Do THIS instead of THAT
Do NOT underestimate the power of small changes.
For example, there is a great big huge difference between:
“Can I change this?”
And,
“How can I change this?”
One tiny little word, but these two questions are WORLDS apart.
Last week, I shared about the power of awareness around those areas of your life where learned helplessness may have you feeling resigned to adapt, manage, and tolerate circumstances that you don’t like, wish were different, but that you don’t feel you have power to change.
I encouraged you to make a list, short or long, of examples of such things in YOUR life.
Doing this is powerful because chances are that, based on circumstances in your life, your history, and in your family’s history, you’ve likely adopted some degree of learned helplessness.
Said another way, you have been conditioned to tolerate a lot of unnecessary shit, big and small, maybe even to the point of believing that that’s just the way it is and just what you have to do.
This mindset creates blind spots, feeds apathy, and sustains resignation.
^ All dream killers. (Booooooo!!!)
Becoming aware enough to be able to shift or make a break in this pattern begins with awareness. So, if you didn’t yet make your list, doing so will be a powerful proactive step.
Rather than wait and hope and “maybe someday”, awareness alone disrupts the old pattern.
And, small changes add up!
This is why I recommend you start with the small things on your list. Depending on how ingrained your learned helplessness is, the smaller the better, to begin.
Look at your list of things that bother you and decide that you are unwilling to tolerate discomfort as a default.
Decide that you do not and will not resign yourself to this being just the way it is.
Decide that you are willing to start small and build your confidence to effect change, to minimize your discomfort or irritation.
Notice where learned helplessness has been leading your thoughts, behaviors, and your life.
There is FIRE to be found in this.
Let this motivate and fuel the changes you desire.
But, again, start small.
Because what it takes to build big self-trust and big belief about all the things that you are wishing and hoping will change, starts with you taking charge and eliminating unnecessary discomforts on small things.
Like, that drawer in your kitchen that sticks or won’t close all the way.
Fix the damn drawer as a symbolic step and as evidence to fuel your belief and your knowing that YOU can effect change, that you can influence your circumstance, and that you are done adapting to and managing discomfort, or defaulting to it needing to stay that way.
🔥
You are empowered and your standards go up – effective immediately, because you say so.
Again, recognize the learned helplessness response. Even to small things.
You may hear that voice in your head right now: “just deal with it, it’s no big deal.”
And in the grand scheme of things, it’s true that a drawer that sticks is not all that big a deal.
BUT – that annoying drawer (for example) presents a valuable opportunity to rewrite learned helplessness patterns. It also presents the opportunity to reclaim some of your precious daily energy that gets used every time you can’t close the damn drawer!
By starting with the small stuff and deciding “I am powerful, and I’m going to eliminate this annoyance…” you are building the MUSCLE of empowerment, rewriting the old learned helplessness response.
When the drawer – and every other example of unnecessary discomfort or irritation – becomes a known opportunity for you to empower your ability NOT to default to learned helplessness patterns, the sky’s the limit.
Every small change builds your confidence, breaks old patterns, and frees up energy for you to be that much more ABLE to take on the big stuff. As you have success with small things, you’ll naturally be able to span that out to the big stuff.
This is a very, very powerful practice and it’s just one piece of the work we do together in my Dream Acceleration Program.
You CAN rebuild your empowered sense. You CAN create your life to be what you dream it can be, and it starts by rewiring those apathy-feeding patterns.
Applying this approach can change your whole world and open the door to a new kind of freedom. And, the right support accelerates this process exponentially.
I am a pro-active force for change.
I am a compassionate fellow human, learning and growing with each new day.
I’m also a fierce facilitator of action.
The Dream Acceleration Program is the culmination of all I’ve learned and developed, to support YOU to step into living your dreams and experience the true freedom that life has to offer.
If you would like help bringing the dreams in your heart to LIFE, I‘d love to learn more about you, your dreams, and your challenges. Let’s talk. Get on my calendar today for a free Session with Tara Assessment call.
Rather than becoming more and more comfortable managing discomfort…
Rather than reinforcing the belief that you have no control…
And rather than inaction, or a whole lot of busyness centered around tasks that maintain your current circumstances…
Let’s raise your standards and do something FAR better.
Build your self-trust, build your self-belief, build your unwillingness to tolerate unnecessary discomfort, and build your empowered proactive momentum toward what you DREAM your life can be.
I’m here for THAT.
xo
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