Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day??

Quitter’s Day ??

Ever hear of “Quitters Day”? 

It’s a pseudo-holiday, the second Friday in January. It’s the day when most people quit on their New Year resolutions. 

Research shows that only 9% of Americans that make resolutions complete them, and 23% of people quit their resolutions by the end of the first WEEK! A whopping 43% quit by the end of January. 

Given this data, Quitters Day seems to mark a day that many people “observe.”

I personally think resolutions shouldn’t start until February. 

I am an advocate of January being a month that’s focused purely on reflecting and regrouping. Reflecting on the year that’s passed and reorganizing your space, and your mind, to set clear intentions and ready yourself for what’s to come.

Only from THIS clarity can you really, in fairness, determine what’s most important to you and create an actual plan to implement what you’re resolving to DO about it. You need some time to sort it all out, to get your ducks in a row and set an executable plan into motion for the coming months and year … for HOW you’re going to actually CREATE your desired changes.

It’s too important to rush. 

Don’t blame yourself if you’ve been guilty of quitting on resolutions before you really start.

It’s not you. The cultural expectation of January 1st-resolution-setting is innately flawed. It sets you up to fail.

Premature resolution-setting, combined with a lack of a doable plan of action, and more often than not, without the right accountability team of support helping to ensure it happens – fine-tuning as needed along the way (because this too is part of actually DOING it)  – is, in large part, WHY most resolutions fail, almost as soon as they start!

Take a brule-breaking approach to planning out your new year with a refreshingly unconventional approach and strategic plan for a year of “thrival.” This is what will have you feeling grounded, organized, and excited about your “resolutions”… crystal clear about what you want and what to focus on next.

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Love, 

Applied Psychology Coach & author of The Brules of Life

My wish for you

My wish for you

Before sharing my wish for you, I need to also share that I used to think progress had to be hard and involve high-pressure changes, deadlines, and intensity.

Now I strive simply because I love the feeling of betterment.

This, I believe, is how you know you have shifted from Survival Mode to what I lovingly refer to as “Thrival” Mode.

Neither mode is wrong, or bad, or less valid, or less important. 

I have certainly created from both modes.

Goals that help you SURVIVE tend to bring a sense of relief and necessity. 

Goals that help you THRIVE tend to be enriching, expansive, and leave you wondering what else you can create.

This has been my experience, at least.

Thriving can take many forms. From relationships, to health, to career, to creativity, to finances, to how you spend your time…

I’m curious: What are your thoughts about the New Year? As you reflect on your goals, are they more centered around relief and necessity, or expansive creation and enrichment?

I am an advocate of nontraditional resolutions. 

One year – 2012 to be exact – my resolution was to drink more wine. To be clear, more drinking wasn’t the goal so much as it was a symbolic antidote to my having realized that I was taking myself and my life way too seriously.

There were times that year when I would realize, “oops! It’s been weeks since I’ve had any wine!” … and then would promptly remedy that situation. 😊 My “more wine” resolution represented the larger, overarching goal, and the true intention behind my resolution: living less in Survival Mode, and more in Thrival Mode.

It was a resolution to savor the good stuff, and to loosen up for cryin’-out-loud. (It worked.)

As basic as it sounds, recognizing that ‘savoring the good stuff’ is what people who thrive do … I wanted THAT.

For many of us – and for very good reasons – thriving doesn’t come easily. 

If life has taught you to be on guard, worried, careful, self-protective, defensive, armored, alert at all times … then it makes total sense that you’d have to learn how to thrive.

And like most learning curves, the process can be awkward. What seems “basic” to others may be a significant pattern interruption for a “thrival” newbie – one that requires real effort, frequent reminders, and significant shifts in thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors.

It is a normal part of any learning process for there to be some flailing and fumbling before new approaches and new experiences feel truly good.

If life has taught you that THRIVING involves letting your guard down in a way that feels unsettling, then it is totally understandable to feel like a fish out of water.

Even “savoring the good stuff” can feel strange, illogical, inconvenient – at first.

Surrounding yourself with the right support as you consciously recalibrate towards thriving, helps a lot. Having frequent reminders and personalized support as you make those shifts in beliefs and behaviors – as you establish a new normal – makes an enormous difference in helping to ensure that you don’t revert back to your old familiar ways.

Many, in an effort to avoid the work of making conscious shifts, or having to endure those awkward newbie moments, choose instead to just stay where they are. They default to Survival Mode because it’s what’s familiar, because it’s what’s KNOWN.

My wish for YOU is that 2024 is a Year of Thrival.

Refreshingly unlike anything else that I know of in the coaching/author space, I have created The Brule Breakers Club, a place where you get to PRACTICE fully implementing the learnings and the implementation process required to THRIVE.

You, of course, are welcome. I’ll be sharing more in the weeks to come about how to dig into your personal psychology and how to master the art of thriving…

But for now, I’m curious – do YOU have any unconventional resolutions for yourself this year?

Love,

Tara Sage

Applied Psychology Coach & Author of The Brules of Life

Before you set your New Year resolutions and life goals, do this simple Year in Review

YOUR YEAR-IN-REVIEW “Tips from Tara” Year-in-Review Video #1 (of 3): 

With the new year on the horizon, even despite the busy-ness of this time of year, it is *absolutely essential* that you give yourself space to review these past 12-months. In part 1 of my annual 3-part Year-In-Review video coaching series, I share a quick easy way to do just that!

This process allows you to gain enormous clarity and insight – not only about the closing year, it also supports you in getting crystal clear on your goals for the coming year.

What’s something that YOU have great appreciation for? Write down at least 3 things that you’re appreciative about from this closing year … and then stay tuned  for part 2 of this special 3-part series.

Here are 3 of my own things that I’m appreciative about:

1.) Tara Sage, Inc. did a website refresh, with lots of improvements and updates, to included the launch of a new 6-week program for those wanting to gain clarity on their vision, to see and know exactly what will bring deep satisfaction to every area of their life. It’s called the No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training and the feedback from those who’ve joined has been absolutely amazing!

2.) November 5th, 2022 marked our 5-year “Nomadiversary”! 🙂  Since November 2017, my partner, Carl, and I have been living nomadically as full-time RVers, traveling and working from the road. We absolutely love this lifestyle, love supporting and inspiring others to live this dream, and see no end in sight to continuing our nomadic journey.

3.) My book, The Brules of Life continues to reach readers around the world, and I am excited to share that I’ve begun writing pieces, pages, and even a few chapters, of what will be my next book! 

Get ready to realize YOUR biggest, boldest dreams in the coming year!  (Your link to part 2 is below.)

Enjoy! And … sharing is caring – so feel free to share!

May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate,

Tara Sage

Author, Coach, Speaker

 

>>>  Click here for Year in Review part 2!  <<<<

I’ve Been Called A Lot of Things

In a recent client session, we coached through a Big Belief Obstacle (a BBO): that personal worthiness is tied to others opinion of you. This can be a tough one to navigate. But, oh … clearing the cobwebs on this one to reveal the freedom that lies on other side is sooo worth it.  Self-permission and the freedom to live your life and to be fully and truly yourself is an awesome and priceless reward.

I personally have been called a lot of things over the years.  Some hurt. In contrast, others were so generous and kind, I had a hard time fully receiving them without deflection.

Amidst the wide spectrum of things I’ve been called, here are a few that I don’t contest: digital entrepreneur, master coach, possibility queen, writer, author, speaker, salsera, life hack pro, blanket hog … 🙂

If you’ve been following my journey, you know that I live full-time in an Airstream with my guy and our dog, traveling and working from the road. We’re love this lifestyle. Definitely one of the best decisions I’ve made for myself.

I am deeply passionate about the work I do, wanting all beings to make kick-ass decisions for their life based, of course, on their own dreams and goals. This is my mission and personal calling.  Since 2004, I am constantly amping things up in terms of the support I provide, the content I offer, and the ways I share my work, through a combination of IRL and URL.  

I’m committed to touch as many lives as possible with what I know creates rapid transformation and has an enormous impact on the human experience.

As a reader and member of my virtual community, I want to check in with you …

Are YOU ready for kick-ass results and high-level support as you embark on the exciting, sometimes tricky, at times intimidating, but immensely gratifying process of creating YOUR dream life?

If so, it’s high-time you and I talk. Especially if you’ve been a curious observer for a while. 

If you and I have never connected, it’s time we do, with a free session. (My gift to you.) Simply go to www.SessionwithTara.com and pick a time on my calendar. Book it now so it’s in place for you. I love connecting with people from my community. (If you’re already a client, please consider sharing this with someone you think could benefit from this kind of support.)

Actions speak louder than words.

Behavior modification is my specialty, applying my Holistic Leadership MA, my Psychology BA, and extensive work experience. Truth be told, talking and thinking about doing something is one thing … but aligned action is what makes the real difference.

If you’re tired of “maybe someday” … put action and a proven process to work for you on behalf of YOUR dreams, resolutions, deepest desires, and highest goals.

Let’s talk. We  will explore the possibilities together and determine the best strategy forward for you. Claim your session here: www.SessionWithTara.com

Cheers!

To your success,

 

Tara Sage

Master Coach, Possibility Queen, Author, Speaker, Nomad, Salsera, Life Hack Pro, Location-independent business owner.