Independence is a myth.
I challenge you to bring to mind one thing you do that is truly independent of all others.
What comes to mind? Is it truly and completely independent?
The reality is, if you are using anything made by or involving other people to do anything, you are not independent.
This is not a bad thing, though I can certainly empathize if, like I did, you have wrapped aspects of your identity around the idea of independence and have the challenge of unraveling it ahead of you.
Evidence of your inherent interdependence is everywhere.
Here’s a little exercise to demonstrate this:
The very water you drink: Do you go to a well to get it? Did you dig the well? Did you build the bucket you use to hold water? If so, did you make the tools you used to make the bucket? Did you cut down the tree that gave you the wood for the tools used to make the bucket and the chair you sit in? Who made the shoes and clothes that keep you warm?
“If you’re thinking, “I bought those things and my means allow my independence,” consider, who printed the money you used to purchase them? What service or product did you provide to earn it? To whom did you provide it? Who taught you your trade? How did the money earned find its way into your account? Who manages the money you have?
Independence is a grand delusion. And a harmful one at that.
(👆 All of the above is an excerpt from my book, The Brules of Life.)
Independence is detrimental to your dreams because it means you’ll be trying to do it all alone. And that is unsustainable and exhausting.
Deconstructing the myth of independence is key to living your dreams and creating a life you don’t need a vacation from because, truth be told, we can’t – and we don’t – do it alone.
Embracing this fact allows you to be an active receiver, of not only support, but also your dream. Often, in order to accept support requires us to give up any false narrative, or egoic pride about being “self-made” or “independent.”
We are interdependent.
Leaning into this is a proactive strategy and a skill all its own, to create conscious partnerships and collaborations – in our relationships, our families, our businesses, our communities, and our world.
Along the lines of intentional conscious collaboration, one question my clients and I explore together is: “Who’s on your Dream Team?”
While I am obviously a royal member of my clients’ Dream Team 😉 … one of the many ways I support them in this role is in helping them build out their Dream Team to include others who help and support them in all the ways.
I want my clients to be fully supported, to have not just me, but a freakin’ village if that’s what’ll serve them best. We ALL need support, and intentionally establishing a team of support is how we create and enhance our own personal Culture of Dreaming (a space where dreams expand, evolve, and are realized right and left).
Since we can’t — and don’t — do it alone, THIS is what creates a life that is so fully aligned and satisfying and creative and expansive and fun AND has next level support for greater ease, joy, impact, and flow…
So, as a celebration of YOUR interdependence, imagine your very own personal Dream Team, and ask:
- What kind of support would bring YOU greater ease, joy, impact, and flow?
- Who do you want on your Dream Team? Why?
- What are the qualities, specialities, expertise, and services that nourish and support YOU?
- And who don’t you want on your Dream Team? Why? (Also super important and informative to recognize.)
When it comes to pursuing your dreams, I find that you generally tend to find out pretty quickly who’s on board with you and your dreams, and who’s not.
Naysayers especially tend to make themselves known. Like crabs who try to pull each other back into the bucket, there may be people in your life saying, “no! don’t change, don’t move, don’t shift careers, don’t go for that dream, etc…”
In The Dream Acceleration Program, we do both!
We create your dream team AND we create your naysayer navigation plan!
We get clear on what your Dream Team of support entails, and we ALSO get you set up and confident in determining your Naysayer Navigation Plan™ so that you know how and when and who to delegate to, how to build and establish even more community and support around your dreams, how to manage your energy, and also how to insulate and protect your dreams from naysayers who poo-poo what you’re up to or try to convince you that you can’t.
Ready to expand your Dream Team with its newest member? … ME! 😀 If so, claim a FREE Top Shelf Session with Tara Assessment Call, a 1:1 conversation to explore how I can personally support and serve you and your dreams. Set yourself up with the right support and a customized plan to get on the fast-track to the life you dream of.