Feel a bit like a bird in a cage ? Like your dreams and potential are cooped up?
Eager to spread your wings and fly free?
You’ve worked hard to get where you are in your life, career, relationships, family, home, finances, etc… but maybe some things just aren’t working or delivering the satisfaction and pride you thought they would and there’s a nagging sense that there’s got more to life than “this.”
You want to thrive.
You want your time to be your own.
You want full creative expression.
You want the freedom to do what you want, when you want.
You want to feel clear, confident, and capable of creating anything you want.
… BUT, as you consider making a change, your mind gets busy about predicting and wanting to plan for everything that could possibly go wrong.
As hopeful and determined as you are about creating the best and fastest path to what you want most, it’s a struggle to figure out what’s needed, how to get out of your own way, how to break the habits and patterns that aren’t helpful. And what tends to happen instead is, that cage becomes a great place for a much-needed nap!
In Video #2 of my No-Vacation-Needed Blueprint training, I drop Two Keys for you to unlock the door and set yourself free so that you can take the first steps to own the extraordinary power and influence you have over your life.
I love my coaching clients. I don’t love the coaching industry.
More than 16 years as a coach, I see so much in my industry that is problematic, unethical, or just plain false … all of which makes it incredibly hard for a prospective client to discern who the heck can actually help them.
This is deeply concerning to me.
But this article isn’t about that.
One common standard for success and measure of results-orientened coaching is dollars.
One problem with this is that true wealth is NOT measured in dollars. You don’t have to look far to find unhappy, stressed-out people with money. And more money is not their solution.
I coach my clients to create a no-vacation-needed life.
In doing this, I hold firm to the big picture dreams for their life. I remind us both periodically that a goal without a dream is a recipe for dissatisfaction, and that money alone does not a dream make.
This said, when money comes through aligned action – yeh!
Earning money doing work you love is cause for celebration – woot!
Successfully working smarter not harder is reason for a happy dance hoedown.
Two of my clients this week had big wins in this department and I am so friggin’ proud of them.
One client hired me to help her turn something she loves and “would do for free” into a business.
Yesterday was our kick-off session.
Step one in this realm requires understanding that the fact that you love doing something doesn’t in any way minimize the value it provides for others. By the end of our call, she had prices for her services and a plan to tell people about it.
Less than 24 hours later, she has two paying clients. Woot!
She said saying her price out loud was hard.It’ll get easier…
Another client of mine and I have been strategizing about how she can work smarter not harder in her business. The goal around building her business is to intentionally allow her more time-freedom. Yesterday we celebrated that AFTER paying a new team member, her business made $2240 off of that team member’s effort, with little to no time required from my client. Go girl!
We’re now putting wheels in motion for her to bring on yet another contractor and do it again, x2. Repeat, repeat, repeat, scaling her business by building her team so that my client can focus on bringing in new contracts and customer care, while her team does the bulk of the work.
One more …
Last week, another client wrote to me with this realization: “My business HAS provided me with the time and money freedom to pour into my family and to be the mother I want to be for my daughter. This makes me very, very happy, proud, and grateful.”
This is wealth. >>> Doing work you love, leveraging your time through team building, and feeling supported and able to really pour yourself into family and the people that mean the most to you.
Now, to be very clear, my clients created these results.
I merely coached them.
Their results are THEIRS.
Too often, I see coaches claim responsibility for their clients results. This is not only an act of hubris, it’s wrong. Especially when those very same coaches are first to say that they are not responsible for the lack of results that other clients of theirs received.
Anyway, I am really friggin’ proud of my clients and so honored to be able to contribute and serve and play a supporting role in their progress and success — as defined by them.
Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream? Now, I don’t mean a baby – but rather a dream that you KNOW you are meant to bring to life, to birth something that *if you don’t* you’ll always wonder what could have been…
In the words of Marianne Williamson “Each of us is pregnant with a better version of ourselves.”
So true. I know first-hand what it feels like to have dreams that scare the bejesus out of me, and to simultaneously know that I *MUST* bring them to life, despite my sometimes overwhelming fear. That’s why I wrote the book,Are You Pregnant With a Dream?
As life coach and founder of Create Your Life!, I know what it takes to go from Fear to Freedom, and I have coached hundreds, soon to be thousands, on the magic and momentum that takes hold when my 9-step Dream Acceleration(TM) Process gets activated.
In September 2013, after watching a YouTube video of Ms. Lisa Nichols speaking (she was in the movie The Secret, a Chicken Soup for the Soul author, founder of Motivating the Masses, and so much more…) a dream was activated in me: I wanted to meet her. Not in a celebrity-crazed-kind-of-way. But in a … this-woman-is-powerful-and-the-real-deal-and-I-feel-absolutely-compelled-to-do-whatever-I need-to-to-meet-and-talk-to-her kind of way. And, proof to the power of a dream-in-action, just two short months later, it happened!
Here are some “selfies” that Lisa Nichols and I took after a little heart-to-heart.
(Read more on what’s extra-special about THIS photo below.)
And here’s one of her working her magic on stage:
A quick aside about that second photo of us standing in front of the Lisa Nichols poster:
I noticed that, in the poster, she has braces on her teeth – and I asked her about it. Now, really, do you think she could have had that photoshopped out before blowing it up into a great big stand-on-it’s-own poster? Shoot. Let’s be honest … I would’ve!
Of course she could have! BUT – she had braces when the photo was taken, so that’s what’s in the picture. How’s THAT for a little window into how *REAL* this woman is. 🙂
It was a true honor and a privilege to not only meet her, but even more … after our off-stage connection, there was a moment (during the height of her guiding the room through a mind-blowing belief transformation process), that I SAW her. And – she saw me see her.
People were shouting and crying and doing all kinds of wild, free and full self-expression … an experience that left every person in that room forever changed …
She did what only the best speakers do: she got herself out of the way. And in that moment, I SAW HER, with tears in her eyes, as the room was divided into our small groups doing the exercise she had given us to do. She and I locked eyes. It’s was a pregnant pause. Beautiful beyond words. One that I will never forget it.
Thank you, Lisa Nichols. Thank you Universe of Possibility. It’s good to be alive. It’s not always easy – but it’s so so good… We are absolutely in this together.
So, again, may I ask … Are YOU Pregnant With a Dream?
May your dreams always inspire more than they intimidate.