like a bird in a cage ? Like your dreams and potential are cooped up?

Eager to spread your wings and fly free?

You’ve worked hard to get where you are in your life, career, relationships, family, home, finances, etc… but maybe some things just aren’t working or delivering the satisfaction and pride you thought they would and there’s a nagging sense that there’s got more to life than “this.”

You want to thrive.

You want your time to be your own.

You want full creative expression.

You want the freedom to do what you want, when you want.

You want to feel clear, confident, and capable of creating anything you want.

… BUT, as you consider making a change, your mind gets busy about predicting and wanting to plan for everything that could possibly go wrong.

As hopeful and determined as you are about creating the best and fastest path to what you want most, it’s a struggle to figure out what’s needed, how to get out of your own way, how to break the habits and patterns that aren’t helpful. And what tends to happen instead is, that cage becomes a great place for a much-needed nap!

Relate?

In Video #2 of my No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training, I drop Two Keys for you to unlock the door and set yourself free so that you can take the first steps to own the extraordinary power and influence you have over your life.

Powerful stuff!

Want the keys that unlock the cage ?

Claim your seat today – just $197 for 6-weeks of support.

Let’s do this thing.

To success on your own terms,

 Tara Sage

 

I’ve Been Called A Lot of Things

In a recent client session, we coached through a Big Belief Obstacle (a BBO): that personal worthiness is tied to others opinion of you. This can be a tough one to navigate. But, oh … clearing the cobwebs on this one to reveal the freedom that lies on other side is sooo worth it.  Self-permission and the freedom to live your life and to be fully and truly yourself is an awesome and priceless reward.

I personally have been called a lot of things over the years.  Some hurt. In contrast, others were so generous and kind, I had a hard time fully receiving them without deflection.

Amidst the wide spectrum of things I’ve been called, here are a few that I don’t contest: digital entrepreneur, master coach, possibility queen, writer, author, speaker, salsera, life hack pro, blanket hog … 🙂

If you’ve been following my journey, you know that I live full-time in an Airstream with my guy and our dog, traveling and working from the road. We’re love this lifestyle. Definitely one of the best decisions I’ve made for myself.

I am deeply passionate about the work I do, wanting all beings to make kick-ass decisions for their life based, of course, on their own dreams and goals. This is my mission and personal calling.  Since 2004, I am constantly amping things up in terms of the support I provide, the content I offer, and the ways I share my work, through a combination of IRL and URL.  

I’m committed to touch as many lives as possible with what I know creates rapid transformation and has an enormous impact on the human experience.

As a reader and member of my virtual community, I want to check in with you …

Are YOU ready for kick-ass results and high-level support as you embark on the exciting, sometimes tricky, at times intimidating, but immensely gratifying process of creating YOUR dream life?

If so, it’s high-time you and I talk. Especially if you’ve been a curious observer for a while. 

If you and I have never connected, it’s time we do, with a free session. (My gift to you.) Simply go to www.SessionwithTara.com and pick a time on my calendar. Book it now so it’s in place for you. I love connecting with people from my community. (If you’re already a client, please consider sharing this with someone you think could benefit from this kind of support.)

Actions speak louder than words.

Behavior modification is my specialty, applying my Holistic Leadership MA, my Psychology BA, and extensive work experience. Truth be told, talking and thinking about doing something is one thing … but aligned action is what makes the real difference.

If you’re tired of “maybe someday” … put action and a proven process to work for you on behalf of YOUR dreams, resolutions, deepest desires, and highest goals.

Let’s talk. We  will explore the possibilities together and determine the best strategy forward for you. Claim your session here: www.SessionWithTara.com

Cheers!

To your success,

 

Tara Sage

Master Coach, Possibility Queen, Author, Speaker, Nomad, Salsera, Life Hack Pro, Location-independent business owner.