Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

I talk a lot about my work and The Brule Breakers Club and WHY it’s so awesome. 

So let me tell you why you’d be right NOT to join…

I realize it’s rather unconventional to write in depth about NOT joining my program.

So why do it? Because, The Brule Breakers Club is not for everyone. 

If you are debating whether or not you can afford to join (financially or otherwise), here are some considerations that I hope will help you decide:

  1. If you find yourself needing to choose between feeding yourself OR keeping a roof over your head, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.
  2. If you feel desperate for immediate solutions and are in a place in your life where you don’t know what you’ll do if a major life-altering change doesn’t happen for you within the next 30 days, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.

The first one needs no explanation. 

In terms of desperation or urgency around results, there’s going to be a lot of growth, but growth doesn’t happen overnight. Brules have been profoundly assimilated into your worldview and experience over decades of reinforcement and, because of this, they won’t just exit stage left in a hot second.

If neither of the above describe you or your circumstances and you wish to join, then I truly hope you will, EVEN IF making the $100 or so a month investment s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-s you a little – be it financial, emotional, or both.

Because let’s be honest, investing in yourself – whether it’s a few dollars, or something with several zeros behind it, not to mention the TIME – can be a symbolic and emotional hurdle as much as it is a financial one. 

It can dredge up questions like…

  • Am I worth it?
  • I mean, do I really get to invest in not just striving, but thriving?
  • Should I really invest in myself now – as in, TODAY??

Ultimately, all of these are variations of the old “Who do you think you ARE?” question.

If you do decide to join us (again, with the understanding that those first two scenarios don’t apply to you), then know that you will be entering a space that is dedicated to supporting your best self, your self-actualization, and expanding possibilities for your life.

The Brule Breakers Club is also a space where “Who do you think you ARE?” is escorted out and replaced with the-same-words-but-a-very-different-question: 

“Who do YOU think you are?”

The emphasis in this question matters.

The first one – “Who do you think you ARE?” – is full of residual head-trash that you picked up somewhere along the way from people who haven’t yet sorted where or whether to discard this garbage, so they gave it to you.

In contrast, the second one – “Who do YOU think you are?” is a process of self-revelatory introspection and discovery, both about your current self-concept and your ever-evolving and expanding Self. 

Say the question aloud to yourself now: “Who do I think I am?” 

Feel that “damn! I am in charge” vibe? 😎

In The Brule Breakers Club, we delight in both the second version of the question and in the version of YOU that this question helps draw out of the shadows and into the light. 

All this to say … I want you to understand that inside The Brule Breakers Club, any and all versions of “I can’t afford it right now” are not supportive, or supported.

Lemme ‘splain.

We hold you as powerful. Period. 

And, to be clear – even if you find yourself in either of the two scenarios I describe at the top – we also hold YOU as powerful. 

Whatever your current circumstances are, while they may reflect what makes practical sense for you to prioritize right now, they do NOT reflect what is POSSIBLE for you. 

You are far more powerful than whatever the snapshot of your current experience of your current moment might be. To pretend that you aren’t would be a disservice, both to you and to the other members. 

Every time you speak, share, or believe that you “can’t afford it,” you radiate disempowered energy and this perpetuates feelings of limitation, scarcity, and not-enough-ness. This isn’t beneficial. Just as spending your last dollar on a life coaching program wouldn’t be beneficial if it means not having enough food to eat.  

If, barring these circumstances, you truly would love to join, then find a way to join!

And, if you don’t truly want to join, that’s ok too.

You can decline without self-limiting statements that reinforce and only root you that much more deeply in the belief that you are powerless or that you don’t have options.

You are not powerless. 

And you have options. 

And those options include what you choose to prioritize.

This very message is just a sampling of the level of thought work and personal transformation that you’ll be supported through in The Brule Breakers Club. And with registration currently set at what adds up to the cost of a cup of coffee a day, it is an absolute bargain.

Click here to join!

Big love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

PS – The sooner you join the sooner you can get oriented to the Tara’tory. 😜 If you think this might be for you but you’re not sure or have questions, reach out right away for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity so you can experience and learn more about how brule breaking can help YOU.  

Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day ??

Ever hear of “Quitters Day”? 

It’s a pseudo-holiday, the second Friday in January. It’s the day when most people quit on their New Year resolutions. 

Research shows that only 9% of Americans that make resolutions complete them, and 23% of people quit their resolutions by the end of the first WEEK! A whopping 43% quit by the end of January. 

Given this data, Quitters Day seems to mark a day that many people “observe.”

I personally think resolutions shouldn’t start until February. 

I am an advocate of January being a month that’s focused purely on reflecting and regrouping. Reflecting on the year that’s passed and reorganizing your space, and your mind, to set clear intentions and ready yourself for what’s to come.

Only from THIS clarity can you really, in fairness, determine what’s most important to you and create an actual plan to implement what you’re resolving to DO about it. You need some time to sort it all out, to get your ducks in a row and set an executable plan into motion for the coming months and year … for HOW you’re going to actually CREATE your desired changes.

It’s too important to rush. 

Don’t blame yourself if you’ve been guilty of quitting on resolutions before you really start.

It’s not you. The cultural expectation of January 1st-resolution-setting is innately flawed. It sets you up to fail.

Premature resolution-setting, combined with a lack of a doable plan of action, and more often than not, without the right accountability team of support helping to ensure it happens – fine-tuning as needed along the way (because this too is part of actually DOING it)  – is, in large part, WHY most resolutions fail, almost as soon as they start!

Take a brule-breaking approach to planning out your new year with a refreshingly unconventional approach and strategic plan for a year of “thrival.” This is what will have you feeling grounded, organized, and excited about your “resolutions”… crystal clear about what you want and what to focus on next.

Launch into a year of transformation (anytime!) by joining the last life coaching program you’ll ever need.

Unlock liberating, life enhancing, brule breaking freedoms and delights so that you can fulfill your dreams and desires and BE who you are here to be – now and later.

Invaluable!

Claim your membership now: Become a Brule Breakers Club member today!

Love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

How to shorten your to-do list

How to shorten your to-do list

This accidental poem fell out of my mouth during a recent client coaching call:

“You don’t have to hate it, to delegate it.”  

(I’m a poet and I didn’t even realize it. 😉)

Look, here’s the thing: Just because you’re *able* to do something, and just because you don’t totally dislike doing that thing, does not mean it is best that YOU do it.

Hear me on this!

Competency does not = required to be done by you. 

In other words, just because you CAN does not mean you HAVE TO. 

** Most people assume (or at least act like) it does. Consider this one more way you can be different than the masses and color outside the lines of groupthink.  **

Another common belief that often trips people up is the belief that you need to be rich to start handing off your “things I’m capable of doing but don’t necessarily adore doing” list. 

No. You do not need to be rich. 

What you do need, though, is to be willing to realign your priorities. 

I’m going to go out on a limb and say that if I asked you “What do you want so badly it hurts?” and “What do you wish you could devote your energy to 100%?” … that the following things would NOT be on that list:

  • Grocery shopping
  • Laundry
  • Paying bills
  • Cleaning
  • Troubleshooting with tech support in an online chat
  • Getting your printer to work
  • Sitting on hold with customer service

… just to name a few.

Amiright?

One thing my private clients and I often work on together is building their Dream Team – their support team – because, truth be told, the ONLY way to ever even come CLOSE to doing the top things you wish you could devote all your energy to… is going to require that you: 

(1) get super efficient with your time

(2) be super discerning and diligent about how you manage your energy, and 

(3) that you delegate tasks to others

Seriously. 

Nothing shoots your dreams and joys in the foot faster than “I have to do everything by myself” beliefs. 

In order to free your time, your energy, your creativity, and in order to be able and available to focus on and DO more of what you’re wanting to … you’ll need to stop with the “I do it all” nonsense. (Bossy, I know. I’m not sorry about it. I’m on your team!) 

So, to help with this effort, today I’m sharing a few valuable tips and tools so that you can experience MORE of the delights and benefits available to you – all by intentionally simplifying, outsourcing, systematizing, and delegating. Yay!

Please note: None of the links below are referral links. I don’t earn anything for referring you to these websites or companies. I share because I care. (Hey, another poem!) 😊

Ok, here they are, in no particular order: 

  • TaskRabbit – An online marketplace that matches freelance labor with local demand, allowing customers to find help with everyday tasks, including furniture assembly, moving, delivery, and handyperson work. 
  • Fiverr – This online platform connects freelancers to people or businesses looking to hire for a diverse range of skills, delivered virtually. 
  • Upwork – Like Fiverr, this online platform connects freelancers to people or businesses looking to hire for a diverse range of professional services, from short projects to full-time positions.
  • Geeksquad – Offering both in-person and remote support to solve computer problems, get troubleshooting support for a range of products and tech questions, or finally learn how to use all the buttons on that remote control. 🙂 
  • FancyHands –  This online platform connects you with a large team of virtual assistants able to get tasks done for you, day and night. 
  • Peapod – A great time-saver that allows you to order your groceries online and have them delivered to your doorstep, be it once a week or once a month.
  • Rover – This worldwide online marketplace is a global network for pet care. No matter where you are, you can book a trusted person to care for your cat, or walk your dog, be it day-time services or overnight care.

Lord knows, there are countless ways to use technology to support you!

Like, for example… 

  • Maybe you set up automated payments for all your monthly bills (resulting in one less to-do on your list).  
  • Maybe you set Alexa to play your favorite workout playlist at the exact time you’ve promised yourself you’ll exercise. 

Speaking of exercise, do you have a gym membership? If so… 

  • Go VIP by springing for a locker rental. Get yourself duplicates of your favorite shampoo, deodorant, etc. and store them in your locker along with a few outfits, protein shake mix, and whatever else helps you feel supported. This way, each time you go to the gym, you can go directly from the gym to wherever you’re headed next with one less thing you need to think about or plan ahead for. This’ll help ensure you get your workout in and have more ease in your day. 

Decide that you are worth it. 

Little decisions to invest in yourself add up and can make a big difference!

Here’s one more tip … 

Do you miss friends and family and wish you talked more often? 

  • Make a list of who those people are. Reach out to them and propose setting up regularly scheduled phone-dates so that you stay in touch and ensure too much time doesn’t pass before you speak again. Easy-breezy.

Again, these are obviously just a few ideas. There are COUNTLESS ways to customize and find creative solutions based on your needs, resources, interests, priorities, etc.  

Pick one or two and start there.

Oh, and, psssst… 

Especially if you’re feeling short on cash…

This list of resources and companies aren’t just places you can hire from. Many of them are also places you can set up an account, create a profile, and provide services through. Be it renting out your guest bedroom on Airbnb, or offering your love of gardening to the lady with the unkept yard down the street, or providing editing services, or dog walking, or app building, or face painting, or whatever your talents are … you can use one or more of these freelance platforms to earn yourself some extra money. (Money that you can then choose to reinvest in building out your own Dream Team and getting the support that’ll make YOUR life better, and better, and better.) 

Last by not least, here’s a client example to get your wheels turning about how you might apply this to your life: 

A photographer client of mine does private photo shoots for her customers. She then edits those pictures before showing them to the customer, who chooses their selections. A very talented photographer and artist in general, she doesn’t hate photo editing. In fact, she enjoys many of the creative aspects involved in the editing process. She also enjoys having creative control when it comes to making edits according to her eye, her specifics, and her style. BUT – editing photos is very time consuming. The more edits she has to do, the less time she has available to line up more photo shoots, and the more “behind” she feels due to customers eagerly waiting to see their images. One option, of course, is she can book fewer photo shoots, allowing more time in between for editing. But this means less time spent doing what she loves: photography and the in-person connection that comes with time spent with her customers during photo shoots. 

What would YOU do?

Where do you see yourself in any of this? How might this example apply to what YOU want to be doing more of?

Comment below and tell me where you’re going to delegate more.

What if, rather than spending less time doing something she truly loves doing – and making less money doing it – she were to delegate the editing? And what if she finds someone with a keen eye to edit her photos for her? What becomes possible when she frees up more time and energy to be available to do what she loves, and profits from, most?

As you to apply this to yourself, consider: 

  • What would you rather not do? 
  • What would you prefer to do instead? 
  • How can you delegate, streamline, and optimize in order to support more of what you want and less of what you don’t?

Coaching helps with ALL of this. If you’re ready to expand your Dream Team by adding your favorite life coach 😉 to YOUR  support team, reach out today so we can explore how I can best serve YOU!

Big love, 

PS –  For more client inspiration, click here to read what my clients say about our work together and, if it feels right, book a call so we can talk about what us working together can do for you.

Momentum will be yours (here’s how)

Momentum will be yours (here’s how)

In order to make your dreams real, it is very important that we create a space where your dreams and goals are gaining accelerated momentum. 

Accelerated momentum is when renewed zest for life and a new kind of confidence takes hold within you. 

It’s when the life you’ve been trying to breathe into your dreams, starts breathing life into YOU! 

When accelerated momentum takes hold, you are no longer caught in the weeds, no longer doubting or questioning if you will live your dreams, no longer believing that you can’t, and no longer making or buying your own excuses.

Accelerated momentum is essential because dreams require energy and attention! And when your energy is scattered, or you’re waffling between this choice and that choice, this action and that action, or in a constant start, stop, start, stop, start, stop rhythm … momentum doesn’t ever have a chance to really get rolling.

Here are 3 keys to creating accelerated momentum on behalf of YOUR dreams:

(1) Teamwork makes the dream work. Private coaching is one of the most powerful forms of support you’ll ever experience. Gain personalized feedback, accountability, brainstorming, resources and highly focused, forward-oriented coaching – all personalized to YOU.  

Like Kimberly … who had this to say about her experience in The Dream Acceleration Program: “I learned a process of becoming more, becoming my best self. I did the work of transforming my dreary existence into a beautiful life, but I couldn’t have done it without Tara’s coaching. She holds the space for you to truly up-level your life, and guides you through the process of becoming your fully actualized self.”

(2) Go beyond fear and doubt. Fear is a normal natural part of the process, but we want to make sure it’s not directing your decisions and your life. One key skill to learn is how to master the psychology of fear and build your courage.

Like Rob, who had this to say about his experience in The Dream Acceleration Program: “I’ll admit, I was a little skeptical about spending the money, but I think that in itself is when you have a breakthrough moment … when YOU decide to invest in YOU! Once you make the commitment to pursue what you want most out of life, Tara can take you there.”

(3) Build your belief along with your skills. Step by step, create real momentum on a life that reflects your deepest dreams and desires. From there, anything you want in the future will be yours because you will have the tools to create it! 

Like Stephanie … who had this to say about her experience in The Dream Acceleration Program: “I learned how to eliminate the obstacles and move towards my dreams with energy and enthusiasm. This process is one I will carry with me for the rest of my life. I now feel as if there is nothing I cannot do or conquer.”

Want to learn more and join me for this 6-month private one-on-one coaching space, where we start from exactly where YOU are, and work on managing your energy, prioritizing what to give your attention and energy to, clarifying and removing obstacles, and planning out and providing you with complete support to step into a bigger vision for who you are and how you get to live? 

If yes, I’m happy to chat and explore together how this process can make your blind spots vanish and new possibilities emerge, so that you finally create and live the life you’ve dreamed of. Claim a spot on my calendar for a call at www.sessionwithtara.com

Tame your inner dialog with THIS

Tame your inner dialog with THIS

As you consider making a change, it’s normal for your mind to swing from predicting and wanting to plan for everything that could possibly go wrong, to wanting to focus on creating the best and fastest path to what you want most.

Your inner dialog may sound something like this:

If so …

First, big hug. I know it’s frustrating to be working so hard while feeling like you’re falling short of your potential, maybe wondering silently or out loud if this is all you will ever do, be, or have.

You’ve done amazing things for yourself, but I know you want more. 

I imagine that, while you’ve thought about going for your bigger dreams, whatever they are, you also don’t want to lose what you’ve worked so hard to create – your relationships, your security, your reputation, even your family. 

And, let’s be honest, it’s easy to get freaked out by the prospect of change. Also totally understandable, because it all feels so UNCERTAIN. 

Maybe up to now, you’ve thought it best to put your dreams on the back burner, for a time. You’ve had your reasons, and I honor that. 

BUT  – I also know that while you don’t want to lose what you’ve worked hard for, there’s a desire for MORE – be it a desire for more freedom, to be more yourself, or simply that you’ve been waiting long enough to act on the dreams in your heart, dreams that don’t seem to go away!

In The Dream Acceleration Program, one proven step at a time, we massively accelerate the realization of your deepest dreams and goals. We build on what you’ve already created, all while becoming more fully yourself, so that you can have your biggest dreams, be your biggest self, AND create deeper relationships, increased confidence, free time to do what you want with – and more because of it!

If you see yourself in any of this, claim a session and let’s discuss it further.