I help people SURPRISE themselves (read how) 

I help people SURPRISE themselves (read how) 

Have a dream that feels too big, too silly, or too out of reach to actually aspire to?

I’m going to tell you a joke that may not have you laughing, but it WILL help you take a big bold step on behalf of your dream life.  💜

First, let’s normalize dreams feeling too big or out of reach. That’s by design! They feel that way because they live outside of what’s familiar and predictable. Dreams, and their very presence in your heart, invite you to s-t-r-e-t-c-h and grow into them. For all these reasons, and more, it makes sense that your dreams may feel unrealistic.

BUT – just because a dream feels unrealistic, doesn’t mean that it is.

(read that last line again)

After more than 20 years of doing this work, one of the things I love most about it is helping people surprise themselves. I absolutely LOVE witnessing what may, at first, seem impossible or unrealistic become a living dream. (You know how football fans erupt with joy when their team scores a touchdown? This is my touchdown moment.) 

For it to happen though, we must start with the fundamentals: understanding what I affectionately call “the Cosmic Joke of Dream Realization.”

The Cosmic Joke of Dream Realization boils down to this: 

“What” comes before “how.”




HA? Are you laughing?

It’s not funny. But it IS powerful! 

Like the teacher who laughed as she shared her dream of having a beach house to spend her summers at, believing it was a ridiculous prospect, given her salary.

Three weeks later, she “coincidentally” met a woman who owned a beach house and wanted a summer in the city. They did a house swap. A win-win that she couldn’t have predicted.  

I know many stories like this.

Before “the How” will reveal itself to you, you must first declare “the What.”

This first brave step to creating your very own no-vacation-needed life is an act of faith and an invitation to let the very fact of your desire be evidence that it is possible. 

Yes, a plan of action is important, but that’s not where it starts!

Do NOT make the mistake of requiring a plan before staking a claim to your dream. 

Trust me, you do not want to be the butt of this joke!

So, let yourself want what you WANT – even and especially if you have no idea how to make it happen. Doing this will likely feel entirely counterintuitive since most people believe a plan is needed to justify their dream. 

Despite however counterintuitive it may feel, it is critical NOT to treat the desire to know how it will happen as a prerequisite for letting yourself just effing want it. 

When you tell yourself the truth about what you want, refuse fears about worthiness, defy commonly held beliefs about limitation, dismiss falsities about what you can’t do, and START, the path to creating what you want reveals itself – not the other way around.

Bravely go where you have never gone before.

Want to take this further? Download my Refreshingly Unconventional Goal Setting Guidebook to create real momentum on your dreams and goals.

Big love,