The difference between surviving and thriving

The difference between surviving and thriving

One key is to BECOME an embodiment of the person who LIVES your dreams, who HAS your dreams, who knows it’s certain and steps into that, day after day.

You must ‘self actualize.’

What do I mean by self-actualization?

Self-actualization is not an arrival. It’s not a fixed point. It is not a place at all. It’s an expression. It’s an evolutionary unfolding. A process of not only becoming, but creating your life to reflect that becoming.

The fullness and manifestation of self-actualization can be measured by how much of your life mirrors the magnificent, embodied, unapologetic, expression of YOU that you have become.

Your life is either full of evidence of a high degree of self-actualization, or it is full of evidence of a high degree of self-abandonment. This is a spectrum that leaves little room for gray because your emotional guidance will tell you clearly which one it is.

While not a fixed arrival point, self-actualization will bring countless savory moments when you kick back, drink in your life, and say to yourself, “f*ck yes.”

“This is MY life and I adore living it. I am so incredibly proud of everything I’ve created and how I’ve grown and what I’ve learned in order to get HERE. And now, here I am. I am here. Here is good, and luscious and I love it. I am SAVORING this delicious waking moment … because it is beautiful. Not perfect, mind you, but utterly aligned nonetheless. Beautiful in its unique-to-me expression, and in this, I also acknowledge my own beauty and imperfect perfection. Gratitude for this one incredible life fills my soul, created as only I could, as the one and only me. This life is so on point and I am lit from within about it, while also excited and inspired about all that’s in process and all that I’m creating next because I know that, it too, will only heighten this expression, this beingness, catching up with the latest parts of me that are surfacing and igniting the next levels of my expression. And should I die today, I will do so knowing I died happy, delighted, and inspired.”

When you look at your life and see the many many ways it reflects the beauty and truth of who you are … that’s your evidence of self-actualization .

Nothing is more gratifying.

It’s the kind of joy that fills you up, that lights you from within.

In contrast to this, when you look at your life and think “no, this isn’t right’ ‘I feel trapped’ ‘this isn’t the real me’ ‘I don’t want to do it this way’ ‘how did I get here and how do I get out’ ‘this doesn’t align’ ‘this isn’t who I am’ ‘this isn’t it for me’ ‘‘where the heck is the I in this life I have?’ ‘how do I get where I’m meant to be’ ‘I wish someone would save me’ ‘I’m so tired’ ‘my soul aches’ ‘when does my life rise up to greet me and welcome me home, to myself?’… then (obviously) this is not ideal. It absolutely sucks. I know because I’ve been there. To stay, to keep going, to keep doing the same things in the same ways for another day, perhaps with the same people, is one more day of self-abandonment.

^ This is the polar opposite of self-actualization.

Spoiler alert! Your life will always be lagging a bit behind your becoming. Since as long as you’re alive you’re creating, there’s always more to recalibrate and adjust to best reflect what you’ve discovered or revealed or uncovered about your beingness. There’s simply no way around this.

BUT – when you’re in a space of confident self-actualization even the lag time feels welcomed, glorious even, because the process of creation is an art form that you enjoy.

You know that arrival is a myth, and that evolution is ongoing.

You embrace and delight in the unfolding and trust the outcomes completely.

You are not suffering or surviving in the interim.

You are engaged and inspired.

You are alive in the ALL of it.

You are thriving.

There is always more to discover, create, and be. As you seek on a quest for a meaningful, joyful, impactful, satisfying, successful life (one that you aren’t aching to escape to Bora Bora about) … it’s an expanding spiral upward, a helix of becoming who you are meant to be, self-actualizing and living a life that is so aligned and joyful it IS the expression of the WHO that you’ve become. And as you become that WHO even more, new levels of desire are revealed and deepened, and expansion and new possibilities become possible for you.

Tara Sage

PS – If you are ready to become the person who LIVES your dreams, apply now for my FREE Top Shelf Session with Tara Assessment, a 1:1 conversation where you will gain clarity on your dreams and how they reflect and empower the person you are becoming, insight into what’s been holding you back, and a renewed sense of hope about how to courageously break free of obstacles to achieve what you want with a customized strategic plan for your desired future.

PPS – Not quite ready to talk about actually living those dreams? Not sure what your dream life even would LOOK like? I have something for that too.

 

What stopped you this year?

What stopped you this year?

Naysayers have an unfortunate amount of influence over whether you live your dreams, for this one reason: Your own self-doubt.

How often do we do something, not do something, or change how we do something because of what people say? Or even what we THINK people will say?

Deferring to others is a symptom of innate self-doubt. And when the people you’re deferring to are naysayers or people who don’t want to see you make any changes, it can be the nail in the coffin for your dreams.

I know it may sound like I’m being overly dramatic. But unfortunately, in many cases, this is exactly what happens.

When people don’t receive approval or support from others about their dreams, it’s often at this very moment that their dreams die on the vine.

What can make naysayer navigation doubly hard is when it comes from the voices close to us.

This is why – if you want to not just dream, but LIVE those dreams – building self-trust and self-mastery is imperative.

Because when we fully trust OURSELVES and our own vision and desires, and when we trust ourselves to ACT and to BE, the words and opinions of naysayers, don’t stop us. We live our dreams.

It’s also why it’s so important to have a naysayer navigation plan so that the dreams in your heart don’t wither up like a raisin in the sun.

Look, if this stuff was easy everyone would do it!

The key is to align yourself with the right support while you grow in your ability to trust yourself. When you do this, you are strengthening the very foundation that your dreams and goals are built on: YOU.

While doubts and questions are normal and natural, most people stop right there.

But – this is 100% preventable. With the right support in your corner, this won’t happen because when doubts pop up, we bust through them right away. As we face each doubt and obstacle together, you’ll gain a growing sense of bravery, confidence, and self-trust. When old habits and default ways of thinking start sneaking their way back in and seem so real, together we will shine a light of TRUTH on those doubts and naysayer opinions and recognize and reconnect to what YOU want so you can step back into how you can create it.

It’s hard, sometimes even impossible, to do it alone.

Sticking with it, investing in support, and staying with the process are what is going to really set you apart .

Want to work with me? Apply now for my free Top Shelf Assessment Call.

Together, we’ll build that self-trust and self-mastery so that you can finally realize the life you are wanting.

Big love,

Tara Sage

 

A Love Note From Your Deepest Desires

Take a quiet moment. Pause, for juuuust a quick moment, now, and take a few breaths. Connect to that place inside you where your deepest dreams and desires reside, where your imagination speaks. Have a peek. Have a listen.

Journey in and lock eyes for a single delicious moment with a longing that is palpable within you. It’s there. It’s always there, waiting for you to pay attention. The real dreams don’t go away. They wait.

Hold in your mind’s eye a vision of what makes your heart skip a beat and turns up the brightness on the light from within. Set aside needing to know HOW to make it happen, for now. Resist “the how hole”. Just let yourself see it, know it, and want it. Remind yourself that within our vast Universe of Possibility, you couldn’t even dream your dream if it was utterly impossible. Believe in it, even and especially if you have no freakin’ clue how to make it so.

Whenever you choose, you can go right back to being skeptical and jaded and overwhelmed. But, first, like a sexy soul who catches your eye from across a room, for a sliiiiight moment longer than is comfortable, hold your gaze with what you want. Let it know that you see it – that you know it’s there, here, within you.

Give it a fist bump, or a wink of acknowledgement. Assure it that while it might be a secret to others, it is no secret to you. Let it know that its whispers aren’t falling on deaf ears. Thank it for all the ways it nudges you to grow and realize the truth of what you’re capable of. Honor it for challenging you to be a bigger bolder full-expression version of yourself. Give a wisdom-filled nod, with a certain knowing that dream realization is really about self-actualization.

If the grandeur of your boundless potential makes you blush, then blush. And breath. And keep imagining the possibilities. And keep visiting this place, again and again, because it’s always available and it’s always delighted and eager to connect with YOU. Give it love. The more love you give it, the better. Give it because you don’t want it to feel neglected. And give it because, when you do, your life gets easier and more joy-filled. Remind yourself that it’s okay for life to be easier and a whole lot more fun.

Good job. Ok, you can go back to whatever you were doing now. Or, if you’d like to journey further into this realm with personalized support and dream-propelling jet fuel, then you and I really should chat. If you can dream it, I can coach it. www.sessionwithTara.com

Big love,
Tara Sage
 
Master Coach, Possibility Queen, Author, Speaker, Nomad, Salsera, Location-independent boss lady.