This accidental poem fell out of my mouth during a recent client coaching call:
“You don’t have to hate it, to delegate it.”
(I’m a poet and I didn’t even realize it. 😉)
Look, here’s the thing: Just because you’re *able* to do something, and just because you don’t totally dislike doing that thing, does not mean it is best that YOU do it.
Hear me on this!
Competency does not = required to be done by you.
In other words, just because you CAN does not mean you HAVE TO.
** Most people assume (or at least act like) it does. Consider this one more way you can be different than the masses and color outside the lines of groupthink. **
Another common belief that often trips people up is the belief that you need to be rich to start handing off your “things I’m capable of doing but don’t necessarily adore doing” list.
No. You do not need to be rich.
What you do need, though, is to be willing to realign your priorities.
I’m going to go out on a limb and say that if I asked you “What do you want so badly it hurts?” and “What do you wish you could devote your energy to 100%?” … that the following things would NOT be on that list:
- Grocery shopping
- Paying bills
- Troubleshooting with tech support in an online chat
- Getting your printer to work
- Sitting on hold with customer service
… just to name a few.
One thing my private clients and I often work on together is building their Dream Team – their support team – because, truth be told, the ONLY way to ever even come CLOSE to doing the top things you wish you could devote all your energy to… is going to require that you:
(1) get super efficient with your time
(2) be super discerning and diligent about how you manage your energy, and
(3) that you delegate tasks to others
Nothing shoots your dreams and joys in the foot faster than “I have to do everything by myself” beliefs.
In order to free your time, your energy, your creativity, and in order to be able and available to focus on and DO more of what you’re wanting to … you’ll need to stop with the “I do it all” nonsense. (Bossy, I know. I’m not sorry about it. I’m on your team!)
So, to help with this effort, today I’m sharing a few valuable tips and tools so that you can experience MORE of the delights and benefits available to you – all by intentionally simplifying, outsourcing, systematizing, and delegating. Yay!
Please note: None of the links below are referral links. I don’t earn anything for referring you to these websites or companies. I share because I care. (Hey, another poem!) 😊
Ok, here they are, in no particular order:
- TaskRabbit – An online marketplace that matches freelance labor with local demand, allowing customers to find help with everyday tasks, including furniture assembly, moving, delivery, and handyperson work.
- Fiverr – This online platform connects freelancers to people or businesses looking to hire for a diverse range of skills, delivered virtually.
- Upwork – Like Fiverr, this online platform connects freelancers to people or businesses looking to hire for a diverse range of professional services, from short projects to full-time positions.
- Geeksquad – Offering both in-person and remote support to solve computer problems, get troubleshooting support for a range of products and tech questions, or finally learn how to use all the buttons on that remote control. 🙂
- FancyHands – This online platform connects you with a large team of virtual assistants able to get tasks done for you, day and night.
- Peapod – A great time-saver that allows you to order your groceries online and have them delivered to your doorstep, be it once a week or once a month.
- Rover – This worldwide online marketplace is a global network for pet care. No matter where you are, you can book a trusted person to care for your cat, or walk your dog, be it day-time services or overnight care.
Lord knows, there are countless ways to use technology to support you!
Like, for example…
- Maybe you set up automated payments for all your monthly bills (resulting in one less to-do on your list).
- Maybe you set Alexa to play your favorite workout playlist at the exact time you’ve promised yourself you’ll exercise.
Speaking of exercise, do you have a gym membership? If so…
- Go VIP by springing for a locker rental. Get yourself duplicates of your favorite shampoo, deodorant, etc. and store them in your locker along with a few outfits, protein shake mix, and whatever else helps you feel supported. This way, each time you go to the gym, you can go directly from the gym to wherever you’re headed next with one less thing you need to think about or plan ahead for. This’ll help ensure you get your workout in and have more ease in your day.
Decide that you are worth it.
Little decisions to invest in yourself add up and can make a big difference!
Here’s one more tip …
Do you miss friends and family and wish you talked more often?
- Make a list of who those people are. Reach out to them and propose setting up regularly scheduled phone-dates so that you stay in touch and ensure too much time doesn’t pass before you speak again. Easy-breezy.
Again, these are obviously just a few ideas. There are COUNTLESS ways to customize and find creative solutions based on your needs, resources, interests, priorities, etc.
Pick one or two and start there.
Oh, and, psssst…
Especially if you’re feeling short on cash…
This list of resources and companies aren’t just places you can hire from. Many of them are also places you can set up an account, create a profile, and provide services through. Be it renting out your guest bedroom on Airbnb, or offering your love of gardening to the lady with the unkept yard down the street, or providing editing services, or dog walking, or app building, or face painting, or whatever your talents are … you can use one or more of these freelance platforms to earn yourself some extra money. (Money that you can then choose to reinvest in building out your own Dream Team and getting the support that’ll make YOUR life better, and better, and better.)
Last by not least, here’s a client example to get your wheels turning about how you might apply this to your life:
A photographer client of mine does private photo shoots for her customers. She then edits those pictures before showing them to the customer, who chooses their selections. A very talented photographer and artist in general, she doesn’t hate photo editing. In fact, she enjoys many of the creative aspects involved in the editing process. She also enjoys having creative control when it comes to making edits according to her eye, her specifics, and her style. BUT – editing photos is very time consuming. The more edits she has to do, the less time she has available to line up more photo shoots, and the more “behind” she feels due to customers eagerly waiting to see their images. One option, of course, is she can book fewer photo shoots, allowing more time in between for editing. But this means less time spent doing what she loves: photography and the in-person connection that comes with time spent with her customers during photo shoots.
What would YOU do?
Where do you see yourself in any of this? How might this example apply to what YOU want to be doing more of?
Comment below and tell me where you’re going to delegate more.
What if, rather than spending less time doing something she truly loves doing – and making less money doing it – she were to delegate the editing? And what if she finds someone with a keen eye to edit her photos for her? What becomes possible when she frees up more time and energy to be available to do what she loves, and profits from, most?
As you to apply this to yourself, consider:
- What would you rather not do?
- What would you prefer to do instead?
- How can you delegate, streamline, and optimize in order to support more of what you want and less of what you don’t?
Coaching helps with ALL of this. If you’re ready to expand your Dream Team by adding your favorite life coach 😉 to YOUR support team, reach out today so we can explore how I can best serve YOU!
PS – For more client inspiration, click here to read what my clients say about our work together and, if it feels right, book a call so we can talk about what us working together can do for you.
In order to make your dreams real, it is very important that we create a space where your dreams and goals are gaining accelerated momentum.
Accelerated momentum is when renewed zest for life and a new kind of confidence takes hold within you.
It’s when the life you’ve been trying to breathe into your dreams, starts breathing life into YOU!
When accelerated momentum takes hold, you are no longer caught in the weeds, no longer doubting or questioning if you will live your dreams, no longer believing that you can’t, and no longer making or buying your own excuses.
Accelerated momentum is essential because dreams require energy and attention! And when your energy is scattered, or you’re waffling between this choice and that choice, this action and that action, or in a constant start, stop, start, stop, start, stop rhythm … momentum doesn’t ever have a chance to really get rolling.
Here are 3 keys to creating accelerated momentum on behalf of YOUR dreams:
(1) Teamwork makes the dream work. Private coaching is one of the most powerful forms of support you’ll ever experience. Gain personalized feedback, accountability, brainstorming, resources and highly focused, forward-oriented coaching – all personalized to YOU.
Like Kimberly … who had this to say about her experience in The Dream Acceleration Program: “I learned a process of becoming more, becoming my best self. I did the work of transforming my dreary existence into a beautiful life, but I couldn’t have done it without Tara’s coaching. She holds the space for you to truly up-level your life, and guides you through the process of becoming your fully actualized self.”
(2) Go beyond fear and doubt. Fear is a normal natural part of the process, but we want to make sure it’s not directing your decisions and your life. One key skill to learn is how to master the psychology of fear and build your courage.
Like Rob, who had this to say about his experience in The Dream Acceleration Program: “I’ll admit, I was a little skeptical about spending the money, but I think that in itself is when you have a breakthrough moment … when YOU decide to invest in YOU! Once you make the commitment to pursue what you want most out of life, Tara can take you there.”
(3) Build your belief along with your skills. Step by step, create real momentum on a life that reflects your deepest dreams and desires. From there, anything you want in the future will be yours because you will have the tools to create it!
Like Stephanie … who had this to say about her experience in The Dream Acceleration Program: “I learned how to eliminate the obstacles and move towards my dreams with energy and enthusiasm. This process is one I will carry with me for the rest of my life. I now feel as if there is nothing I cannot do or conquer.”
Want to learn more and join me for this 6-month private one-on-one coaching space, where we start from exactly where YOU are, and work on managing your energy, prioritizing what to give your attention and energy to, clarifying and removing obstacles, and planning out and providing you with complete support to step into a bigger vision for who you are and how you get to live?
If yes, I’m happy to chat and explore together how this process can make your blind spots vanish and new possibilities emerge, so that you finally create and live the life you’ve dreamed of. Claim a spot on my calendar for a call at www.sessionwithtara.com.
As you consider making a change, it’s normal for your mind to swing from predicting and wanting to plan for everything that could possibly go wrong, to wanting to focus on creating the best and fastest path to what you want most.
Your inner dialog may sound something like this:
If so …
First, big hug. I know it’s frustrating to be working so hard while feeling like you’re falling short of your potential, maybe wondering silently or out loud if this is all you will ever do, be, or have.
You’ve done amazing things for yourself, but I know you want more.
I imagine that, while you’ve thought about going for your bigger dreams, whatever they are, you also don’t want to lose what you’ve worked so hard to create – your relationships, your security, your reputation, even your family.
And, let’s be honest, it’s easy to get freaked out by the prospect of change. Also totally understandable, because it all feels so UNCERTAIN.
Maybe up to now, you’ve thought it best to put your dreams on the back burner, for a time. You’ve had your reasons, and I honor that.
BUT – I also know that while you don’t want to lose what you’ve worked hard for, there’s a desire for MORE – be it a desire for more freedom, to be more yourself, or simply that you’ve been waiting long enough to act on the dreams in your heart, dreams that don’t seem to go away!
In The Dream Acceleration Program, one proven step at a time, we massively accelerate the realization of your deepest dreams and goals. We build on what you’ve already created, all while becoming more fully yourself, so that you can have your biggest dreams, be your biggest self, AND create deeper relationships, increased confidence, free time to do what you want with – and more because of it!
If you see yourself in any of this, claim a session and let’s discuss it further.
It’s what propelled Laurie to fulfill her dream to move to Costa Rica.
It’s what propelled David to make a major career shift so he could reprioritize time with his family.
It’s what propelled Friderike to double her income while growing her business in a way that felt fun.
It’s what propelled Janina to leave her corporate career and set out toward entrepreneurship, empowered with a new kind of confidence.
It’s what propelled Tom to make his acting career come alive.
It’s what propelled Lisa to launch her career as a professional organizer while also creating the time-freedom she so desired…
These are just a few examples.
I call it the Dream Acceleration Push-Pull Effect, and it can be dream-propelling jet fuel for the life you dream of … a life that, right now, perhaps you think you cannot have.
Here’s how it works.
Your deepest, truest, dreams and goals PUSH you out of your comfort zone. They inspire and push you to reach for what you want. (This, in a nutshell, is the Push Effect, and why it’s so important to get clear and stake a claim to your deepest, truest dreams and desires.)
And – the prospect of who you get to be, PULLS you. It PULLS you toward self-mastery. It PULLS you toward full-expression. It PULLS you toward self-actualization. It PULLS you into your potential, seducing and inviting you to step into BEING the Big You, to reach deep within yourself and develop into the person your dreams require you to BE in order for their fulfillment. It PULLS and compels you to grow.
The power of the Dream Acceleration Push-Pull Effect is NOT to be underestimated!
But it’s tough – sometimes impossible – to do it on your own.
Remember when I talked to you about curiosity last week? About building the muscle of changing your perspective, of seeing and bringing in POSSIBILITIES where none seemed to exist before?
This happens when we are in a space with the people that help us s-t-r-e-t-c-h.
We start to feel the benefits of this Push-Pull Effect when we are open to that kind of environment.
And that’s exactly what my clients do in our work together.
That’s exactly the kind of environment I create.
hirReady to find out for yourself?
Let’s do a Session with Tara, a free 1:1 assessment call where we will talk about your goals and your dreams and all the things that haven’t felt possible before, so we can get that dream-propelling jet fuel ignited for you, so that you can learn how to apply this for yourself to the life you dream of. You’ll walk away from our call not only with more confidence in your dreams and goals, but also with a roadmap to understanding exactly how to make them REAL.
To success on your own terms,
Wanna know the key to preventing burnout?
… asks the gal who’s built her biz from the ground up and has been enthusiastically living this work and serving my clients, with delight, for nearly two decades…
In other words, listen up because I know what I’m talking about!
Service. With a capital S.
👆That is the key.
When I talk about Service, I’m talking about Service that includes YOU.
Rather than service where you’re giving and giving and never being supported yourself.
I mean Service that, when you give, you receive.
When you Serve, you are instantly and sustainably replenished.
The exchange leaves no room for resentment, depletion, or self-sacrifice.
You could do it all day and never feel tired.
You are fueled by your giving.
It is self-sustaining.
Which naturally inspires and has you feeling enthusiastic about giving, and serving, more.
From THIS space, burnout isn’t even a concern … let alone a reality!
In my programs, you will discover new ways to deepen your satisfaction in every area of your life. Together, we amp up your personal clarity, to include the unique impact and contributions you are here to make, and the self-sustaining Service you are here to provide.
Ready to make your dreams and goals not just POSSIBLE, but REALITY?
I’m happy to Serve you!
Let’s do a Session with Tara, a free 1:1 assessment call where we will talk about your goals and your dreams and all of the things that haven’t felt possible before, and we will FIND the possibilities together. Discover your unique No-Vacation-Needed life and start to see how what wasn’t possible before, absolutely can be now. You’ll walk away not only with more possibilities and confidence in your dreams, but also with a roadmap to understanding exactly how to make those dreams and goals REAL.