“I really want to work with a coach. But what do I GET for my investment, you know?”
A woman at one of my book signing events asked me this, expressing interest in coaching and skepticism in coaching – all in one breath.
She told me about almost hiring a coach earlier this year, but ultimately deciding not to because the coach couldn’t “convince” her [read: provide her certainty about] what she would GET for the price of coaching.
A valid question. I certainly understand the intangibility of it, and how investing in coaching can feel like a chicken-and-egg question.
I mean, when you pay for, say, a new phone, you get …a new phone.
When you pay for a trip to Spain you get a trip to Spain.
But when you pay for COACHING, what do you GET??
Let’s unpack this a bit.
Imagine you and I are having this conversation, and you ask: “When I pay for coaching, what do I GET? What’s the promised outcome? Not how much time and personal attention do I get from you, Tara … but what is the result I RECEIVE? After paying money for this service, what will I have to show for it? What’s my ROI gonna be?”
My first question to you is:
“What do you WANT it to be?” “What results do you WANT?” “How will you measure your own success?” “How will you know when you have succeeded at creating your dream life?” “What specifically will that look like and feel like to YOU?” “When you imagine your no-vacation-needed, deeply satisfying, regrets-free life, what do you see? Paint me THAT picture so that I can see it with you.”
👆 These are all versions of the same critical question.
Step 1 of my signature Dream Acceleration Process is: DEFINE WHAT YOU WANT.
(For many people, this step is the most challenging of them all.)
Once you’re able to define what you WANT, it is a lot easier to:
(1) Go after it.
(2) Invest in it.
(3) Ensure that you get it!
Your dream is my dream. And when we roll up our sleeves together about it … buckle up!
⭐ Finding the right support for you
⭐ Finding a coach that you jive with
⭐ Finding a proven process that’s going to quicken your results
⭐ Finding someone who will hold you accountable and guide you forward with care, commitment, and respect
⭐ Investing in yourself in this way
… what you GET is life-changing.
What you get is your dream and the right support for your journey.
Getting clear on what you want is what we do in The No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint Training.
Already know what you want and ready to set yourself up with support to accelerate your path to getting it? Check out The Dream Acceleration Program.
YOU are your best asset. You are worth investing in, right now, from exactly where you are.
Ready to take that first step to discover your dreams and how you’re going to start living them right now? Book a free Session with Tara
Lost your creative mojo?
Curiosity is something that has enhanced my life in more ways than I can count.
Be it something I’ve developed within my business that started out as a simple “Hmmm…I wonder if there’s a way to _____” or “I wonder what would happen if ______”…
Or, how staying curious about what’s going on for another person has helped enrich connections and solve problems within relationships…
Or, the immense pleasure I’ve gained from following my curiosity while wandering around a city or park when I travel – no particular place to go, merely following the lead of whatever inspires me to explore it further…
When we’re curious about what else is out there, what we haven’t seen, perspectives we might have overlooked… when we OPEN to what we haven’t heard or seen before, the possibilities quickly become endless when before they might have seemed scarce.
Curiosity is the answer. It seeds the mind, feeds the soul, and keeps things fresh.
BUT when our lives are frustrating, curiosity is often one of the first things to go!
I mean, when you’re frustrated and focused on just getting through the day and managing a lot of same-old-same-old, who has time to be curious?
Imagine walking around your whole day with no curiosity, no intrigue, no wonder, no spark to want to learn more, experience more, inquire more, listen more, or enjoy more.
How long would it be before THAT felt yucky?
Curiosity brings our creativity back, which allows us to be curious about EVERYTHING. Start with ONE thing. Get curious about having fun, get curious about the people in your life, get curious about learning new skills and new things. That curiosity builds a muscle of clarity that allows you to bring the energy of curiosity into other aspects of your life. And THIS opens doors. All of a sudden, those things about your dreams and your goals and your career and your relationships and your life as a whole, that seemed impossible before… Now you can see possibilties, because you practiced getting curious.
But building that curiosity muscle to the point where possibilities become ENDLESS is tough.
Curious to find out more?
Let’s connect for a free 1:1 assessment call where we will talk about your goals and your dreams and all of the things that haven’t felt possible before, and we will FIND the possibilities together.
We will expand your curiosity muscle and start to see how what wasn’t possible before, absolutely can be now.
You’ll walk away from our call not only with a stronger curiosity muscle and more possibilities in sight than before, but also with a roadmap to understanding exactly how to make those dreams and goals REAL.
Curious about YOU,
One key is to BECOME an embodiment of the person who LIVES your dreams, who HAS your dreams, who knows it’s certain and steps into that, day after day.
You must ‘self actualize.’
What do I mean by self-actualization?
Self-actualization is not an arrival. It’s not a fixed point. It is not a place at all. It’s an expression. It’s an evolutionary unfolding. A process of not only becoming, but creating your life to reflect that becoming.
The fullness and manifestation of self-actualization can be measured by how much of your life mirrors the magnificent, embodied, unapologetic, expression of YOU that you have become.
Your life is either full of evidence of a high degree of self-actualization, or it is full of evidence of a high degree of self-abandonment. This is a spectrum that leaves little room for gray because your emotional guidance will tell you clearly which one it is.
While not a fixed arrival point, self-actualization will bring countless savory moments when you kick back, drink in your life, and say to yourself, “f*ck yes.”
“This is MY life and I adore living it. I am so incredibly proud of everything I’ve created and how I’ve grown and what I’ve learned in order to get HERE. And now, here I am. I am here. Here is good, and luscious and I love it. I am SAVORING this delicious waking moment … because it is beautiful. Not perfect, mind you, but utterly aligned nonetheless. Beautiful in its unique-to-me expression, and in this, I also acknowledge my own beauty and imperfect perfection. Gratitude for this one incredible life fills my soul, created as only I could, as the one and only me. This life is so on point and I am lit from within about it, while also excited and inspired about all that’s in process and all that I’m creating next because I know that, it too, will only heighten this expression, this beingness, catching up with the latest parts of me that are surfacing and igniting the next levels of my expression. And should I die today, I will do so knowing I died happy, delighted, and inspired.”
When you look at your life and see the many many ways it reflects the beauty and truth of who you are … that’s your evidence of self-actualization .
Nothing is more gratifying.
It’s the kind of joy that fills you up, that lights you from within.
In contrast to this, when you look at your life and think “no, this isn’t right’ ‘I feel trapped’ ‘this isn’t the real me’ ‘I don’t want to do it this way’ ‘how did I get here and how do I get out’ ‘this doesn’t align’ ‘this isn’t who I am’ ‘this isn’t it for me’ ‘‘where the heck is the I in this life I have?’ ‘how do I get where I’m meant to be’ ‘I wish someone would save me’ ‘I’m so tired’ ‘my soul aches’ ‘when does my life rise up to greet me and welcome me home, to myself?’… then (obviously) this is not ideal. It absolutely sucks. I know because I’ve been there. To stay, to keep going, to keep doing the same things in the same ways for another day, perhaps with the same people, is one more day of self-abandonment.
^ This is the polar opposite of self-actualization.
Spoiler alert! Your life will always be lagging a bit behind your becoming. Since as long as you’re alive you’re creating, there’s always more to recalibrate and adjust to best reflect what you’ve discovered or revealed or uncovered about your beingness. There’s simply no way around this.
BUT – when you’re in a space of confident self-actualization even the lag time feels welcomed, glorious even, because the process of creation is an art form that you enjoy.
You know that arrival is a myth, and that evolution is ongoing.
You embrace and delight in the unfolding and trust the outcomes completely.
You are not suffering or surviving in the interim.
You are engaged and inspired.
You are alive in the ALL of it.
You are thriving.
There is always more to discover, create, and be. As you seek on a quest for a meaningful, joyful, impactful, satisfying, successful life (one that you aren’t aching to escape to Bora Bora about) … it’s an expanding spiral upward, a helix of becoming who you are meant to be, self-actualizing and living a life that is so aligned and joyful it IS the expression of the WHO that you’ve become. And as you become that WHO even more, new levels of desire are revealed and deepened, and expansion and new possibilities become possible for you.
PS – If you are ready to become the person who LIVES your dreams, apply now for my FREE Top Shelf Session with Tara Assessment, a 1:1 conversation where you will gain clarity on your dreams and how they reflect and empower the person you are becoming, insight into what’s been holding you back, and a renewed sense of hope about how to courageously break free of obstacles to achieve what you want with a customized strategic plan for your desired future.
PPS – Not quite ready to talk about actually living those dreams? Not sure what your dream life even would LOOK like? I have something for that too.