Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

Reasons NOT to join The Brule Breakers Club 

I talk a lot about my work and The Brule Breakers Club and WHY it’s so awesome. 

So let me tell you why you’d be right NOT to join…

I realize it’s rather unconventional to write in depth about NOT joining my program.

So why do it? Because, The Brule Breakers Club is not for everyone. 

If you are debating whether or not you can afford to join (financially or otherwise), here are some considerations that I hope will help you decide:

  1. If you find yourself needing to choose between feeding yourself OR keeping a roof over your head, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.
  2. If you feel desperate for immediate solutions and are in a place in your life where you don’t know what you’ll do if a major life-altering change doesn’t happen for you within the next 30 days, then joining The Brule Breakers Club may not make sense for you right now.

The first one needs no explanation. 

In terms of desperation or urgency around results, there’s going to be a lot of growth, but growth doesn’t happen overnight. Brules have been profoundly assimilated into your worldview and experience over decades of reinforcement and, because of this, they won’t just exit stage left in a hot second.

If neither of the above describe you or your circumstances and you wish to join, then I truly hope you will, EVEN IF making the $100 or so a month investment s-t-r-e-t-c-h-e-s you a little – be it financial, emotional, or both.

Because let’s be honest, investing in yourself – whether it’s a few dollars, or something with several zeros behind it, not to mention the TIME – can be a symbolic and emotional hurdle as much as it is a financial one. 

It can dredge up questions like…

  • Am I worth it?
  • I mean, do I really get to invest in not just striving, but thriving?
  • Should I really invest in myself now – as in, TODAY??

Ultimately, all of these are variations of the old “Who do you think you ARE?” question.

If you do decide to join us (again, with the understanding that those first two scenarios don’t apply to you), then know that you will be entering a space that is dedicated to supporting your best self, your self-actualization, and expanding possibilities for your life.

The Brule Breakers Club is also a space where “Who do you think you ARE?” is escorted out and replaced with the-same-words-but-a-very-different-question: 

“Who do YOU think you are?”

The emphasis in this question matters.

The first one – “Who do you think you ARE?” – is full of residual head-trash that you picked up somewhere along the way from people who haven’t yet sorted where or whether to discard this garbage, so they gave it to you.

In contrast, the second one – “Who do YOU think you are?” is a process of self-revelatory introspection and discovery, both about your current self-concept and your ever-evolving and expanding Self. 

Say the question aloud to yourself now: “Who do I think I am?” 

Feel that “damn! I am in charge” vibe? 😎

In The Brule Breakers Club, we delight in both the second version of the question and in the version of YOU that this question helps draw out of the shadows and into the light. 

All this to say … I want you to understand that inside The Brule Breakers Club, any and all versions of “I can’t afford it right now” are not supportive, or supported.

Lemme ‘splain.

We hold you as powerful. Period. 

And, to be clear – even if you find yourself in either of the two scenarios I describe at the top – we also hold YOU as powerful. 

Whatever your current circumstances are, while they may reflect what makes practical sense for you to prioritize right now, they do NOT reflect what is POSSIBLE for you. 

You are far more powerful than whatever the snapshot of your current experience of your current moment might be. To pretend that you aren’t would be a disservice, both to you and to the other members. 

Every time you speak, share, or believe that you “can’t afford it,” you radiate disempowered energy and this perpetuates feelings of limitation, scarcity, and not-enough-ness. This isn’t beneficial. Just as spending your last dollar on a life coaching program wouldn’t be beneficial if it means not having enough food to eat.  

If, barring these circumstances, you truly would love to join, then find a way to join!

And, if you don’t truly want to join, that’s ok too.

You can decline without self-limiting statements that reinforce and only root you that much more deeply in the belief that you are powerless or that you don’t have options.

You are not powerless. 

And you have options. 

And those options include what you choose to prioritize.

This very message is just a sampling of the level of thought work and personal transformation that you’ll be supported through in The Brule Breakers Club. And with registration currently set at what adds up to the cost of a cup of coffee a day, it is an absolute bargain.

Click here to join!

Big love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

PS – The sooner you join the sooner you can get oriented to the Tara’tory. 😜 If you think this might be for you but you’re not sure or have questions, reach out right away for a Personalized Brule Breaker Chat, a fun powerful 1:1 connection opportunity so you can experience and learn more about how brule breaking can help YOU.  

I’ve been famous twice this week (+ a fun contest!)

I’ve been famous twice this week (+ a fun contest!)

I used to have a lot of head-trash about being seen, about being “big,” as in … “don’t get too big for your britches” … “you’re too loud/proud/bold” … “Who do you think you ARE?”

I wasn’t sure what “being famous” meant exactly, let alone if I wanted it. But if I did want it … was that BAD? Was I bad? Too showy? Who was I to think I could be famous for my work?

On the day my book came out, and quickly hit bestsellers lists, I cried – big, heaving, happy horse-tears. Having my labor of love, The Brules of Life books, PRINTED and in the hands of people across the country and around the world … was a big effing deal! It marked the culmination of an EXTRAORDINARY amount of work, focus, determination, heart, and grit.

From head-trash to brule breaker…

From largely unknown, to my name on a bestselling book…

And from being able to serve a small number of clients, to having a product that can reach – and teach – through a global marketplace…

It was a milestone indeed!

This week, my definition of “brule” (listed on Urban Dictionary) has more than 1,000 likes, and counting, and is listed first in “brule” definitions.

AND – even more exciting – my article, “Brules Are Made to Be Broken”, has been featured in the Dec/Jan issue of Aspire Magazine.

Every PR mention of “brules” and me, reaching many thousands of people, is cause for celebration. 😊

That said, it can also be kind of strange to have people I don’t know, who know me. Since some of the stories I share in my book are rather personal, they legitimately know quite a bit about me, so it makes sense that they feel that.

Like, last weekend, I attended a funeral with Carl, a celebration of life for the passing of his 105-year-old great-aunt. When we arrived, I was greeted by one of his cousins who I was meeting for the first time. She hugged me and told me she has my book.

It’s interesting to have my book precede me.

A few months ago, a friend and I went to see a band. While we were there, my friend ran into someone she knew. They were chatting away when the woman she was speaking to stopped, looked at me, and said, “Are you Tara Sage?” She knew my work.

It’s fun to learn that my work is reaching people that I don’t know or haven’t met.

Something you may not know about me is that I am child-free by choice. The older I get, this fact only further reinforces the depth with which my books and the ripple-effect of my work is, in large part, my legacy.

My books are a true extension of my heart. They are roaming the world, meeting people I’ve never met, and creating their own ripple-effect in the world-at-large. I’m proud of them. And I have more books to write. And MANY more people I aspire to serve with this work.

I want to leave this world feeling EMPTIED, having poured myself into what will outlive me.

My writing, my coaching, my message, my methods, my brule breaking no-BS teachings and how-tos are what really make this work come alive, in your LIFE.

I no longer shy away from the fact that, yes, I am KNOWN (which is essentially what I think “famous” means). And I want it for one simple reason: because this is HOW I am able to serve and teach and touch the lives of more people.

My books, my coaching, my thought leadership … These are the vehicles for how I empower and impact the lives of others and successfully realize the legacy of what I want to leave behind. (At 48-years-young, I’m just getting started!)

A FUN CONTEST ANNOUNCEMENT!

I want to make YOU (or someone you know) “famous” too!

I want to share and broaden the brule breaker spotlight. 😊 #BruleBreakerSpotlight

Who do you know that deserves a #brulebreaker nomination?

Who do you know who is a Brule Breaker? Consider, who do you know that does it their way, who questions the “this is just the way it is” or “this is just how I am” brules that they were given and creates their dream life, success, and more?

To nominate a brule breaker…  (and, YES, in true #brulebreaker fashion, you can totally nominate yourself, and YES, you can totally nominate more than one person!) – create a social media post with the hashtag #BruleBreakerSpotlight

In your post, tell me a bit about what makes them (or you) a trail-blazing brule-breaking march-to-the-beat-of-their-own-drummer standout! Make sure your post is set to PUBLIC (commenting under a post doesn’t count as a nomination, and posts that only your friends can see won’t qualify). Post it with the hashtag #BruleBreakerSpotlight so that I can find it.

On December 18th, I will select and announce one (maybe two) #BruleBreakerSpotlight winners!

Want to break the “don’t get too big for your britches” brule, and have your extraordinary BS-busting #brulebreaker self shared over the Interwebs for all to see and celebrate? Want a #BruleBreakerSpotlight profile on my blog and in my newsletter with links for where people can connect with you for more of your greatness? The #BruleBreakerSpotlight winner will ALSO receive a surprise “brules merch” gift-in-the-mail, and coupon good for 20% savings on one Brule Breakers Club annual membership for you or someone you know.

Every brule broken deserves to be celebrated. And we all want to celebrate and see YOU, Brule Breaker!

Get ready to be #BruleBreakerSpotlight famous:

  • Post a picture of The Brules of Life – it could be a picture you take, or you can reshare the “Nominate a Brule Breaker!” #bookpic that I am sharing with you here. (Bonus points if you add a video featuring your copy of The Brules of Life.)
  • Set your post to PUBLIC.
  • Tag me @tarasagecoaching along with the hashtag #BruleBreakerSpotlight with your nomination or story as to why you, or someone you know, is a #brulebreaker. Extra points for creativity, humor, boldness, and stories that warm the heart.

Here’s to unapologetically big britches,

Break some brules!

Break some brules!

There was a time in my life – before my business, before my book, before my speaking career – when I was in a job that I hated, drowning in student loan debt, and living in a basement apartment with my cat. I felt utterly trapped, and I absolutely WISHED things were different but I was struggling to see my way out.

While desperately wanting something different, it felt like salt on my wounds when others (smart, caring, well-meaning people) thought my circumstances were NORMAL.

It’s considered surprisingly normal to have student loan debt that’ll take decades to pay off. It is considered entirely normal to work at a job you tolerate, to live for weekends and dread Mondays. It’s considered normal to be tired, frazzled, and feel like there’s never enough hours in the day.

And, sadly, it’s considered normal for the dreams you have for your life to gather dust.

It’s normal, sometimes, for us to be doing all the “right” things – to be suffering and dreaming while we’re there – and, through all of that, have people telling us “this is just the way it is.” Pursuing a story-worthy life without regrets is not only generally considered odd, but ridiculous and irresponsible.

While I didn’t know what to call it at the time, I eventually grew to understand that all of this is the result of a society steeped in “brules” (a.k.a. BS rules).

I discovered how “brules” were fueling unhelpful narratives, narratives that often keep people from believing in and pursuing their dreams and goals.

“Working in a strong career track is responsible, so you should stay no matter how much you hate it.”

“It’s better to be safe than risk it all and be sorry.”

“Given your student loan debt, embrace basement dwelling because it’s affordable.”

I discovered how these so-called “facts of life” and “this is the way it is” beliefs were bullshit limits. I discovered how brules – social constructs and commonly held beliefs that are so baked-in to our cultural understanding and worldview that they generally go unnoticed and unquestioned – were ruling not only my life, but the lives of ALL of us.

Yes, I was doing the “responsible thing.” But I felt trapped and miserable.

It was keeping me away from my dreams.

So, I set out to learn how to break them.

And it changed everything.

From there, I redesigned my whole life, blazed the trail of my own business, and even wrote books on the topic.

And now, I’ve created The Brule Breakers Club so that YOU can break brules and live differently too. The Brule Breakers Club is a space that supports and encourages you to realize that change is possible, that what you WANT is possible.

That ALL that you want is possible.

Your dream life, and dream career. Your dream finances, dream relationships and dream living situation. And your dream travels…

Whatever your dreams are, they are POSSIBLE, if you break the “brules” that tell you you can’t.

I invite you to take the leap and become a Brule Breaker.

A brule breaker is a person who doesn’t settle for status quo “it’s just the way it is” existence.

Rather than default to “norms,” they question convention, they challenge unhelpful narratives that keep most people in a box. They go beyond where most stop, where most people are kept from pursuing their dreams and goals. They break the brules.

Brule breaking isn’t easy.

Since brules are so baked-in to our cultural understanding and worldview, they generally go unnoticed and unquestioned.

Brule breakers do the work of deconstructing brules. They identify default patterns and they challenge psychological and behavioral blind spots so that they can live their best life without false limitations.

This is best done in a supportive space that encourages you to realize that change IS possible, that what you WANT is possible.

That’s why I created The Brule Breakers Club. Brule breakers are dreamers and doers, trail blazers that help one another make the changes needed to live their dreams and become self-actualized. Brule breaking changes everything. Breaking the brules of life is what helps you create a new kind of freedom.

>>> Visit bookofbrules.com for details & join now! 

Burnt out? Do this

Burnt out? Do this

Wanna know the key to preventing burnout?  …asks the gal who’s built her biz from the ground up and has been enthusiastically living this work and serving my clients, with delight, for nearly two decades.

In other words, listen up because I know what I’m talking about!

Service. Service is the key to preventing burnout.

Stay with me on this, because I know what you’re probably thinking … that service is what’s CAUSING the burnout to begin with … and, hell, more of it will only create MORE burnout!

But here’s the plot twist:

When I talk about Service, I’m talking about a new standard.

I’m talking about Service that includes YOU. As in, it actually nourishes you! And if it doesn’t refuel and sustain you, then it’s not Service.

It’s servitude.

This is such a critical distinction.

Giving and giving and never being supported yourself = servitude.

In contrast, with Service … when you give, you receive! As in, you are instantly and sustainably replenished.

Unlike servitude, acts of Service leave no room for resentment, depletion, or self-sacrifice.

Things that help others and that you could do all day and never feel tired = Service.

When you are fueled by your giving, it’s self-sustaining. An exchange that doesn’t leave you depleted.

When you are serving from your heart, you’re nourished because your purpose and love and creativity are renewing. Which naturally inspires and has you feeling enthusiastic about giving, and serving, more.

From THIS space, burnout isn’t even a concern … let alone a reality!

In my programs, you will discover new ways to deepen your satisfaction in every area of your life. Together, we amp up your personal clarity – to include the unique impact and contributions you are here to make, and the self-sustaining Service you are here to provide.

Ready to make your dreams and goals not just POSSIBLE, but REALITY?

I’m happy to Serve you!

Let’s do a Session with Tara, a free 1:1 assessment call where we will talk about your goals and your dreams and all of the things that haven’t felt possible before, and we will FIND the possibilities together. Discover your unique No-Vacation-Needed life and start to see how what wasn’t possible before, absolutely can be now. You’ll walk away not only with more confidence in your dreams, but also with a roadmap to understanding exactly how to make those dreams and goals REAL.

In service,

Tara Sage