Joy to you!
Those of you who know my story, know that my dream realization mojo really kicked into gear from the depths of the dark, musty, basement apartment where I lived … for 3 years!
Yep. At the time, I was absolutely drowning in debt and I spent most Friday and Saturday nights with my cat. Trust me, the metaphor was not lost on me that my basement “digs” were a constant reminder that I was LITERALLY underground. Yet, it was there that I started to dream … determined and believing that that there had GOT to be a better way!
I used to look out my tiny-tiny window – with the view of the sidewalk and the tires of cars passing by – and I’d dream. While I didn’t know it at the time, this is where seeds of Create Your Life! were born.
Now, not only was my apartment in a basement, it had a teeny-tiny *black* bathroom – yes, black paint(!) was on the walls. (Trust me, I thought many times about re-painting, but I simply couldn’t stand to be IN there long enough to repaint it!) My teeny-tiny black bathroom, of course, had a stand-up shower. Oh, how I DREAMED of a bathtub!!
So when I *finally* moved out – and bought a house (which is another story for another time) – a bathtub was one of my non-negotiable requirements. And to this day, I love and cherish my bathtub. It is, to me, a sacred place of respite. A few candles, some bath salts – sometimes a glass of wine – and my bathtub becomes an at-home spaaaaaaahhh… A mini-vacation. No packing or travel required.
How ’bout you? What is the ultimate retreat for you? What are some of the ways you give yourself a delicious break? How do you create sacred, rejuvenating time for yourself?
Do YOU need a vacation? Or, at the minimum, a break for some “you time” to unwind, to regroup, to rejuvenate? And really … who couldn’t benefit from having more R & R?
Do You Dream of Time OFF?
Taking time off is an important part of holistic self-care and well-being. Here in the U.S., summer is fast approaching …a common time for long weekends with family and friends, days at the beach, boating, camping, hiking, gardening, barbeques, and just kickin’ back for some rest and relaxation!
Sound refreshing and inviting? Comforting and balancing? Or does it create a feeling of inner confusion and anxiety … wanting to take time off but fearing that there will be a high price to pay?
When was the last time YOU took an honest vacation? When was the last time you truly “unplugged” from the daily grind and felt renewed, refreshed, and invigorated?
Imagine YOU … not working … and not even thinking about work. Your energy is instead fully available for other things. It might be an hour, a weekend, a week, or a full month! Either way, it’s precious and delightful time OFF!
Have YOU taken time off yet this year? Do you have plans for time off in the coming months? It’s not too late (or too early) to start planning and schedule this time on your calendar – you could do this right now. Why not take this opportunity to sit down with your calendar, decide on and then DO whatever needs to be done to support YOU having some time off?
Notice: What’s coming up for you? Are you hearing yourself say, for example:
- “When I’m done with this project then maybe I’ll look at my calendar.”
- “I don’t have time, with my family commitments and all..”
- “I haven’t worked hard enough to really deserve time off.”
- “There’s no money in the budget for a vacation.”
- “Time off will only set me back and create more work.”
- “I would love to but…(fill in the blank)”
Let me say … I am in no way suggesting that you re-mortgage your house or plunk down the credit card to go on an extravagant vacation. Yet here’s the risk of letting these thoughts stop you from saying “YES” to time off altogether …
It’s exactly these kinds of thought patterns of undeservedness or “someday” or “later” thinking, that can lead to a sense of martyrdom, to feeling unappreciated, to setting yourself up for burn out, AND neglecting your need for R & R can even have an adverse effect on your health and well-being.
We *all* need time off! And, truth is, taking time off allows us to be much more productive and engaged during our time on!
Time off is about shifting gears to support your holistic well-being. Time off is a KEY piece to creating true Success Synergy: a balance of working AND not working. It is an investment in well-being, and frankly … the alternative is unsustainable.
If you DON’T give yourself time to re-charge, your body will eventually demand it but – why wait ’til your bod is SCREAMING for you honor this basic need?!? Your know better. It’s really about being someone who honors this need and allows *space* in your mind, in your heart, and in your LIFE for what nourishes you – doing what you need to do to prioritize and support of your own self-care. And really: if you don’t do it, who will?
Even if you don’t know yet exactly how or where you’re going to spend your time off, it’s important to make a commitment to carving out that time NOW. That means time unplugged – not working. (Yes, even if you *love* your job. And yes, even if the budget is tight.)
Again – there are no rules about distance, duration, or cost. A frankly, an extravagant vacation doesn’t not necessary mean a more rejuvenating vacation. So, make it your own. It could be a stay-cation! Time off can be as simple as YOU, a magazine, and a lawn chair. It’s about carving out “you time” – time dedicated to NOT working and NOT thinking about work. Claim it and make it yours! Enjoy!
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,
“Have you had such amazing opportunities in your life that seemed like they were delivered to the wrong person or at the wrong time?
You think: “This couldn’t be for me! This is too much! It sounds great but add one more thing to my plate?”.
But something inside you feels inspired to go with it and to go FOR it! And when you look back, you know that was a GIFT and it was such a pivotal event that changed so much?
When I was presented with The Dream Acceleration™ Program those were the questions I was asking myself!!! But when the nudge and inner feelings said “go for it”, I committed to learn more and be open to whatever that meant for me at the time.
Throughout the program, I experienced emotions that went all over the place – scared to learn something new about myself, excited to grow and expand, grateful for the support as I made changes, all the learnings and shifting I was experiencing during that time. Now I feel NO REGRETS! The program gave me so much to think about in my life – I felt like I had more CHOICES and discovered I had PERMISSION to decide what was right and good for me and SEE what was really possible!
When an opportunity comes along like this, how can you not at least see what it is about and consider how it might create shifts in your life?
How would you describe your ideal mate? Perhaps you’ve thought of an image of that person; someone in good health, tall/short, nice smile, athletic, active, generous, social, a dancer, a biker, a skier – the list could go on, right? Or maybe you don’t have a list of your ideal mate’s physical characteristics or interests but certainly you know how you want the interaction within your relationship to be and, more importantly, you likely know how you want to FEEL in this relationship.
You might desire your relationship to be open, honest, caring and loving. You want to FEEL cared for, loved, heard, respected, trusted, supported, appreciated and understood. Because, let’s face it, feeling these things in relationships feels good!
Now, what if I asked you about your relationship with your dream?
- How would you describe your dream?
- What does it look like to you?
- How would you describe your “relationship” with your dream?
- How do you FEEL about your dream?
- What does it means to you in your life?
The clearer you get on your CURRENT relationship to your dream, the greater awareness you will have to take your relationship with your dream to the next level!
One topic that is explored at a much deeper level during the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program is about relationships. We all know what it means to nurture our relationships with others, right? Well, during the 8-week Dream Acceleration™ Program, to shine a light on and become more aware of our relationship with our dreams, we imagine switching places with our dreams and what it might feel like to be a dream of yours, in a relationship with you.
I believe in my heart of hearts,
that your dreams are the voice of your soul,
and listening is your gift to the world.
As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. So consider your dream’s perspective:
- What would it be like to BE your dream in a relationship with YOU?
- How are you treating your dream right now?
- Does your dream feel well cared for?
- Does your dream feel ignored, disregarded, smothered or maybe downright unappreciated?
- Does your dream feel like no one believes in it or trusts it?
- Does your dream feel loved?
What are you noticing? Honesty can only serve you here so just notice whatever comes up for you.
You are in a relationship with your dreams – right now. It’s the truth!
These questions are not to make you feel bad, but to shine a light on your CURRENT relationship with your dream and raise your awareness around this. It’s about nurturing your RELATIONSHIP with your dreams…giving them love and attention, and easing up on all the anxiety and doubts that may otherwise surround your relationship.
And, this is not to say that you won’t have doubts or that you need to deny or ignore your hesitations and concerns. But rather…that you begin to just Raise Your Awareness about who you are BEING in your relationship to what it is that you desire.
Another point that is stated many times throughout the Dream Acceleration™ Program is that we always create from the present moment … like the red star on a trail map. You must first identify where you ARE before you can get where you want to go.
As you get more acquainted and familiar with YOUR PART in the relationship, and consciously put *more* attention and energy there…such wonder and possibility awaits!
Bravely DECLARE that NOW is your “someday”
– simply because YOU said so!
Your Next Dream Relationship Building Step:
Are you feeling like your relationship with your dream could use a facilitator? Does your dream desire MORE of a relationship with YOU? Are you ready to stop playing small and transform your relationship with your dream for more abundance, well-being, and freedom? Get your Dream Realization Journey on track: Reach out to Tara personally (with “Dream Discovery session” in the header) and as my GIFT to you, we’ll schedule a time to connect for a complimentary tele-coaching session and explore together how I might support you in accelerating your own inspired journey. You’ll be amazed what can happen in just one call together!
There are a lot of things happening in our world right now … things that don’t make sense and have us asking a lot of tough questions. Maybe you are way beyond the point of asking questions – and *really* just want answers! How do we make sense of it all? What’s it all mean? Why is this happening now? And what can or should we do about it?
I don’t have the answers, but what I DO know is that a powerful way to bridge healing and understanding, is through sharing our feelings and our stories. So with that in mind and heart … I want to share a bit about what marathons mean to me.
The day after the bombing, I read an article that really resonated entitled “The People Who Watch Marathons” by Erin Gloria Ryan. Here’s a quote from the article:
“One of the many puzzling aspects of yesterday’s attacks was the question of what, exactly, the perpetrators thought they’d accomplish by targeting what basically amounts to a celebration of human tenacity. If anything, the tragedy in Boston will further solidify the bond between runner and spectator … If anyone thought this attack would discourage the runners or the watchers, they’ve clearly never been to a marathon.”
Ditto THAT! As a kid, I saw my dad, at 50 years old, proudly cross the finish line of his first marathon (and then throw up). I also watched and celebrated as my sister who, as part of a relay team, crossed a marathon finish line. Several other relatives and friends of mine have also prevailed over this extraordinary 26.2 mile challenge.
On several occasions, I’ve been known to attend, to cheer, and to be moved to tears – for hours – at marathons with no one I know (or know that I know) in them. And while it pales in comparison to a marathon, on the receiving end, as someone who has run two 5K races, I’ve been so incredibly grateful for the energy and encouragement of spectators.
My heart is with all who were effected by what happened in Boston on April 15th.
In the spirit of banding together, let’s take pause and really invest in giving ourselves the gift of time for reflection, to consider how to best make YOUR contribution to the joy and peace of the world. The time is NOW.
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,